I love women. And since I spent a lot of time either chasing, seducing or writing about them, I feel I have a pretty good grasp about what makes a woman truly perfect.
In no particular order, here are the characteristics of a perfect woman:
The perfect woman must be attractive
First and foremost, the perfect woman must be physically attractive. Humans are animals, so physical appearance is what always molds the first impression. Some say that physical attributes are subjective, and are really in the eye of the beholder, but I disagree. I think that they’re really objective: certain physical characteristics are always considered attractive by any man.
Some men like to rate attractiveness on a scale, but I’m a simple man: in my world, a woman is either attractive or not; she’s either pretty or average; she’s either “I gotta talk to her” or “nah, I’ll pass.” If I see a woman, and I just can’t peel my eyes of her, as hard as I try, she’s attractive in my book.
Coupled with an attractive face, she must have an attractive body, too. The body should be slim, but not too slim that she looks bulimic, with her rib cage bones protruding out. I’m also breast man, so I like my woman to have a nice pair of breasts, which don’t need to be enormous. A nice ass and legs are a bonus but not requirements.
The perfect woman must be confident
Physical attractiveness is only one side of the coin; mental attractiveness via confidence is the other. Combine an attractice women with confidence, and you have an unbeatable human being who can conquer the world and help you do the same. Confidence is one of the best—if not the best trait that a human can have.
Confidence is a woman’s way of projecting that she knows exactly what she’s doing out in the world. She’s self-assured that she doesn’t give a shit what you or anyone else thinks. It also an instant reflection that she knows—and is ready to leverage—her intrinsically high value. Just like there’s nothing more attractive than a confident man, nothing can beat an attractive and confident woman.
The perfect woman must be feminine
Long ago, we didn’t even need to discuss or debate this; saying that a woman must be feminine was as absurd as buying a car and specifying that you want the “steering wheel option.” However, nowadays, women come with all sorts of personalities, so, as men, we must be explicit with our requirements in what we seek in a woman.
Femininity means that the woman doesn’t act like a man: less sarcasm, less ball-busting remarks, and less trying to outcompete with the men themselves. Essentially it means a woman should behave like a woman. Even the most physically attractive woman instantly losses major points if she’s acting like the manliest man. Not only is femininity a woman’s gift to the world, it also provides a counterbalance to a man’s strong masculinity.
The perfect woman must be intelligent
Looks are what initially attract a man to a woman, but her intelligence keeps him coming back for more. She doesn’t have to have a Ph.D. in advanced mathematics, but a good grasp of common and practical sense is usually more than enough. Intelligence can be either of the street or book variety: either of each is equally attractive.
Intelligent and clever men respect intelligent and clever women. It duly sets the woman apart in a sea of similarly attractive women who have no outside interests besides constantly checking what their friends are sharing on the social networking sites. Furthermore, if a woman lacks intelligence, then there’s only one other reason why a man is keeping her around — but that will get real old, real quick.
The perfect woman must be mature
Since women generally mature quicker than men, this is usually not a problem. But something changed in the past couple of decades that resulted in women becoming more and more immature. It’s a strange and erratic experience to meet an attractive woman in her mid 30s only to have her acting like someone in her early 20s (or younger). That’s not a woman; that’s simply a girly girl. She’s like an unripe fruit, childish, confused and gullible.
Maturity is a trait that only comes via experience. It can’t be easily faked. It’s the reward you get for transcending certain obstacles that were in the way of your dreams and ambitions. An immature girl is someone who never tried, never suffered, and, as a result, never left her childhood behind. It’s someone who hasn’t lived. No experience, no growth and no maturity. She can be a nice girl, but she’ll never be a perfect woman.
The perfect woman must be semi-independent
Successful sovereign men are ruthlessly independent by nature. They are highly focused, constantly carving out their piece of the pie while building their empires. Thus, it’s no surprise that such men strongly despise clingy people, whether that’s other men or women. A clingy woman might be a good match for a clingy man, but she will absolutely drive away any man with even a stench of ambition.
There’s something wrong if a woman must be constantly by her man’s side. Perhaps that means she doesn’t have a social circle of her own, fully independent of him and his friends. Maybe she is a social recluse who doesn’t know how to form social connections, or is simply not liked by anyone else. It can also be a canary in a coal mine for graver problems just down the road.
The perfect woman must be semi-independent. She must have her own goals and ambitions. She must have her own friends. The only thing that’s preventing an all out independence is loyalty to her man (see below).
The perfect woman must be loyal
I know guys love going for easy women. That was me — maybe ten years ago. Nowadays, I’ve come to respect a woman’s bitch shield. I understand that today I can be hitting on a woman with a boyfriend, but tomorrow that boyfriend can be me with some other smooth player hitting on my girl.
Loyalty is one of my favorite human traits. One can be loyal to a cause or to another person. One of the sexiest things that a woman can possess is loyalty to her man. That means she has values and is stands for something for concrete and static instead of blindly following her emotions for any new guy comes along, which doesn’t require much effort. Loyalty means she knows how to think logically instead of being held captive by her whimsical emotions.
Popular culture is busy portraying women who are perpetually free from any commitments, and are sleeping with anyone who catches their eyes. I don’t find such behavior sexy at all; in fact, it personifies a woman that no man will ever take seriously. After all, if a woman can’t be loyal, then there’s no reason to invest anything like time and money in such woman: she’ll just pickup and leave at the next available opportunity. Easy come, easy go.
The perfect woman must be decisive
If there’s something that can piss off a man as much as an overly dependent or clingy woman, it’s a woman who can’t decide anything when faced with the most trivial choices, like picking a cheese in a supermarket.
Long ago I dated a nice girl who had the biggest challenge making even the most minor decisions. Her favorite response when left to her own devices was always: “it’s up to you.” That was over eleven years ago, but her foolish indecisiveness is now permanently etched into my cerebral neurons.
As a man, I hereby accept the responsibly for taking the biggest risks and making the important decisions, like choosing where to build a new power plant or what small country to conquer. But I also like—and feel that I’m entitled—to come home and have the woman be freely able to decide what color towels to buy or what meat to cook for dinner.