8 Traits Of A Perfect Woman


I love women. And since I spent a lot of time either chasing, seducing or writing about them, I feel I have a pretty good grasp about what makes a woman truly perfect.

In no particular order, here are the characteristics of a perfect woman:

The perfect woman must be attractive

First and foremost, the perfect woman must be physically attractive. Humans are animals, so physical appearance is what always molds the first impression. Some say that physical attributes are subjective, and are really in the eye of the beholder, but I disagree. I think that they’re really objective: certain physical characteristics are always considered attractive by any man.

Some men like to rate attractiveness on a scale, but I’m a simple man: in my world, a woman is either attractive or not; she’s either pretty or average; she’s either “I gotta talk to her” or “nah, I’ll pass.” If I see a woman, and I just can’t peel my eyes of her, as hard as I try, she’s attractive in my book.

Coupled with an attractive face, she must have an attractive body, too. The body should be slim, but not too slim that she looks bulimic, with her rib cage bones protruding out. I’m also breast man, so I like my woman to have a nice pair of breasts, which don’t need to be enormous. A nice ass and legs are a bonus but not requirements.

The perfect woman must be confident

Physical attractiveness is only one side of the coin; mental attractiveness via confidence is the other.  Combine an attractice women with confidence, and you have an unbeatable human being who can conquer the world and help you do the same. Confidence is one of the best—if not the best trait that a human can have.

Confidence is a woman’s way of projecting that she knows exactly what she’s doing out in the world. She’s self-assured that she doesn’t give a shit what you or anyone else thinks. It also an instant reflection that she knows—and is ready to leverage—her intrinsically high value. Just like there’s nothing more attractive than a confident man, nothing can beat an attractive and confident woman.

The perfect woman must be feminine

Long ago, we didn’t even need to discuss or debate this; saying that a woman must be feminine was as absurd as buying a car and specifying that you want the “steering wheel option.” However, nowadays, women come with all sorts of personalities, so, as men, we must be explicit with our requirements in what we seek in a woman.

Femininity means that the woman doesn’t act like a man: less sarcasm, less ball-busting remarks, and less trying to outcompete with the men themselves. Essentially it means a woman should behave like a woman. Even the most physically attractive woman instantly losses major points if she’s acting like the manliest man. Not only is femininity a woman’s gift to the world, it also provides a counterbalance to a man’s strong masculinity.

The perfect woman must be intelligent

Looks are what initially attract a man to a woman, but her intelligence keeps him coming back for more. She doesn’t have to have a Ph.D. in advanced mathematics, but a good grasp of common and practical sense is usually more than enough. Intelligence can be either of the street or book variety: either of each is equally attractive.

Intelligent and clever men respect intelligent and clever women. It duly sets the woman apart in a sea of similarly attractive women who have no outside interests besides constantly checking what their friends are sharing on the social networking sites. Furthermore, if a woman lacks intelligence, then there’s only one other reason why a man is keeping her around — but that will get real old, real quick.

The perfect woman must be mature

Since women generally mature quicker than men, this is usually not a problem. But something changed in the past couple of decades that resulted in women becoming more and more immature. It’s a strange and erratic experience to meet an attractive woman in her mid 30s only to have her acting like someone in her early 20s (or younger). That’s not a woman; that’s simply a girly girl. She’s like an unripe fruit, childish, confused and gullible.

Maturity is a trait that only comes via experience. It can’t be easily faked. It’s the reward you get for transcending certain obstacles that were in the way of your dreams and ambitions. An immature girl is someone who never tried, never suffered, and, as a result, never left her childhood behind. It’s someone who hasn’t lived. No experience, no growth and no maturity. She can be a nice girl, but she’ll never be a perfect woman.

The perfect woman must be semi-independent

Successful sovereign men are ruthlessly independent by nature. They are highly focused, constantly carving out their piece of the pie while building their empires. Thus, it’s no surprise that such men strongly despise clingy people, whether that’s other men or women. A clingy woman might be a good match for a clingy man, but she will absolutely drive away any man with even a stench of ambition.

There’s something wrong if a woman must be constantly by her man’s side. Perhaps that means she doesn’t have a social circle of her own, fully independent of him and his friends. Maybe she is a social recluse who doesn’t know how to form social connections, or is simply not liked by anyone else. It can also be a canary in a coal mine for graver problems just down the road.

The perfect woman must be semi-independent. She must have her own goals and ambitions. She must have her own friends. The only thing that’s preventing an all out independence is loyalty to her man (see below).

The perfect woman must be loyal

I know guys love going for easy women. That was me — maybe ten years ago. Nowadays, I’ve come to respect a woman’s bitch shield. I understand that today I can be hitting on a woman with a boyfriend, but tomorrow that boyfriend can be me with some other smooth player hitting on my girl.

Loyalty is one of my favorite human traits. One can be loyal to a cause or to another person. One of the sexiest things that a woman can possess is loyalty to her man. That means she has values and is stands for something for concrete and static instead of blindly following her emotions for any new guy comes along, which doesn’t require much effort. Loyalty means she knows how to think logically instead of being held captive by her whimsical emotions.

Popular culture is busy portraying women who are perpetually free from any commitments, and are sleeping with anyone who catches their eyes. I don’t find such behavior sexy at all; in fact, it personifies a woman that no man will ever take seriously. After all, if a woman can’t be loyal, then there’s no reason to invest anything like time and money in such woman: she’ll just pickup and leave at the next available opportunity. Easy come, easy go.

The perfect woman must be decisive

If there’s something that can piss off a man as much as an overly dependent or clingy woman, it’s a woman who can’t decide anything when faced with the most trivial choices, like picking a cheese in a supermarket.

Long ago I dated a nice girl who had the biggest challenge making even the most minor decisions. Her favorite response when left to her own devices was always: “it’s up to you.” That was over eleven years ago, but her foolish indecisiveness is now permanently etched into my cerebral neurons.

As a man, I hereby accept the responsibly for taking the biggest risks and making the important decisions, like choosing where to build a new power plant or what small country to conquer. But I also like—and feel that I’m entitled—to come home and have the woman be freely able to decide what color towels to buy or what meat to cook for dinner.

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BJJ May 28, 2014 - 2:23 pm

Hey Maverick , im a brazilian 23yo. I found your blog a few months ago
and since that time i’ve been reading your posts. And is very nice to
see that you enjoy our country. You’re living the dream man , travels ,
hot women and wisdom but one thing thats not clear for me, where’s the
money come from ? Im just curious cause i hope that one day i could live
like this.
PS.: Sorry for my bad english , im studying to get better.

Maverick Traveler May 28, 2014 - 3:54 pm

Hey BJJ,

Most of the work I do is remote (consulting for clients), so I can work pretty much anywhere there’s an Internet connection.

Lifeontheflip May 28, 2014 - 3:46 pm

Well said Mav… I’ll take shapely legs & ass over breasts but that’s my nuance to an otherwise perfectly stated list of qualities. I especially like your comments on she ‘must be feminine’. I date in Chicago (presently) and 99.99% of women here are masculine. Even their voices are deeper in Chicago vs Dallas, TX (I used to live there and miss it).

Maverick Traveler May 28, 2014 - 3:53 pm

Thanks man. Yeah, I knew there are some guys that prefer legs and ass over breasts. Also, you should go to Brazil; you’re going to love the women there.

kelish5 January 21, 2016 - 11:17 am

ass a women i find that extremely offensive we ass women like to know that guys like us for our personalities and not our asses

ST July 17, 2017 - 5:35 pm

Unfortunately, they don’t. If you want to fully understand it, read an evolutionary biology book.

Wokjak April 11, 2019 - 5:25 pm

unfortunately, humans are collectively on a higher level of consciousness than the average animal and have more sense than to be ruled by their “instincts”, pal.

allbs June 17, 2014 - 12:49 am

What? Chicago has the most amount of polish people outside of Warsaw. Polish women aren’t masculine at all. Not to mention all the mexicans too. Not sure what part of Chicago you’re from, but Chicago has options, aside from the horrible weather.

Anactualwoman December 16, 2015 - 3:30 pm

Oh dear god…
This is the biggest mound of apsolute rubbish that I have ever had the misfortune to stumble across in my entire time on the internet.
This whole’acticle

James Maverick January 20, 2016 - 2:36 am

Thanks for your comment.

Zachary November 29, 2016 - 5:58 pm

You aren’t “sexist”, don’t listen to them. I agree with your entire article and I think the word “sexist” is overused.

Kate July 5, 2016 - 6:49 pm

Ikr this is sexist and offensive i only read it because I thought it was a different intention.this is ridiculous

Marleigh April 2, 2019 - 12:32 am

@Kate I agree. This is some sexist, misogynistic bullshit.

kittendelight July 5, 2014 - 8:06 am

So really what you mean by “the women are masculine” is that they are all more successful than you and make you feel emasculated? There is no way your statement is even remotely accurate.

Hencredible Casanova May 28, 2014 - 5:28 pm

Brilliant. I truly identified with this post.

Wokjak April 11, 2019 - 5:27 pm

username checks out.

kittendelight June 3, 2014 - 12:00 pm

I fit all these qualities but, frankly, I find what I’ve read on your blog so far to be somewhat narrow-minded and uneducated. You generalise women so easily and you claim they are “easy” but what about men?? How is THAT fair? You seem to subscribe to this archaic and false idea that women want to be dominated by men. As a dominant personality myself I find pursuers appealing purely because I tend to be the more bold one in regards to men and it would be nice for someone to initiate, for a change. I feel this way about people in general, not just men, so I would be incredibly offended if you were to suggest I want to be dominated by a man just because I’m a woman. PLEASE, I like to dominate equally as much.
I’d love a man to be equally as dominant as me since I don’t meet men who are like that, not because I’m some kind of passive, vulnerable woman. The kind of aggressive men I do meet are the BAD kind of aggressive.
Going for what you like/want is not the same as harassing someone or making them uncomfortable…
You basically make women out to be passive and your recollection of “the girl who almost got away” might seem all masculine and dominant from your perspective but how do we know what her experience was? Maybe it felt like coerced, rapey sex to her?

All Points Bulletin July 5, 2014 - 5:13 am

Quite frankly, I didn’t know the guy was dating men, so I doubt such advice would be forthcoming.

The problem with your dominant approach is that a masculine guy is disgusted by you. Hence, why you are stuck initiating with less assertive men. I am pretty sure you have thought this through,since you do admit that the only men you do find are even more aggressive than you.

Basically, for a more dominant man to be in your life, he’d have to wear a flack jacket and carry live ammo around you. Only the most gung-ho do that 24/7.

Then you fell off into jibber-jabber and shit I am not going into.

kittendelight July 5, 2014 - 8:00 am

A masculine guy is “disgusted” by me? Hmm ok then. So what I’m seeing here is that you are performing some kind of analysis of some of what I’ve said but you’ve just provided a cliched response that doesn’t seem to really respond to what I’ve said anyway.

Not once did I say I prefer someone “more aggressive” than myself. In fact I specifically referred to an EQUALLY dominant personality and I also referred to aggression negatively.
The only kind of man who is “disgusted” by an assertive and confident woman is not masculine at all. That is hardly a masculine trait, who actually believes that?

Flack jacket and live ammo? lol! Dude. What the hell do you think a dominant personality means?? I’m hardly going to take someone who refers to my words as “jibber-jabber” seriously.

Nick July 14, 2014 - 5:29 pm

Men and women are not “equal”. Your desire for an “equally dominant personality” is a contradiction. For one person to be dominant, the other has to be submissive. You even write that you want a “pursuer”, to “initiate”, these are traits of a dominant, alpha male. There’s nothing “false” or “archaic” about feminine women wanting to submit to masculine men. Women who pretend to want to be equal to men in a relationship are universally miserable.

kittendelight July 15, 2014 - 12:02 am

“pretend to want to be equal to men” because women like inequality!? What’s archaic is your uninformed attitude. Contrary to popular belief, or whatever it is you are putting forward, relationships involve various power plays and don’t just involve one person always being dominant and the other submissive. Have you actually bothered to research this topic? I have! Also you mistake my desire to be pursued as an indicator of wanting to be dominated when in fact it’s simply that i am the dominant one and I’m up for a change and a challenge. Does this make me a less dominant personality? No. Do you not understand that one does not have to be dominant 100% of the time? Most men aren’t alphas anyway so there lies another problem with your idea. Alpha females aren’t. “universally miserable”, they are usually very successful in various facets of life but they are perceived as a threat to all which can be problematic. You know who are universally miserable? People who are walked all over, who pretend to be someone else. You’ll also find many men would like women to make the first move which is evidence of social change.
my desire to be pursued is more about seeing what people are like, what they can offer me, than being dominated. If i submit to anything it’s by choice, because sometimes it’s fucking tiring being the leader all the time.

Nick July 15, 2014 - 3:03 am

The best “research” for this topic is experience. Women don’t want weak men who consider them “equals” it’s hard wired it’s not a choice. We’re not talking about slavery here, but your own “desire to be pursued” is your primal nature at work. “Dominance” is not “oppression”. Biology trumps “social change” every time. Check out Rollo Tomassis blog for many more insights: http://therationalmale.com/2012/08/29/year-one/ It sounds like you’re searching for someone more dominant than you, good luck if you live in America. Even dominant men don’t want women as competitors.

kittendelight July 15, 2014 - 9:26 am

Is that so? Since experience is the best research i assume mine is equally as valid as yours! Especially because i know what i want. Biology is impacted by social change!! Do you not think the acceptance of interracial couples affected biology? There are not enough alphas to go around, isn’t that obvious? You seem to have a narrow view of what a dominant personality is. It doesn’t mean an inability to ever submit. We all submit to others! In some way. The thing is that how much of the ideal masculinity is exaggerated? I can defend myself, and have and will. What i don’t like is cowardly behaviour in men or women and even alphas can behave that way. You have a really primitive idea of what an alpha is. Yes biologically women are drawn to taller men but our consciousness allow a challenge. It’s that i don’t want someone very submissive because I’ll walk all over them. Maybe i do need someone more dominant than me, but if you think that would be hard to find doesn’t that suggest most males are betas? Not everyone is threatened by me, some are immediately enticed.

Nick July 15, 2014 - 10:52 am

What does femininity mean to you?

BlacksheepTony July 30, 2014 - 1:37 pm

Notice she didnt answer that question, takes too much thinkin

mmm May 17, 2019 - 4:04 pm

Ever heard of a ‘Switch’?

ST July 18, 2017 - 9:01 am

What is your age please.

Guest June 14, 2014 - 4:25 pm

*Chris Brown voice* These hoes ain’t loyal

Jinny June 25, 2016 - 7:52 pm

I think its importnat to not to women reading this is that mens preferences for women are not all the same. Infact there is huge variance so dont feel shit if you dont meet this one mans preference for a great woman. 🙂

Kristin November 15, 2016 - 4:19 am

Can’t turn a whore into a husband 😉

Dessislava Jeleva June 30, 2014 - 3:06 pm

I agree with most of your points (I would be extremely happy if my guy friends could find women like this), but I’m not sure what you mean by “being feminine”?

I’m not a feminist. But I just feel physically sick if someone is opening the door for me. When I need help, I say so. I’m not a baby and I don’t like being treated like one.

Also, I’m a sports fan. I’ve watched religiously all the World Cups since 1998. I love tennis and I love fast cars (Formula 1 in particular). This means that I usually find it difficult to communicate with a typical “girly girl.” I don’t like talking about lipsticks and mascaras.

Does this make me not feminine?

Anon December 4, 2014 - 10:04 pm

Your taste in sports does not make or break your femininity. In my opinion, a large part of it is “submissiveness”, for lack of a better word. Don’t interpret this to mean you should let a man demean or take advantage of you for the sake of your “femininity”. Rather, it means you should let a man be a man; if he wants to open doors for you or buy you drinks, take it as a token of his appreciation and desire for you, not as a move to insult you or imply that you are inept or a “baby”. Yes, there are assholes in the world, and it is your right to stand up for yourself, but if a guy is being chivalrous and not being a dick about it, let him.

James Maverick January 20, 2016 - 2:39 am

Great points there. Very well said.

Angry girl November 30, 2014 - 6:07 pm

Hey as a girl i’m reading all theese things you write and i have to say that some of them were helpfull but some others were just bullshit. Like the traits of a perfect woman. I mean what the fuck are you saying man? You guys won’t accept any “imperfect” woman? That’s funny cause you are a bunch of probably ugly fat ass assholes with no humour or inteligence. Trust me if the perfect woman exists she won’t even fuck with some losers like you you just sit behind the screen of their computers and are talking shit about women. And you maverick or whatever the fuck your name is stop treating women like objects you’re suck a dick i hate you!

Anon December 4, 2014 - 9:51 pm

If we are talking about a PERFECT woman, I think you have left out a key component; she must be sexually passionate. It’s happened to me a few rare times where a beautiful, intelligent, and dynamic woman outside of the bedroom somehow turns into a sack of potatoes when the clothes come off. I was so, so disappointed. Conversely, a girl of middling looks and less than spirited personality can increase her attractiveness considerably by being sexually voracious.

James Maverick January 20, 2016 - 2:38 am

That’s a good point. Sexually passionate is definitely important.

Daisy July 17, 2016 - 6:39 pm

Woman are not meant to be your sex slaves

Wokjak April 11, 2019 - 5:34 pm

also, notice how he only emphasizes one side of the coin.

Amsterdam January 13, 2015 - 6:48 am

A decisive woman means that she’ll cut you off without a doubt, for thinking her talents are home decoration and meat picking? Come on, the perfect independent woman has her own money to hire people to do the groceries. Women make important decisions daily, while also being everything else the world expects of them. A real (perfect) man should know his place and be glad to be in our company.

Anon January 14, 2015 - 6:53 am

This is dumb.

Milos Constaninescu February 21, 2015 - 9:40 pm

This is long as far as comments go, but I tried to be concise.

Attractiveness- Yes attractiveness= health and happiness (For both of us) and that is very good, but I often prefer a face that’s more cute than regally beautiful. Think of the girl “Ryzhik” from the Woman You Won’t Find in the West interview, though I would guess she has all of these characteristics.

Confidence- This goes with decisiveness and intelligence, and it’s extremely important for a woman to have all three. Women should find a man with a cause that she believes in and do all she can to support it. I will find a woman who can be my companion, advisor, and overall trusted sidekick, and you can’t trust a stupid unconfident person to make any important decisions.

Mature- Yes, this goes with semi-independent. She should be independent when I find her, especially if she’s living in a first-world country like the USA or Western Europe. None of that living with roommates shit.

Loyalty- Yes, goes with maturity. During childhood you should develop a sense of what you want, and if a woman truly wants to be a loner, well I probably won’t meet her anyway! but if I do meet her and she becomes my girlfriend, I expect her to look out for me and only me like any good sidekick. What good is Robin if he leaves Batman to go flirt with some girl when he should be planting a bomb in some villain’s lair (I have no idea what happens in comic books)

Bonus*Humility- This, like all of the above traits, are those that every member of both sexes should strive to have. I know I’m not perfect and I’ll have bad days, make bad decisions, maybe life will be hard for weeks or months at a time. But what else is a sidekick for? After all, no sane man would want to stay with me while I go through the trials and errors of life, that’s what women do, and no one can truly be independent, it’s against human nature to fly solo.

Conclusion- I like this blog. A lot. It has integrity, honesty, and humor. It’s a hell of a lot better than the Roosh blog, as that guy seems like he’s just as bitter as the feminists he despises. You, Maverick don’t seem to be subscribing to that point of view. Just don’t get to cocky. Father time has a withered, decrepit bodysuit and flaccid phallus for every man on this earth, and you’ll need a wife who’ll stay with you through it all just as much as she will need you. Stop chasing pussy, put down some roots, find a cause outside of yourself. That’s my advice to you, as the most content old men (and women) I’ve known have had a few beloved grandchildren, a house/neighborhood/country they were proud to call their home, and a partner whom they loved and had become their second half.
You always talk about conquering fear of rejection, inadequacy, the things that come from taking risks, so take the leap of making these ultimate choices that will benefit you in your last days.

Regards, Milos

James Maverick January 20, 2016 - 2:38 am

Thanks Milos. Great comment!

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Mo$ March 18, 2015 - 10:02 am

As a woman I enjoyed this article. I have a lot of guy friends and I think that women who don’t understand most men would be offended by this.

However, with all our societal changes, the perfect image of Marilyn Monroe’s femininity is still our Western ideal of womanhood.

Every man and woman have a different ideal. We must be realistic though, if you want someone better than you, one has to change to get it, or else settle.

Not every woman has the ability to embody the perfect woman, just like every man isn’t Cary Grant, Gregory Peck or Brad Pitt. That is what makes them so special and rare.

James Maverick January 20, 2016 - 2:39 am

Finally, a woman actually gets it!

Offended Girl April 10, 2015 - 11:38 am

I read your article… Really if you believe these are the traits of a perfect women then you are highly mistaken.. You have no idea what a perfect women is.. You cliched every characteristic of a woman.. All you sub headings are contributing in a way but the explanation you wrote were extremely offending.. I mean if slim body and attractive face could make your girl perfect then no survivor of an acid attack could ever be perfect in her life.. I really think you should change the title of article to “8 traits of a perfect women for me” and not generalize because all men and no women is as narrow minded as you are in your article..

James Maverick January 20, 2016 - 2:37 am

Why do you feel so offended?

Bena May 21, 2016 - 12:36 pm

Because not every women can live up to your standards but they have a good heart and needs to be loved too. That is why blogs like this does no good. It separates us instead of bringing us together. It makes a women or man focus more on their faults which they had nothing to do with and this keeps manifesting itself into their lives. People should have the freedom to be who they want to be and feel good about it

Irish Nutter April 15, 2017 - 7:15 am

Hence the “Perfect”.

ST July 18, 2017 - 8:50 am

Cliche’s come from somewhere, do they not? Do they not hold truth?

It’s really sad of someone is a victim of an acid attack. But no, she can lo longer be perfect in her life. Does a peacock with half it’s plummage missing from an attack get mates?

It’s a harsh reality, but unfortunately it’s true.

Mona December 1, 2015 - 2:21 pm

I’ve found your article by fortune, and i’ve read it out of curiosity… Some women say they’re offended, well to me.. it is just sad and pisses me off. I dont personnaly mean that to you as a person, but in general. This whole concept of “being perfect”, like there was one archetype, one and only ideal and if you do not fulfill this criterias you’re out ! I mean come on it makes no sense. “women should be like this” and oh “like that” … Women are not born to please a man ! They are here to express who they are as any human being. By reading this article and hearing plenty of comments of that subject, it seems like picking an item in the supermarket ! “i want this, in that color, not to bright, this height, this size.. there you go it is perfect for me it has accomplished its mission”. It saddens me really when for men and even A LOT of women are centered in the only purpose of being liked, or feeling attractive, or seduce.. in other words, placing their very own value on the men’s eyes. Women’s purpose are not here to please men. !!!!!! come on WAKE UP EVERY ONE. Please let it be that not every man thinks like that

Phoenix December 24, 2015 - 11:17 am

I don’t understand the outrage. He values confidence, intelligence and maturity. How is this offensive?

James Maverick January 20, 2016 - 2:37 am

Thanks Phoenix. Finally someone gets it.

mmm May 17, 2019 - 4:27 pm

These are the reasons for outrage and offense…
The perfect woman must be feminine :
“However, nowadays, women come with all sorts of personalities” They always have.
“Femininity means that the woman doesn’t act like a man: less sarcasm, less ball-busting remarks, and less trying to outcompete with the men themselves.”
Anyone with wit can be sarcastic, it is not a masculine trait. Do men ball-bust? Isn’t that female orientated behaviour?
“counterbalance to a man’s strong masculinity.” Do you really need to include the word strong? Isn’t masculinity enough without the overconfidence?
The perfect woman must be mature :
“something changed in the past couple of decades” That’s always been the case.
“attractive woman in her mid 30s only to have her acting like someone in her early 20s (or younger).” That’s normal.
“An immature girl is someone who never suffered” There is no explanation for how extensively offensive this suggestion is.
The perfect woman must be semi-independent :
“Maybe she is a social recluse who doesn’t know how to form social connections” Such a woman would not be looking for a man, let alone be clingy.
The perfect woman must be loyal :
“bitch shield”. Excuse me!
“I understand that today I can be hitting on a woman with a boyfriend, but tomorrow that boyfriend can be me with some other smooth player hitting on my girl.” So it’s Ok for you to cheat but you don’t want a woman who does?

Nacho Nineteen December 29, 2015 - 4:50 pm

“be prettier”. oh wow, i didn’t think of that! i shall now uh.. go get plastic surgery or something. men are often so shallow and vain!

femininity is code for passivity. any human should be free to employ any attribute from either “gender” list when appropriate. genders are a fabricated concept.

how relaxed and warm a woman can be depends expressly on how the males of the world choose to act. when boys step up to become men, women can be our best selves. when men fail, or worse, refuse to try in an avalanche of misogyny and self-hatred a la the fedoras, then women must pick up the slack. and we do it so well. 🙂

James Maverick January 20, 2016 - 2:36 am

“femininity is code for passivity.”

Who told you that? There are plenty of feminine women who are not passive. Every man loves a feminine woman.

Kirk Joseph February 19, 2016 - 2:07 am

Every man dose love a feminine woman. If you get nothing from this brilliant, and accurate depiction of what men really think Go away knowing that men love femininity. More and more men are opting out. They find out there are still feminine women. Down in central and South America, Europe, and Asia. After growing up in the Chicago land area and then living in Texas, Utah, California, Miami. Chicago women are by far the most masculine women

Nadien August 10, 2017 - 12:56 am

What exactly does this mean(being feminine)?! What does it mean to “let a man be a man”?

Abygail Grace November 22, 2017 - 3:31 am

I’m not feminist, let’s get that right straight away. Please. Obviously a good heart, common human decency and the general desire of someone with higher intelligence than a troll would be fantastic. My only issue is the bit about what’s feminine. I, in my probably not very humble opinion, am confident I’m all of these. My hair is pixie short. Problem? Am I no longer feminine although I have no desire to be anything but loyal and good? For me, that’s all that matters. Yeah, base level attraction is an obvious thing. Anyone who says otherwise is lying. However, when it comes down to it, a good person will love you because you’re a good person to them. It doesn’t matter how confident or pretty or smart or “semi- independent” you are. What matters is if you can love, and love truly. This isn’t Disney, but I’m confident of that for certain. Oddly enough, I’ve gotten way more men approaching me than I ever did when my hair reached past my waist, and I feel way more confident. I’m a high schooler, and I know people will backlash at that, but I honestly feel more… how do I put it in “perfect woman” terms?- mature. I can honestly say for a fact that my maturity as a young teenager skyrockets many of the men and women on here. The author included, nod to you. Women, don’t go against men like you’re better than them. Men, don’t be arrogant and inhumane because you think you know a perfect woman. Fun fact, reality: nobody is perfect. It’s cliche but truer than any of it. What makes a partner, man or woman, perfect is that they’re willing to forgive, and see past flaws for both parties, both working together through thick and thin, loving each other undeniably the whole way. Again, I implore you… please. Check yourselves, everyone, and act the mature age you’re supposed to be, enough with childish pride. 🙂

ST July 17, 2017 - 5:39 pm

Yes, yes they are! It’s all about mating and reproduction. Read an evolutionary biology book.

Siddique Motiwala January 11, 2016 - 8:18 am

Missed a point,
She should God, the last day, and this life being a test.
in a phrase, to love for sake of Allah.

Siddique Motiwala January 11, 2016 - 8:20 am

Missed a point,
She should Know* God, the last day, and this life being a test.
in a phrase, to love for sake of Allah.

Candy January 28, 2016 - 2:50 pm

I think a lot of people just go through Google looking for articles like this for just the sport of bashing without even reading, thinking, or considering what is being discussed. I agree with this post on many different levels because whether anyone wants to believe it or not, women and men are NOT equal. Th at doesn’t mean that either sex is worth less or is less capable than the other, but that we are wired very differently and should consider each other’s differences when it comes to relationships.

Of course a man doesn’t want a woman who acts like a man if he is actually a red blooded straight man, and a woman doesn’t want to be with a woman unless she is a lesbian.

I’ve noticed that Maverick also coaches men on the topic of self-improvement. But somehow talking about a woman improving herself to be a better partner is bad and offensive? Everyone can use some improvement but half of us are so lazy we would rather sit around all day telling people to just be and exist without consideration to anyone else. If you aren’t interested in being more appealing or being of better quality, then just stay on your Facebook page and post so your friends can see false comments on how perfect your relationships are , but in reality, you and your partner both want to be the man and the woman in the relationship. 🙂

James Maverick January 28, 2016 - 3:13 pm

Wow, Candy, are you real? Do you exist? You sound like the absolute perfect woman.

Mike February 11, 2016 - 5:43 pm

I like a chick who watches football as long as she roots for my team.

Woman February 24, 2016 - 9:29 am

Perfect man must not be you. I’m writing an article about impossible expectation woman are facing and I got to say you are perfect for that. I bet you are not even half of the man that would deserve such a girl (ignoring the fact such a girl doesn’t exist).

James Maverick February 24, 2016 - 9:36 am

What impossible expectations?

Bonnie March 27, 2016 - 1:33 pm

Hello, I have to say I don’t agree with your femininity point above, but not for the same reasons that others have voiced. To me, the problem with defining “feminine” as a characteristic a woman ought to have is that the archetypal woman’s version of femininity requires sacrificing many of the freedoms women have today. For example, complexities arise in the workplace when a woman has to be strong or stand up for herself. Generally, being a loud voice in the office is seen as masculine, however, this is quite frankly because women have been denied powerful voices until the recent decades. Today, without the need or want “prince charming” to serve as a defender, women can and should speak up for themselves. After all, having a passive partner is unattractive. But even further, the problem with requiring feminity as a vital characteristic is that modern feminity is very loosely defined and often unnavigable today. For example, should a woman not wear pants because they are not stereotypically feminine? Should she choose to silence herself when she has the opportunity to voice a witty remark? Should she have financial independence? Should she be active and go to a gym? Travel on her own? Be an activist in her community? Should she pursue her dream of being a doctor, lawyer, or politician? Or should she deny the world her skill set simply because she is worried for her feminine image? Truly, the problem lies where a woman is in a sense dishonest because of her constant self-censorship in order to please her partner. If femininity truly means the quality of womanliness, then a woman inherently fits that simply by the act of being a woman. The most important qualities in a partner are honesty, comfort, and freedom; all of which can not be accessed if a woman is meant to subscribe to a dated definition of womanhood.

LAURA April 26, 2016 - 9:25 pm

Interesting article. Initially, my reaction was half annoyed, probably because the author starts with the physical attributes, hence, the women reading this immediately got defensive. Then I continued reading out of curiosity, and in all honesty, I just saw an article about the “truth”of what men want or consider a perfect woman to be.

Nothing more.

Maverik, I don’t know your views on other topics as this is my first time reading a post of yours, but I think that most of the girls in here got angry because somehow the truth is not easy to digest.

I’m not saying that every single man shares your views but I have enough male friends and experience to know that, like it or not… all your point are spot on.

Obviously, being this a list of the perfect woman, all the points makes absolute sense. None the less, in real life it might happen that you won’t meet such a perfect woman, or better said… you think you’ve met her and then life changes, people change, perspectives changes and I guess that if ever you find the perfect woman, makes also sense that you want to keep her, right?

Which leads to the “growing old together” (looks starts to fade but you said that looks are important for the initial attraction, so the other qualities are timeless really).

I don’t see anything wrong in being a feminine woman by the way. Actually, your point stung me a bit as I sometimes tend to come out as a strong woman (too strong actually, probably because of the type of life and experiences I had) and I’m trying to improve and become more feminine, soft-spoken, more delicate and so on.

Being feminine doesn’t mean that you have to bend over and be submissive in my eyes, you can still be confident and feminine at the same time. You don’t need to eat a man alive to prove the point that you are a strong person.

I’ve noticed a curious thing. During my years working for a big multinational company, most of the Directors, Vice presidents, and the CEO were women, so indeed they were powerful and yet, when I had the chance to be present at their meetings, (except for a few ones) they were all very feminine.

Which actually was a huge advantage as, since your analysis here is spot on, on a deep level they “melted” the men in the room, by being feminine.

So, this is mostly a message for the girls: don’t get offended by this article. It is actually pretty accurate, and don’t feel bad if you think you can never embody the “perfect woman”.

As Maverik here said, he is a “boob person and other guys are more of a “whatever else” person, so find your best qualities and bring them to light! Not just to impress a man, but for yourself.

I believe that taking care of yourself is also very attractive for a man. So, no excuses 🙂

Sorry for the super long message and for the typos/mistakes but English is not my first language.

Amanda June 29, 2016 - 3:51 pm

Every characteristic in this article is what I am now striving to own and claim in myself!

Thank-you for a man’s perspective on the perfect woman. Not to toot your own horn, but I am digging it.

Drinking up every. Single. Word.

I feel every woman wants to feel attractive and beautiful in her own skin. And she can by taking excellent care of herself and growing herself in every area of her life. (We as men and women have different perspectives on what we find attractive. Beauty can come in all shapes and sizes depending on your lover. Plus attractiveness comes with confidence too!) (Side note: David Deida “The Way of a Superior Man” is a must read)

In Marianne Williamson’s Aphrodite training seminar she states it DOES matter what you look like to a man! That is SO important! So maybe this is a sign for all ladies to take excellent care of themselves! (for themselves! Not because society tells you. Not because other men tell you to. Not because you feel less than and not enough. BUT BECAUSE you love yourself so much that you wont expect anything less from yourself.) Men fall in love with what they see. Women fall in love with what they hear. Every women can be beautiful in her own way and it only takes one guy to see that! If you are putting your best foot forward then I am pretty sure the Universe will reward you. 🙂 Random side note but I feel not only sexual passion should make the list but some type of spirituality. Mystical. Mysterious. Sexy. Yum. Keep writing these articles. I am digging it!

And a prayer from: (Women to men)
If I or any member of my sex has ever done anything to hurt you or offend you or any man, please forgive me and please forgive us.
If your life as a man has been stunted or thwarted by any woman, I now stand in her stead and apologize for me, for her, for all womankind.
May God give us a healed vision of what it means to be a man.
May men receive this healing.
May women receive this healing.
May we see your strength.
May we not emasculate.
May we honour your power and respect your mind.
I shall teach my daughters well.
May your past be healed, your future made new and strong.
May you reach your fullest joy.
Go with my love, and the love of all women,

Anonymous July 9, 2016 - 3:56 pm

I actually hate feminine women. I really wish women were more like men. But they’re not… god I wish people would stop socially conditioning them into being submissive, fashion-obsessed, softies that have all dreamed about being a model at some point. God it pisses me off!

Javyga Saulys July 17, 2016 - 4:14 pm

You know, I could take this article a lot more seriously if the author knew how to spell. And if he does… would at least have taken a moment to proof read before he released this into the world for countless people to see.

-Taking life advice from a baby.

S.C February 13, 2017 - 8:31 am

Hi hun,

You ok? It’s just you don’t seem to know a lot about women and I’m worried you’re actually a little bit sexist :/

Nikki C March 4, 2017 - 6:10 pm

Beauty is, literally, made by cultures alllll over the world and the idea of what beauty is has been different throughout history.

“nowadays, women come with all sorts of personalities, so, as men, we must be explicit with our requirements”.

We ALWAYS came with ‘all sorts of different personalities”. It has NEVER been logical, moral, or decent to view women as interchangeable property that acts exactly as you think it should. You ARE correct though, most men probably agree with this post…the problem is, they and you are penis for brain misogynists.

Amy April 18, 2017 - 5:42 am

I came across this post as I was recently “dumped” I guess, for having all the traits you mentioned, and I was in my usual effort to improve myself to check what went wrong.

Being all the above, guys have told me “You are too precious to mess with” and I have remained unzoned. But the first time that it affected me was when I actually liked the guy.

But after reading this, I am glad and unapologetic about being myself. It is a lovely reminder for me to not to settle for anything low.
But again, this is all being overqualified, and making life nothing but difficult !

Pollly May 14, 2017 - 8:28 am

You absolute sexist prick.

You're a piece of shit May 22, 2017 - 10:54 am

Just making sure you don’t have some sort of intellectual or social disability, because as it seems you do not, which I would fight that denial if I ever once saw you in public, I believe that gives me fair ground to state that you sir, are an utter piece of shit.
You see, many females on this site may have somewhat called you out on you’re complete disrespect for women in general, but I am prepared to completely stand up for every woman you have out right disrespected by placing stereotypical requirements that they must achieve to be cared for.
Now, I understand I don’t completely fall into your categories myself given that I am an alpha female, who identifies as pansexual (a form of bisexuality). But I do believe that gives me the ability to see women for the absolute beauty that they are, regardless of if they are feminine, or your definition of attractive.
Just because a women is not feminine, does not make her any less deserving of a healthy wonderful relationship, that she will ultimately find. So while you fuck your way through gonorrhea and chlamydia, I hope you take into consideration to the negative effects you hold in your power to have on females around the world. Girls should be learning to love who they are, rather than fitting into your close minded view of perfection.
So on behalf of women who won’t put up with your shit anymore: go to hell, and take your close mindedness with you

Michael June 6, 2017 - 6:18 pm

At 61 I’ve watched our culture change greatly. Women can many things years ago that would never have been open to them. I have seen how women are now more rude, crude, nasty, and manly than in earlier decades. Why? They don’t need spouses anymore. Most women can and do have careers today. Many are more educated than their male peers. For a long time men have been falling behind on many levels. Marriage is no longer the prize women once sought very highly. Careers come first, then marriage and family later if at all.
One thing most women don’t know today is: guys don’t want to compete with a woman they are dating and guys don’t date resumes. They want a companion who is friendly, kind, supportive, approachable, and desirable. You don’t have to be a model or Playmate to fit the bill. I’ve known many girls who aren’t knockouts who have charismatic and charming personalities. Are they great in bed? Maybe. Are they sexy?
Sexy to me is simple–sexy is wanting you more than anyone else. Looks may or may not factor into that. Take care of your appearance, smile, be friendly, and you will draw men to you. Too many women today have no sense of humor and wear a game face all the time. Guess what? That turns guys off–big time!

Anon February 10, 2020 - 8:29 pm

Getting permission before you talk to a woman is the key. Approaching her without her permission just scared her off.

James Maverick February 11, 2020 - 12:49 pm

Shut up “Anon”

This wife loves Jesus February 13, 2020 - 6:42 pm

Whoa! Watch how you reply to people who are telling you about your attitude, both men and women alike. Perhaps you might want to see a therapist, if you can afford one. If you’re religious, either it’s a priest, rabbi, pastor, etc. because your attitude is rather twisted and one day you might end up scaring whomever you get involved with and kill them which can land you in jail. Have you ever thought about how you treat people in the real world? Are you kind or are you nasty, especially towards women who greet you, chat up with you, or hold doors open for you? Seems like your son-of-a-b***h shield is too strong for a woman to penetrate, which I think you would not allow, and you are very intimidating to mess with because you might become violent and murder someone which can land you in prison, if that’s comfortable with you. It seems you hold too much pride and ego and you need to practice humility and kindness towards everyone as well as respect for boundaries instead of being so feisty, which is a dangerous trait for men, since it can lead to violent crime in general.

May God bless you and absolve you of whatever negativity you hold onto.


Devoted Christian Coming By February 15, 2020 - 4:10 pm

Wow, you must not have respect for anyone, do you? Do you want to trample people’s boundaries without asking first what they want to do? This is what turns women off from men and most women do not want their boundaries stepped on and neither do most men (who, of course, tend to set rigid boundaries by being domineering and violent towards women and other people like you). But anyway, you’re never going to find the perfect woman and if she makes one mistake, you’d be disappointed and blow up in her face instead of accepting her apologies and forgiving her. It’s no wonder there are women having plastic surgery, eating disorders, etc. just to be feminine. Worst, they commit suicide. That’s fine with you.

And every woman you encounter will have male friends and co-workers, whether you like it or not. Some will have husbands and boyfriends too. So don’t expect the perfect woman to be available to you.

What’s more important is that she loves God first and you later.

Nella June 9, 2017 - 8:45 pm

I think you have to step out of the “50’s” Maverick (if that is your real name?) And realize that women like men are human beings. Your article is so out of touch with the human spirit and reeks of outdated stereotypes and unrealistic portrayals of women that it actually saddens me. I think you need to re-evaluate that we’re all in this together.I can’t believe people pay you for this information… what’s the world coming too? Do you think that this article makes a contribution to society, does it benefit humanity and the human spirit? Or does it further propagate an outdated hyper masculine hyper feminine perspective of the world. Of course everyone is entitled to their opinions but you should really think about the shit you put out into the world and ask yourself the question “is this going to help anyone? Is this going to open people’s minds and perhaps change their perspective in a positive way?”

For me, all this article did was make me sad for you and for myself that I wasted 5 precious minutes to read it… time I’ll never get back.

Vanessa Cortese July 29, 2017 - 4:33 pm

Wow this article describes me! I even have the big breats. Unfortunately for you, women like this don’t go after men like you. We want a 50/50 type of relationship. And when you say things like “she makes small decisions and I make the big ones” or “she can’t challenge me by being too sarcastic” well, then all you’re going to get is an insecure girl. But, hey, good luck to you 🙂

Asian Woman Passing By December 25, 2017 - 3:43 am

Reading the comments from women here makes me unnecessarily angry. The idea that FEMININITY is equated to passivity is very insulting—to your own gender no less! Since when was femininity “submissiveness” and “passivenss”? Please, any of you confused women explain to me how being considerate, kind and gentle; being able to possess humility and consideration for her partner a weakness?! Because the last time I checked, all those traits are seen as “feminine” and the last time I checked, being considerate towards your partner goes both ways regardless of gender! And don’t act like YOU don’t put men in “rankings” like this man you accused of writing. The problem isn’t necessarily this article at all but your interpretation of masculinity and femininity but seeing as how the west is generally very confused—confused enough to assume masculine means being a pushover and femininity means letting people trample all over you—it’s to be expected. You dont have to be Asian or from the orient to know balance is the key. For example, how can you be masculine if you do not exercise being gentle towards your partner? How can you be masculine if you see women as objects? That’s not being masculine, that’s being a jerk, or also known as, “toxic masculinity.” Take note ladies, “masculinity” and “toxic masculinity” are entirely different. There’s a reason why the ideal male is called a GENTLEman and the ideal female, a FEMININE LADY. Likewise, you can’t call yourself a lady if you let others trample your boundaries and refuse to speak up to defend yourself. You cant call yourself feminine if you don’t have a backbone! That’s what I call “hyper feminine” but I refuse to truly accept that word as it is because it gives off the wrong idea. If you’re “hyper submissive” that’s just being a coward. Not a lady—who is confident, mature and smart but also knows how to take care of herself; and feminine—who is someone comfortable of being female and embraces her physical characteristics and traits as it truly is; not as a “weakness” but a blessing against a rigid and dense world riddled with “toxic masculinity.” That is what makes a feminine woman feminine. She does not conform to the misguided assumption that being female is and of itself a weakness therefore she must act “rigid” like most men in society who the misguided labels as betas and look “masculine” (i.e dressing overly sexy with strong makeup, strong eyebrows, strong everything; and labels everyone who tries to look like the opposite as “girly girls” then expects everyone not to look at what she shows in public—oh the nerve of those men who dare lay eyes on my booty when I wore this tiny black dress—what a jerk!) in an effort to assert that she is indeed confident and independent because the true feminine woman knows, oh how the feminine LADY knows, the true power of her sex is her FEMININE nature and the slender physical attributes being the byproduct of her maturity to keep herself from being obese—and not necessarily perfect in a way that you must look like an angel and grovel at the feet of toxic masculine men for all the days of your life—is the fruit of her efforts to be a true lady.

Morning Glory March 31, 2018 - 4:13 pm

I am a survivor of a very abusive relationship that almost ended deadly. My ex husband of 15 emotionally, psychologically, and physically devastating years, finally decided to try and end my life, slitting my throat and leaving me for dead. It’s taken a lot of very hard work to finally start to be comfortable with who I am. I’m far from the “perfect woman”. Their are some points in this article I can agree with but only because they are what I strive for to make myself happier. I’m not a physically attracted woman, the scar on my neck and my broken nose, doesn’t help. I cannot help how I look to some point. However, I’ve been learning how to find my own beauty. I know that I am not ready for another relationship for quite some time if at all. And I’m okay with that. I just hope one day if I am ready, that a man can be attracted to me for who I am and not what I look like. I’ve realized I am a lot stronger than I was lead to believe. Me being who I am, ever growing, finding the beauty in life, and striving to become stronger every day, is my goal to “perfection” . I think that being the perfect person for someone starts with ones own self. I started out in life too early not realizing their was so much about myself that was too awesome for one person to claim for their own and now I’m in the process of reclaiming years of personal power. I’ve just decided that if a man cannot except me for who I am and respect me for what I have been through, then he’s no necessarily a bad person, just not the one for me.

Tahnia April 28, 2018 - 9:55 am

“With even a stench of ambition” 😂

Tahnia April 28, 2018 - 10:26 am

Jokes aside. What is interesting about this article is that the author is describing his insecurities and projecting them into the idea of the perfect woman. Looks, confiedence, intelligence, decisiveness, loyalty. These are all the things you are worrying about consciously or subconsciously. If You want to find lasting love these qualities need to be developed within yourself-if this happens your list will be thrown out the window when ‘miss right’ not ‘miss perfect’ comes along. Further more your experience would be more substantial because you wouldn’t be trying to fill your own void and you would love the woman for all that she is including her imperfections.

Charly May 2, 2019 - 1:12 pm

Ich mean it’s my buissness who you find attractive, but there are sind points in your text i disagree with. Like first of all why am i not allowed to be sarcastic? Or why don’t you even consider that the women ist working to and not just sitting around all day thinking about what towels to buy and what meat to cook. I think nowadays it must be quite difficult for you to find a women who is intelligent but not funny, independant, but not working and absolutely feminine. And espacially one who doesn’t care about you writting that the first important thing in a women ist her figure and her breasts. So good luck with that…

Food for thought August 7, 2019 - 9:29 pm

I enjoy cooking, I’m actually very good at it. I clean because I enjoy a clean home. I’m fit and I take very good care of my skin with high quality products. I love animals and babies, and they love me back. I have a large group of my own female and male friends. I’m educated and have a solid career.


Even though I cook, so does my fiancé, and he’s GREAT at it. If I cook, he does the dishes. If he cooks, I do the dishes. If I clean the whole house, then my fiancé does the laundry. We both do yard work. I shovel snow and cut the grass. I’m fit because I enjoy activities such as biking, hiking, surfing, snowboarding, four wheeling, horseback riding etc.. And my fiancé does many of these activities with me I take care of my skin but the only makeup I wear is mascara. I love animals and I love babies but I choose to only have one pup and no kids. I prefer to travel and focus on my career. That’s enough for me. I’m educated and manage a business, well actually own a business. Which makes me the boss outside of the home.

I’m FAR from perfect. No one is perfect. I have a man who is beyond handsome, intelligent, hardworking, and kind. He is a CATCH. And yet, even though a lot of my qualities may not be stereotyped as feminiem, he sees me as his “perfect girl.”

Looks fade. Find someone who wants to do activities with you that you both love, encourages you to succeed, makes you laugh, and CHOOSES to love you everyday despite how difficult life gets. I hope all of the men on here will let go of what you THINK the perfect woman is, and Instead find the woman that pushes you to be the best version of yourself, while enjoying life together on the way.

Michaelvop November 1, 2019 - 2:55 pm

Сорокина Екатерина Александровна и хамско-быдлячье общение
Кандидат наук кафедры «Техносферная безопасность» МИИТа Сорокина Екатерина Александровна грубо, нагло и по-хамски разговаривает со своими коллегами по работе, которые ей не то, что в мамы, в бабушки годятся в присутствии студентов. Такое поведение Сорокина Е.А. может себе позволить, зная, что шеф – «папик» (Аксенов Владимир Алексеевич) прикроет.


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