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Filipino Women: The Complete Guide To Asia’s Sexiest Women

As the popular saying goes, if you can’t get laid in Brazil, you should just pack your bag and go home. But in all honesty, Brazil isn’t the easiest country to get laid in: the Philippines takes that prize.

Over the years, I’ve had numerous friends visit the Philippines and proclaim that it’s the absolute easiest country in the world to get laid in. (Of course, they’re referring to the more developed second-world countries; many of them haven’t been to places like Africa so they can’t really compare those countries to the Philippines.)

The following is a guest article by my good friend Frank, an Australian guy whom I met in Bogota, Colombia. Frank has been a regular visitor to the Philippines for many years and wanted to share his experience.

Take it away, Frank.

Being from Australia, I’ve made over 15 trips over to the Philippines over the years and had heaps of fun every single time. Philippines is also one of my “pit stops” whenever I’m flying back home from Europe. Instead of returning straight to Australia, I usually hop over to the Philippines for about a week or two to enjoy the sun and the ladies. It never disappoints.

As James mentioned above, if you can’t get laid in the Philippines, then, sorry to say, but there’s probably something wrong with you. Not only are the women much easier than those in Latin America or Eastern Europe (Ukraine is tricky), but as a foreigner (especially if you’re a white guy), you’ll enjoy a certain rockstar status in the Philippines that you simply won’t experience anywhere else.

The women

I spent four years living in Bogota, Colombia, so I speak Spanish and understand Latin women. I would say that Filipino women are very similar to Latin women with a certain Asian twist; but, among all the other Asian women, they’re the closest to Latin women in both looks and mentality.

That means a couple of things. First, they’re very submissive and caring of a man that they’re with. Second, they can be very manipulative, so if you give them an inch, they will have no qualms about grabbing the entire mile. 

One of my friends back in London views Filipino women as a mixture of every single explorer and their crew who landed in the Philippines and banged the locals. First, it was the Spaniards. Then, it was the Americans. Thus, the majority of them have a Spanish last name such as Garcia, Santos, Reyes, etc.

Filipinos are both conservative and sexual. Unlike American and other Western women who love talking about sex, a Filipino woman needs to become comfortable with you before topics such as sex come up. It’s not something that you need to hint on as well; they know why you’re talking to them. 

Instead, you should approach the interaction in a conservative and pragmatic way. Be friendly and open, get to know them a bit first, set up the first date in a coffee shop or something like that.

The reality is that you don’t need to try very hard to get them to build an attraction to you. As a Westerner—and especially a white guy—you should have women have an attraction to you automatically. That’s unlike in places like the US or Australia where you have to become a dancing monkey for her to like you.

Filipinos can also be very jealous, much more jealous than Western or Latin women. When I was in a relationship, my girl would constantly go through my Facebook and Instagram and ask me questions about the people that I befriended or followed. She also didn’t take it kindly that I had a few hundred female friends on Facebook.

At that point, she wanted to know how long I’ve known them and whether we’ve been intimate or not. This is obviously something you will never hear from your American or even the more jealous Colombian girlfriend.

Meeting Filipino women during the day

In cities like New York or London, day game is normal. It’s fully acceptable to see a cute woman, creep up on her and start talking to her. But in the Philippines, this is not normal behavior. Women aren’t used to random guys running up and chatting them up. 

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t approach these women; you should still approach, but you must ready for lots of awkward silences and shock on their faces. Just keep going and go for the number, you can contact them later when they’re much more relaxed.

The advantages of day gaming are that you set yourself apart from the hordes of other love tourists who mainly rely on nightlife or online game to meet women.

Meeting Filipino women during the night

I’ll be honest with you. Meeting women at night is a mixed bag. It’s tough. The main problem is that the best venues are constantly changing and it takes a lot of energy to keep track which venues are cool and which aren’t.

The second main problem is the fact that you will run into lots of pros (professionals, hookers, prostitutes, etc) at night and it will be, at least initially, to tell the difference between who’s a pro and who’s not. (Of course, this skill will improve with time.)

The best way to enjoy nightlife is to make some local friends and have them suggest which places are the best for high-quality women. Also, making friends with local expats and love tourists would be ideal as well.

Meeting Filipino women online

Undoubtedly, one of the most popular ways to meet Filipino women is online. There’s a huge convenience factor of being able to browse profiles of eligible women right from your living room couch without needing to be in the country.

There are several ways of meeting women online. First, there’s the all-mighty Tinder that’s used by men and women around the world. The main problem with Tinder, however, is that you’ll typically find lower quality women and even some pros. In my experience, many of the women I tried to arrange a date there ended up flaking or changing the venue location at the last minute. Honestly, I’m too old for bullshit and games, so I dumped that stupid app for better ways.

A much better way to meet women would be to use a site like Filipino Cupid. The women are of higher quality and are more relationship minded than on some of the other sites, including Tinder. They are also a lot less flaky and are just generally to engage and meet.

To use Filipino Cupid, simply sign up here and begin meeting women. It’s that simple. I vouch for this site, and am absolutely certain you’ll meet quality women on there. When I initially signed up, I ended up going on 20 dates in just a week. That was an unforgettable experience!

Honestly, it’s like shooting fish in the barrel. All you have to do is show up (create a profile) and begin messaging women. More than 90% of them will respond and engage with you. You can then follow up, grab their number and meet them for coffee.

More advice for meeting Filipino women

I want to take a moment and give you some more pointers when it comes to meeting Filipino women.

  • Don’t expect to turn a hoe into a housewife: This is true for women from all over the world and certainly applies here in the Philippines. If you’re meeting women in the bars and clubs, understand that many of them certainly wouldn’t be marriage material. Even if you’ve fallen in love with this woman, ask yourself how many other guys have also met her at the same bar or club?
  • Age difference matters: While Southeast Asian countries have a reputation where older men (50+, 60+) go in order to find a younger wife, the bigger the age difference, the greater the chance that your young wife or girlfriend would dump you for a younger man. In most of the world that difference is around 10 years; in the Philippines, I wouldn’t stretch it past 20 years of difference. Anything more and the risk of her leaving for a younger man increase. Many Filipino girls will date older men, but still have a younger lover on the side.
  • Make sure your woman really loves you: For serious relationships and even marriage, you must be absolutely sure that the women you’re with absolutely love you. You can’t simply fall head over heels for some girl you met in a bar because she smiles and whispers sweet things in your ear. You must be absolutely certain that she’s truly into you and it’s not just in your head. There are several ways to test. Ask your friends for an outsider’s opinion. Ask your girl to do something for you that requires her putting in some effort like looking some important up or getting to another part of town. (It must be something that benefits you only, not both of you.)
  • Go for a woman in your tax bracket: if you really want to make sure that a woman isn’t out to use you for your money, go for someone who makes a decent amount of money. She doesn’t need to make as much as you, the rich Westerner, but having a decent education and a decent job can definitely go a long way. 
  • Trust your gut: Ultimately, the best way to see if this girl is good for you in the long term is to trust your gut. Usually, if you feel that something doesn’t feel right, that maybe your girl has other interests and doing other things behind your back, then most likely you’re right, and those feelings deserve further investigations. Definitely don’t invest your time, money and resources into a woman who doesn’t deserve them. Use common sense.

Red flags

The usual red flags that you would encounter with women in other countries apply in the Philippines. But there’s one thing I really wanted to stress: gold diggers. 

Once you combine Asian and Latin cultures, the result is gold digging on another level. I’ve been in all kinds of situations with all kinds of different women trying very creatively to extract money from me.

Fortunately, avoiding gold diggers is fairly easy if you don’t get your feelings involved. Steer clear of women who ask for money. Period. Full stop. It doesn’t matter if her grandmother is dying back in some remote village. It doesn’t matter if she needs money for studies or anything else.

First of all, unless you really know the woman, you can’t really trust anything she says—especially if you know her for a few weeks or less. Second of all, the woman will lose all respect for you if you begin giving her your money. She will see you as a sugar daddy and sponsor instead of someone who she likes as a person. Be very wary of women who ask for money. Quality girls rarely do.

Closing thoughts

Hopefully, this article provided you with an overall picture of what Filipino women really like. In my opinion, there are some of the most loving, loyal and sexy women in Asia and can definitely make great girlfriends and wives (if that’s what you’re looking for). 

But like anywhere else, you have to be vigilant and use common sense. This is especially true in the Philippines because, as a Westerner, you will be automatically perceived to be a person of high value and will have many women (some not very desirable) after you.

Regardless of what happens, I’m fairly certain you’ll have an excellent time in the Philippines.

You Are Not Masculine Enough For Feminine Women

In today’s podcast, I explain why Western men are just too feminine for genuine feminine women. I explain why feminine women ask you for money or buy expensive things for them. I back it up with my experience in Eastern Europe and then talk about how you can become more masculine in order to become more attractive to women.

Links mentioned in these episode:

The Problem With Feminine Women

There’s a lot of bullshit floating around the Internet, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. There’s the case of 45-year-old armchair general virgins who’re giving advice ranging from approaching women to having healthy relationships. Or some random 23-year-old kid who finally lands a girlfriend for the first time in his life and somehow feels that he can mentor the entire world on what it is like to approach and date the world’s hottest women.

For instance, take something that every guy craves and wants: feminine women. Every guy on the entire Internet wants to date and marry one of these women. They feel that these women will be their salvation after years (and decades) of suffering through lots of “masculine” women that countries like the US and the UK are replete with.

But then, I get hundreds of emails from guys who complain how Russian or Ukrainian women—probably the epitome of feminine women—are bitchy, icy and just not as easy as they thought as they run back home with their tail between their legs. Or, worse, how they got ripped off in Russia or Ukraine by some girl they fell in love with after seeing her once or twice. And then curse the world how all Russian and Ukrainian women are “transactional.”

As someone who is originally from Ukraine and has lived in Ukraine for the past five years, I find these stories amusing. For once, there’s some truth in them—and an important lesson: femininity has its price.

Yes, Ukrainian women are extremely feminine. Russian women, too. But, as  hopefully, you’ve learned from a very young age: there’s no free lunch. Everything costs something, including that mirage in the desert: femininity.

When it comes to feminine women, what no self-proclaimed guru will ever tell you is that there’s an intrinsic price attached to all that beautiful femininity. First of all, they know that they’re beautiful and feminine. Even in a place like Ukraine, where virtually every woman is feminine, they all know their prices. Yes, their price. 

They also know very well how to read men and what kind of hoops they need to make men jump through before getting access to the goods—if ever. 

The more feminine the woman, the higher the price, the more time investment, the more sophisticated the “shit tests” before you’re considered as a contestant for the ultimate prize.

The more feminine the woman, the more masculine you have to be. And here’s where most of you fail. There’s a good chance that most of you reading this are from the developed world (more than half of my traffic comes from the USA, UK, and Canada), and big metropolitan cities like New York or London aren’t exactly known as bastions of masculinity.

So, if you’re not 100% (or even 80%) masculine, then you’re part feminine or at least have certain feminine characteristics like getting in touch with your feelings, saying things like “I love you,” missing a woman, or arguing with women when you should shut the fuck up and let the woman vent.

And this is where you fail because a high-quality feminine woman has been around enough tough masculine men who don’t entertain her bullshit or respond to her tests to know what a truly masculine man is. And you’re probably not it. 

And this is why a feminine woman picks on up on this and plays you for a fool.

Most likely you behave this way because you were raised in a single parent household—by your mother or were raised in an environment where the mother held the upper hand in the relationship and the father simply nodded his head and did whatever the woman wanted.

The specifics of your childhood don’t matter all that much, what matters is that your understanding of feminine and masculine roles is upside down. All compounded by the fact that you’re insecure as heck and were conditioned by a feminized Western society to be “in touch with your feelings” and other crap.

But that’s not what real women want. I haven’t heard of any guy whose woman dumped him because he was “too masculine” or because his masculine frame was super strong. I also don’t know any guy whose woman left him for a man who was “in touch with his feminine side.” And, I certainly don’t know any man whose woman dumped him because he was so busy with his work that he barely had time to see her instead of some chump who did nothing but worship the ground she walked on.

If you want to get what you want from women—whether it’s a reliable midnight booty call, a great relationship or even marriage—you must adhere to a certain hidden dynamic whether you like it or not. No, it’s not negotiable. It’s not something that you can “talk about” at the kitchen table with your girl. It’s something that you do (or don’t do).

So, as you can probably guess, the problem isn’t with feminine women. The problem is with you. You’re the problem. 

You’re the problem because everything you’ve ever been thought about masculinity was wrong. Women don’t want a “buddy” they can “hang out” with. They don’t want a man who they can easily get under the skin and turn into an emotional cesspool. And they certainly don’t want a guy who’s in touch with their emotional side—whatever the fuck that means—even if they tell that that’s what they want.

It’s all one giant test which you’ve been failing repeatedly. Not because you said the wrong word at the wrong time but because you weren’t even in the race. Everything about you demonstrated that you’re just not masculine enough to dominate her, to control the situation and make her feel like a woman. And if you can’t make her feel like a woman, then nothing you say or do matter. It’s like trying putting a V8 engine into a Honda Civic. Even with a powerful engine, it’s still a freaking Civic and it will never run as a tightly as a BMW or a Ferrari. 

The point is that everything begins with a solid foundation: the masculine frame. And everything spreads from there. When you have a weak foundation and you might as well stay home instead of going outside. Doesn’t matter what comes out of your mouth.

No stupid pickup line is going to compensate for a man with feminine behavior. That’s like putting a bandaid on the Titanic after its hull has been ripped apart by an iceberg.

Moreover, merely meeting women is relatively easy. Let’s face it, it’s purely a numbers game; the only thing that you need is the willingness to approach the girl and put the ball in her court. 

Relationships or, in other words, a situation where you have to be masculine all the fucking time is a lot harder. That’s why women initiate 80-90% of the divorces. Mostly because the man gets weak and complacent over time and stops being the man that initially seduced her (I’m not talking about the gold diggers).

For the past ten years, I’ve been living abroad and dating a multitude of women from all over the world. But I’ve always been in long-term relationships, so I know a thing or two about staying masculine and keeping the attraction going over the span of months and years. 

That’s especially been true in Eastern Europe—where I’m now—where women are ruthless at sniffing out all and any insecurities in a man. Most of you guys just wouldn’t last in Eastern Europe with a half-decent woman. It’s a lot trickier than what you believe. And save your “but they’re so feminine” spiel for someone else.

On Friday, March 29, I will be releasing my new training: mindset, dating, and relationships. It will be a heck of a course where I will cover everything you need to know become and stay masculine in a feminized world. You will never look at mindset, women, dating, and relationships the same way ever again.

Dominican Women: The Untold Truth About Latin America’s Sexiest Women

Ahh, the Dominican Republic or, as locals call it, Republica Dominicana. One of my favorite countries in all of Latin America—yes, it even rivals Brazil. I honestly can’t say anything bad about this country; this island nation has it all.

The weather is awesome, the food is great, the people are super friendly and, last, but definitely not least, the women simply exude sexuality to the max.

That’s why we are here: to talk about women, not Arroz Blanco (a Dominican dish) or traffic in Santo Domingo. So, let’s not beat around the bush and get straight to it.

Introduction

I’m just going to go out and say it: Dominican women are some of the sexiest women in the world (at least in Latin America, and, because I believe Latin American women are sexiest in the world, so let’s just say the world).

Dominican women embody all the sexiness of South and Central American women, but they also have a certain “Caribbean spice” that’s missing from their South American counterparts. Must be because they hail from an island nation and not from some inland city like Medellin or Bogota.

Moreover, you can’t even compare them to the women from Eastern Europe in countries such as Ukraine, Russia or Belarus. Dominican women are much, much warmer and sexier than their more frigid ex-Communist counterparts.

Types of Dominican women

Dominican women, just like all other Latin women, are very feminine while the men are super masculine. Thus, there’s an existence of a natural polarity that you’d be hard-pressed to find in the West, in countries such as America and the UK.

When it comes to socio-economic status, the same rules that you’d find all over Latin America apply: the darker the girl, the poorer girl. The richest Dominicans are typically of pure Spanish descent, so they’re usually pretty white and European looking. One of my friends, a Dominican guy, is so white that he’s actually whiter than me (and I’m pretty white). This is because his family is primarily from the Basque region of Spain. His family is also pretty well off.

Dealing with flakiness

The Dominican Republic seems to have inherited the Colombian tendency of readily accept dates, but then flake at the last possible minute. Although this is a lot worse in cities like Medellin and Cali, this is also a big problem in the Dominican Republic. This carefree attitude must be an integral part of the Latin gene.

There’s only one way to deal with flakiness: setup multiple dates with other women so if that one or two flake, you aren’t stuck at home playing Xbox and watching Netflix.

Other than that, there’s simply no way to prevent a flake since that’s an indicator of low interest because you’re not a priority in her life and/or another guy popped up back in her life (ex-boyfriend, etc).

How to succeed with Dominican women

Here are some solid tips for success with Dominican women:

Be direct 

Dominican women are used to direct, aggressive and overly-sexualized Dominican men who basically objectify their women and treat them as sex objects. Not saying that women have a problem with this, but they have come to expect this kind of behavior from men. Any other type of behavior would be viewed as a weakness or beta.

This is the complete opposite of the feminine nature of Western cultures such as USA, England and Australia. If you’re one of those nice guys who idealizes women, and does “everything right,” you’ll have to adjust your attitude to succeed with Dominican women.

In many ways, this is very similar to how things are in Brazil, especially in Rio de Janeiro, another tropical city with sexy and sensual women.

That means don’t be some nice guy who goes indirect and tries to befriend the girl before announcing that he’s interested in her sexually. Dominican women know why men approach them, so don’t beat around the bush and play stupid games.

Move fast

This might come as a shock to all the nice guys out there, but, yes, in the Dominican Republic, being a tropical island nation located in Latin America, things move relatively fast. I would say seduction moves faster than even in Brazil and Colombia.

If you like a girl, approach her and ask for her number. Then, once you get her number, text her a bit later and see what she’s doing at night. 

This might sound foreign to guys who’re used to US style of dating with fake delays and “3-day rule” bullshit. But in the Dominican Republic, this is absolutely normal.

Dominican women don’t have any shortage of options. If you text her after three or four days, she might completely forget about you and move on to the next guy.

Don’t let rejection phase you

Obviously, there will be women that will respond coldly to your advances. Whether it will gorgeous women at a nice club who believe you’re below them in value, a random girl on the street who refuses to stop when you approach or a sexy waitress that’s only smiling because it’s her job, the more you approach, the more you will understand that even though there are plenty of sexy women, not all of them are interested in hooking up with you. The good news is that you will notice pattern that will aid in your next approach.

That’s absolutely fine. Remember, there are plenty of amazing women out there, and plenty more where this particular woman came from.

The solution to this is to embrace the abundance mentality. Understand that there’s no such thing as “the one.” Understand that there’s no such thing as a “special girl.” There are more than 3.5 billion women in the world, so you’re bound to find another girl who you’ll like as much as the one that got away. So, just because one girl said no, the next five girls will be happy to spend time with you. So, always keep moving and finding new women.

Spanish helps a lot

I know that I sound like as though I’m beating a dead horse, but, yes, knowing the local language does help you with the local ladies. Crazy how that sounds.

Even with the island’s proximity to the US and its influx of US tourists, not many DR locals actually speak English. Only those who directly work with tourists or who have lived in US (read: wealthy) do. And, if you meet someone who claims to speak English, their knowledge of English would be very limited. Besides, do you really want to fly to a new country only to look for girls who speak decent English?

Didn’t think so.

Might as well stay in Miami if that’s what you want.

So, do yourself a huge favor and learn some Spanish. It’s not a difficult language and you should become conversational fairly quickly.

Learn salsa and bachata

When I lived in Bogota, Colombia, one of my good friends, a Colombian guy, mentioned how knowing salsa is like having another weapon in your arsenal. I didn’t exactly understand what he meant back then, but now understand him perfectly.

No matter how you look at it, salsa and bachata are simply a way of life in the Dominican Republic (and the surrounding countries). Sure, you can choose to ignore venues where this dancing takes place and limit your options. Or, you can learn the basic moves and invite a cute girl to dance. Your choice.

Furthermore, you don’t need to become some salsa master like Mark Anthony; as a gringo (foreigner), you’re not expected to dance as good as Dominicans who started dancing before they knew how to walk. But merely knowing a few basic steps will impress the women and set you apart from the rest of gringos who can’t put together two words of Spanish even if someone pointed a gun to their head.

Beware of scams

While the Dominican Republic may appear like a complete paradise, appearances can be deceiving. There are plenty of women who view foreigners (or any men, really) as an oil well that they can continuously extract resources out without providing much in return. Plenty of scams abound.

Beware of women luring into various bars or clubs. What usually happens is that you will be given a drink and then charged an exorbitant amount of money. If you refuse to pay, a few burly guys will change your mind. 

Beware of women asking you for money. This could be as a way to buy them various things, whether it’s a nice bag, wallet or a dress. Generally, anytime you give a woman some money, she loses attraction for you and begins to view you as a wallet to continuously pull money from.

An exception would be to give her a bit of money for a cab back to her house after she spends an evening or night with you. This is a fairly common practice, even in countries like Panama or Colombia, so do this at your own discretion. 

Understand what the girl wants

Just like anywhere in the world, Dominican women are all different. Some are looking for a fling and nothing more. Some are looking for a sugar daddy. Some are nice, middle-class women that are looking for a serious relationship and maybe even marriage and kids.

What I’m trying to say is that you must understand that every woman wants something. Men want sex, but women want something else. Dominican women certainly aren’t stupid and they also want something out of the exchange.

Your success with women will depend on your ability to properly understand what kind of Dominican women you’re dealing with.

Day game, day game, day game

Day game instills fear in many people. After all, it’s not easy to approach women in broad daylight without first gulping down three beers. Naturally, a lot of people prefer online dating (more on that below) or meeting sexy mujercitas at night. That may be true to places in America where the women are super insecure about guys “creeping” up on them, but is completely acceptable in Latin American countries such as the Dominican Republic. 

In fact, there’s nothing more enjoyable than approaching beautiful and sexy women during the day regardless if you’re in a metropolis like Santo Domingo or are out in one of the beach cities such as Cabarete.

The biggest problem with day game in the Dominican Republic is that since it’s damn hot, most people choose to spend their time inside air-conditioned areas such as shopping malls, supermarkets, cafes, and restaurants. Thus, it’s not like in the super walkable NYC where you can just roll up to a dime and begin spitting game.

Meet them online

If all else fails, you can rely on another time-tested technique: meeting Dominican women online.

But where?

There are the usual suspects such as Tinder and a bunch of other clones where you can meet women from the comfort of your phone. 

But a much better way to meet women would be something like Dominican Cupid, a premier online dating site that showcases beautiful and high-quality women. I have personally tried this site when I spent time in the Dominican Republic and can attest that it’s an awesome site to meet all kinds of women. 

So, if you’re interested in hanging out with a great Dominican woman, create your free profile and start meeting women right from the comfort of your living couch. Then, once you fly into DR, you’ll have a few women already willing to spend time with you. This is certainly the easiest way to meet women.

Advice for finding a quality girl for a relationship

If you’re looking for a more serious type of relationship, then you must take extra precaution with the kind of girls you’re dating and their personalities. It’s no longer just about how hot the girl looks. Here are some things you should take into account:

  • Her family and her relationship with her family. Quality girls come from quality families. She should come from a whole family with both mother and father in a healthy relationship. Dominicans are very close to their families, so if there’s some tension inside the family, that should come immediately come off as a red flag.
  • Her friends. As they say, birds of a feather flock together. Does she have good, healthy friends who are also in healthy relationships? Or are her friends mostly women who party in the clubs and sleep with men within 30 mins (or less) of meeting them.
  • Her work. Does she have a respectable profession that she likes doing or is she stuck at some dead-end job because there are no better prospects (or, worse, unemployed)?
  • Her personality. Is she needy and needs attention all the time? This is probably not a woman you should build a relationship with. Thread carefully.

Of course, there are many other factors to take into account, but these should get you started.

Closing thoughts

The Dominican Republic is an absolutely amazing country. Merely words or pictures don’t do it justice. It’s a place that must be visited and explored. It’s a place that must be felt and sensed. 

As is true for the entire country, the same is true for the women. Consider this guide as merely just scratching the surface on your adventure to find the woman of your dreams in the paradise nation known as the Dominican Republic.

Once again, if you’re looking to meet and date high-quality women, I can’t highly recommend Dominican Cupid for the ease with which you can meet quality and sexy women.

The World Will Give You What You Deserve

I have this family friend. He’s originally from Ukraine but has been living in New York City for over twenty years. He’s like 55 or 60 years old. Whenever I’m back in New York, I see him every few weeks. When he comes over, he always wants to talk about news or politics. Of course, his “news” is always bad. His “politics” is always negative. Then, he switches topics and begins telling me about his personal life. How everyone is sick (or dying). He wraps up the conversation by telling me how Ukraine is shitty, dangerous and only idiots go back.

The last part is especially ironic considering that he hasn’t been back to his homeland in over twenty years while I’ve spent a good part of every year there.

The man is only 55 years old, but he might as well be dead. He’s a citizen of one of the greatest countries in the world, a country with seemingly unlimited opportunities, and yet he’s acting as though he’s stuck in some tiny village (деревня) in the middle of Ukraine where there’s nothing left to do but to rot to death.

I remember feeling this way. There was a time in my life when I rebelled against the world. It wasn’t out of strength; it was out of desperation. A time when I believed that the deck was stacked against me, that I was destined to fail, no matter how hard I tried. A time when I actually believed that the whole world is going to shit and that our future is ruined and that we were better off 20, 30, 50 or even 100 years ago.

A time when I felt sorry for myself and searched for others to blame for whatever wasn’t working for me at the time, whether the fashionable culprit at the time were Republicans, Democrats, Trump, Hillary, Jews, Catholics, Muslims or The Federal Reserve.

Indeed, it’s a very tempting rabbit hole to fall into. It’s compounded by the fact that there are countless Internet communities composed of people who feel helpless and derive the only source of value in their lives from being surrounded by other helpless people.

And, so, no matter where you go, you’re finding people just like yourself. If you’re a failure in life and haven’t achieved much, you will be magically surrounded by others who’ve also failed and haven’t achieved much. If you believe that things were somehow better 50 or 30 years ago—when we didn’t have Internet and people died from primitive diseases that people don’t take seriously today—lo-and-behold and you’re suddenly surrounded by others who’re busy cursing at everything the modern world stands for.

The picture seems complete, but there’s something missing. What you don’t see are the people who’re making real money. What you don’t see are the people who’re making a killing selling either something they created or crafted by someone else. What you don’t see is real, genuine hustle.

What you don’t see is money being pumped out of the keyboard at faster speeds than oil deep inside some West Texas oilfield. 

Maybe I’m more fortunate than others because I was exposed to hustling at a relatively young age. Back in high school, I randomly bumped into a guy selling t-shirts out of his high school locker. He introduced me to his friends who viewed money and hard work as their only religion. That was a long time ago, but the image of them working long days and weeks and reaping exponential returns is forever imprinted in my mind. Since then, I’ve met lots of people but I’ve never met anyone who worked as hard as they did.

It’s like once you see something, you can’t just unsee it. It becomes a part of you, for better or worse—forever.

The 90/10

You don’t see all this struggle and pain because the infamous 80/20 rule permeates everything that we do. It’s like a submarine that’s quietly cruising deep in the vast in the oceans. Just because you don’t see it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

In fact, my experience has shown that rule is actually closer to 90/10. 10% of my products are bringing 90% of the revenue. 10% of my customers bring in 90% of my profit. 10% of my campaigns bring 90% percent of my sales. 10% of my time brings me 90% of the benefit. 10% of my blog posts drive 90% percent of the traffic.

But what nobody sees is the opposite of the 90/10: the 10/90. The 90% ad campaigns that flopped, the 90% of the ideas that died a slow and painful death while taking a piece of my soul with them. 90% of the products that made no sales. 90% of projects that never left the drawing board. The 90% of effort that went seemingly nowhere.

Nobody realizes that to hit a home run, you need to first strike out at nine at-bats. That to achieve what’s working, you must first eliminate what’s not — without first knowing which is which.

Nobody sees the hard work, the grit, the campaigns flopping, the customer complaints, the ad accounts getting banned. The blog posts that are never read, the videos that are never watched. The emails that are never answered. The money that’s never paid. The last few hundred dollars in the bank account before a breakthrough idea is found.

Nobody sees the products failing, the suppliers screwing up, the return requests, the enormous shipping delays, the personal and professional rejections, the PayPal holds, the Stripe chargebacks.

Nobody sees the confusion, the pain, the uncertainty, the “what now” feeling of hopelessness, the erosion of confidence.

Business is war. You can’t expect to cross into the enemy’s territory and still look good for your mother in-law’s dinner that same evening. You will get scratched up, you will get bruised, you might even have a bit of blood on you—if not worse. Lucrative markets are lucrative for a reason.

Of course, it’s easier to sit on the sidelines and be a spectator than to get involved and get your hands dirty. It’s easier to treat it all as a hobby while having no skin in the game. Nobody wants to get their hands dirty.

In other words, what nobody sees is the insidious 90/10 that’s inherent in everything that we do.

But I do. I see it. I see it everywhere. And, over the years, it has become an informal religion to me. I preach it, I teach it, I live it, I dream it, I sleep it. It’s the first thing I think about when I wake up. And it’s the last thing that’s on my mind when I go to sleep.

How can I exploit the 90/10 today?

That’s why, since the beginning of the year, I’ve been balls deep in e-commerce, something that I first began doing in 2005. E-commerce is red hot right now because buying online has never been easier and marketing to those who’re hungry for your goods has also never been simpler.

And that’s why I’ve been so busy building a store after store, loading them with products after products. Then marketing these products to an audience after audience with campaigns after campaigns. Instead of treating my success as a one-hit-wonder, I view it as a war of attrition. Try lots of things, scale what works and eliminate what doesn’t. Rinse and repeat.

And that’s why I’m building different products and services, marketing them for vastly different audiences. Partnering with different brands, suppliers and manufacturers. I know that if I cast my net far and wide enough, I will eventually catch something.

I’m a professional, not some fucking amateur.

That’s also why I don’t have “ideas.” I’m building empires. Ideas fail, empires stand the test of time. Remember, I’m a professional, not some fucking amateur.

I know that because it’s that 90/10 back in play again, but instead of feeling intimidated by it or outright refusing to acknowledge it even exists, I’m embracing it full on.

It’s tempting to try one thing, sit around and wait for something to happen. And when nothing works out, scream at how unfair the world is. But then all you’re doing is committing the most cardinal sin of all: ignoring how the world really works. That’s like starting a new blog, writing one article and expecting to have massive traffic and become famous. No, what you must do is write 500 articles and then reflect. 1,000 is better.

Few years ago, I went to Thailand. It was my third or fourth time to the country, but this time I noticed something that I hadn’t noticed before: everyone is working. Everyone is hustling. This doesn’t include just the young people, but older people too. While waiting for a taxi outside my Chiang Mai apartment complex, a man who must’ve been at least 80 years old passed on his tricycle with one of those compartments attached to the bike. He was selling fresh coconuts. I bought one. In few seconds, he opened it up and handed it to me to drink the juice.

Then I return to New York, and on the subway from the JFK airport, I noticed a young man, not much older than 30 begging for money on the subway car. And he wasn’t even doing anything to earn money like performing some stunt (that others do). Just walking from person to another, asking for some spare change. A young man who can’t get a job in one of the greatest cities on the planet? In a city with virtually unlimited opportunities?

Give me a fucking break.

I used to view the world as an evil creation where any ambition was futile, but now I view it as a boomerang. The more you work, the more you get rewarded. The more you put out, the more you get back in. The more you try, the more you eliminate what doesn’t work.

It’s an empowering feeling to wake up every morning, look outside and realize that you have the power to create, build, and shape the future that you want how you want and when you want. The world is waiting. And, it will make sure that you will get exactly what you rightfully deserve, nothing more and nothing less.

Or you can be like my family friend. 

Thai Women: The Secrets To Dating World’s Most Submissive Women

Even though I mostly dated white and Latin girls, one of my first trips abroad was to Thailand back in 2004. During that trip, I met a wonderful Thai girl who I ended up traveling with around the country for a bit. 

We visited the southern islands, headed up to Chiang Mai and wrapped up our trip in Bangkok.

Comparing to Western women that I was dating at that time (this was before my Latin American adventures), this Thai woman was an absolute breath of fresh air.

This is a guest article from one of my good friends Jake who I met in Chiang Mai back in 2016. Jake loves Thai women and has been continuously living in Thailand since 2013.

Take it away, Jake.

Introduction

While the West is being overrun with radical feminism and #metoo movements, Thailand is still firmly a very traditional society replete with fairly submissive women. I believe that Thai women are some of the most submissive women on the planet. Perhaps they’re like Vietnamese and Cambodian women who are also very submissive. (But I’ve yet to visit those countries, so I can’t speak for them.)

Of course, there are Thai women that are more modern and they are Thai women that are more conservative. The more modern ones are typically found in big cities such as Bangkok, while more conservative ones usually hail from the countryside.

Thai women characteristics 

Thai women, like most Southeastern women, are refreshingly submissive. They’re more submissive than Brazilian women. They’re more submissive than either Ukrainian or Russian women. They’re just one of the most submissive women on the planet.

I would say Thai women are like how the Western women were 50-100 years ago. Before the whole feminism fiasco. They’re so submissive that even merely talking back to a man is pretty much unheard of. Of course, this is changing as the country becomes more Westernized and, indeed, women in Bangkok and perhaps Chiang Mai are more Westernized than, say, women in Isan, a remote region in Thailand known for its very traditional women.

Do Thai women like foreigners?

This is a hotly debated topic and a recent article in Bangkok Post illustrated this issue. 

Here’s what one Thai woman in the article was quoted as saying:

“I dated a few Thai guys before, and one thing I found quite annoying is that they are not as mature as Westerners of the same age,” she said. 

“Many Thai men are childish, irresponsible and jealous for no reason. Meanwhile, many Westerners are completely the opposite.”

I would say there are two types of Thai women: those who only date Thai men and those who date both Thai and Western men. The women who are also open to dating non-Thai women do so because they perceive their own culture to be a bit too restrictive in terms of what women are allowed to do or not to do. So, they are in a way rebelling against the status quo.

Generally, these are the women that themselves are more Western than the typical Thai woman. Perhaps they were exposed to Westerners at an earlier age by studying or even living abroad in countries such as England or the USA.

Of course, there are very traditional women that fall into these categories. I once visited a remote village in the north of the country and ended up meeting a cute girl. We dated for about six months. So, here’s an example of a quality traditional girl that wasn’t exposed to foreigners all that much (although she did speak decent English).

In cities like Bangkok, you’ll find many of the women to be equivalent to Western women, along with some of the negative traits you’re already used to back home: entitled, bitchy, materialistic, etc. Heck, you’ll be able to swipe them on Tinder as you would in New York. The world is truly getting smaller.

Having said that, unlike in some of the other countries where being a Westerner isn’t necessarily an advantage over local guys (e.g., Latin America and Eastern Europe), being a Westerner is truly prized in Asia and Thailand. In other words, if you’re a Western man, you will be in a pretty good spot.

Dating

When it comes to dates, I like to keep it simple. In terms of what I like to do on dates, that really depends where I meet the girl. 

If I’m in Bangkok, and I meet a fairly Westernized girl either on the street or on one of those dating sites, then a solid spot for a first date would be something like a cool local bar to get a couple of drinks. It’s basically like dating in New York. Another solid option is to just meet up for coffee at some random coffee shop in order to properly feel her out.

If I meet a girl at some remote village, I would just go where the locals go, whether it’s a small restaurant or some local hideout where the locals like to meet up. The village girl that I referred to earlier, we went to a local joint and had some Thai noodles. Nothing fancy.

Even in Bangkok, I certainly wouldn’t take a girl to some fancy restaurant for our first date. Keep your investment low. Plus, it would weed out the gold diggers who are only looking to fleece your wallet and nothing more.

For a second date, suggest something as simple as a walk somewhere or, depending on how things are going between the two of you, perhaps invite her back to your house to watch Netflix or something.

Much like in the US, I like to abide by the “3-day rule” when dating Thai women. If by the 3rd date, the woman isn’t willing to get “intimate” with you, there’s a good chance she’s just using you for attention and wasting your time. Of course, super conservative women do exist, so you’ll have to trust your gut with this, but that’s typically been my experience.

Warning signs and red flags

Like anywhere else in the world, there are quality women and not so quality women. Obviously, this depends on your goals. If you’re into casual dating then you can ignore the signs below and keep dating the girl. However, if you’re interested in a long-term relationship, then it certainly helps to keep the following points in my mind.

1) She has lots of male friends

Generally, it’s a bad sign if the woman has tons of male friends. It can mean many things: she needs lots of male attention, she likes to date lots of men at the same time. As you probably know, there exists no friendship between women and men. Men only “friend” women who they’ve either already had sex with or who they want to sleep with. I don’t know any man who would voluntarily friend a 50-year-old woman.

2) She still keeps in touch with her ex-boyfriend

This is a corollary of the previous point. A woman who still keeps in touch with her ex (especially if they broke up after many years) isn’t a healthy sign. 

3) She loves to get overly drunk

This is self-explanatory, as higher quality women tend to drink no to little alcohol and they will definitely not get wasted on a first date with a stranger.

4) She sleeps with you on the first date

This is a controversial point. I’ve had women with whom I’ve slept on the very first date that went on to become super amazing relationships, it can be a sign that the woman you’re with is easy and not especially applicable to a relationship.

5) She asks for money.

This is a big one. Many Asian women think that Western guys are super loaded, so some women have no problems asking the guys they’re getting to know or seeing for some “financial help.” They make up all kinds of reasons for this help: perhaps it’s to help some ”family member” who lives on some farm, or maybe one of her relatives is “sick” and needs financial assistance.

This is a big red flag because no good or quality girl would ever ask her Western boyfriend for money. It’s just not something that’s done. Even if she’s a very poor girl from the village, if she’s a half-way decent girl, she would never ask you for money.

Where to find a good Thai woman

There are unlimited ways to find a good, quality Thai woman whether your goals are a short-term relationship, long-term relationship or even marriage.

Places like the big malls in Bangkok or Chiang Mai, book stores, expat meetups, and different venues are all solid choices to meet amazing, quality women. Even random bars can be decent choices, but I probably wouldn’t go as far as to say that clubs are great options since clubs mostly attract women who’re looking for quick flings and nothing more.

How to meet Thai women online

Online dating is an excellent way to meet Thai women. The most popular way to do so is Tinder, an app used the world over, where you can just swipe left or right depending on if you like the girl, respectively. 

But, what most people don’t know is that there are much better ways to meet Thai women than Tinder. One of them is to use a very popular site Thai Cupid. Thai Cupid is actually one of the largest sites to meet beautiful and quality Thai women regardless of your relationship goals.

Here at Maverick Traveler, we’ve had good experience with Thai Cupid and can wholeheartedly recommend it to everyone if they’re looking to meet high-quality Thai women.

Ladyboys?

I know that many of you have heard of the whole “Lady Boy” thing and, are, rightly worrying, whether that’s something to be concerned about. Basically, you’re worrying if you get drunk one night at some Bangkok bar, how do you make sure that you don’t end up picking up a Lady Boy (who are men that are dressed as Thai women).

I’m here to tell you that this is something you shouldn’t really worry about. There’s just no way you’re going to miss a “girl” with a voice box, and general manly features (ie, big feet). Honestly, I wouldn’t even worry about this – the chances of you hooking up with a lady girl is lower than getting hit by lightning in a Bangkok storm.

Closing thoughts

I hope that by writing this article, you have a roadmap on what it’s like meeting and dating Thai women. Like, I wrote above Thai women are an absolute pleasure to be around with. They’re super feminine, submissive and friendly—even if they’ve rejected you. 

Have a great time in the land of smiles.

Republic of Georgia: Culture, Masculinity and Overall Vibe

One of the best parts of living in Kiev, Ukraine—apart from actually living in an amazing, world-class city—is the proximity to many other interesting cities and countries. 

With just a short flight, lasting anywhere from 1-3 hours, you can find yourself in places like Lithuania, Georgia, Armenia, Azerbaijan, Turkey, Cyprus just to name a few.

For New Years, I visited my old stumping ground of Lithuania, a mere one-hour flight from Kiev. I spent two years living in the capital, Vilnius, so I know the city really well.

Last week, I took advantage of this opportunity and flew in a completely different direction: to Tbilisi, Georgia where I spent 5 days.

Georgia has been on my radar for a while now. It’s certainly a country I kept hearing great things about, ranging from its legendary hospitality to picturesque cities and amazing food.

Out of all of those three, I was only really familiar with the latter: food. Back when I lived in NYC, I used to frequent a great Georgian restaurant in my mostly Russian neighborhood.

Here in Kiev, Georgian restaurants are seemingly everywhere, so not even two weeks go by when I don’t checkout a new Georgian restaurant and try some of the amazing Georgian specialities. 

Georgia is an interesting country. While it’s not geographically in Europe, it has aspirations of joining EU and NATO one day. For the most part, the people look and act European, probably closer to Southern European countries such as Italy and Greece.

Corruption and Soviet Past

Georgia was one of the first post-Soviet republics to undergo a “rose revolution” where an ex-Soviet leader was deposed and a new, pro-Western leader came into place.

As a result, Georgia became closely aligned with EU and America instead of Russia. 

This conflict culminated in a brief war in 2008, with Russia gaining control of two provinces: Abkhazia and South Ossetia. Some say this is Russia’s hedge against Georgia further integrating into EU and NATO.

After talking to some locals about this, I got the feeling that this revolution and change of government resulted in lower corruption and a slightly more efficient and transparent government. Of course, countries truly change over longer periods of time, so it will be interesting to see what’s Georgia is like in 10 years or more.

Costs

Even with all the talk about modernization and Westernization, Georgia is pretty poor. It’s poorer than both Ukraine and Russia (not to mention richer Baltic countries such Lithuania) and is probably on the level of Moldova when it comes to the quality of living. (Although Tbilisi is much nicer than Kishinev, the capital of Moldova).

While the capital, Tbilisi, has a bunch of nice restaurants and lively bars, as soon as you wonder past the old town and away from the tourist-infested streets, you’ll see exactly how poor the country is. Plus, this is Tbilisi I’m talking about—the capital and the richest city. The rest of the country is even poorer.

In Tbilisi, the prices of food are pretty much on par with Kiev, but the apartment rentals were much cheaper. I was able to rent a pretty nice and spacious apartment for around $20/night smack in the center of old town. 

If you’re on an even tighter budget, you can easily score a decent place for as little as $15/night in a good location as well.

The capital: Tbilisi, Georgia

Tbilisi is a pleasant little city with a population of a bit over 1 million. There’s an old town with its narrow little streets and charming cafes and restaurants. Then there’s the newer part of town with a wide boulevard and things like H&M, Zara and other popular Western brands.

I stayed in the old town, so all I needed to do was get out of my apartment, walk one block and be surrounded by all the hustle and bustle. The newer part of the town isn’t as charming, and I don’t really recommend basing yourself there.

While there are plenty of places to eat and drink (Georgia’s most famous drink is its wine), the overall problem with Tbilisi is that it’s just too small for someone who likes to live in bigger cities.

So, if you’re a big city guy like me, you’ll find the city just a tad too small and provincial for what you’re used to.

Is Tbilisi good for expat living?

One thing I kept hearing over and over again is how suitable Georgia (and Tbilisi) are for living, especially if you’re an expat or digital nomad.

I kept replaying that thought in my head while wandering around Tbilisi, but ultimately realized that this wouldn’t be a city I could ever see myself living in.

As I mentioned above, the city is too small for my tastes. That, along with the language being completely undecipherable to a foreigner like myself (the letters are unlike anything you’ve seen before), it’s just not a city that I can see basing myself for an extended amount of time.

Perhaps if I had reliable contacts in the city that could help me get setup and acquainted with the country and culture, that all might change, but it’s certainly nowhere near as an easy city to get settled as compared to Kiev or Prague.

On the other hand, if the smallness of the city and its confusing language doesn’t phase you, and you’re attracted to the overall feel and personality of how this place differs from a typical European city, this may just be the city for you.

Masculinity 

Georgia—as well as the surrounding Caucus region with countries like Armenia and Azerbaijan—is a good place to observe what real masculinity is all about.

Georgian men are no pushovers and Georgian women are super feminine. I would say this dynamic is even more pronounced here than in Eastern Europe.

While Eastern European men are masculine and women are super feminine, there are elements of femininization that are seeping into the culture courtesy of feminist culture in Western Europe and USA. 

Georgia, not being in Europe at all, is a bit more removed from the harmful influences of the EU. As a result, masculinity in this part of the world is very traditional.

I spent some time with a Georgian acquaintance and his girlfriend. While he isn’t some macho man, the way he carries himself and behaves to his girl was unlike anywhere else I’ve seen in the world. His masculine frame was simply unbeatable.

As a result, his girlfriend reacted by being super feminine around him and enjoying his company.

Final thoughts

I liked Georgia. Tbilisi is an easy city to explore and is a nice gateway to the rest of the country. The food is awesome (after eating Eastern European food all my life, you can only eat so many Borsch and dumplings before getting bored), so eating relatively exotic food was a nice bonus.

At this point, I view Georgia as a nice escape from the daily life here in Kiev, Ukraine. The flights are cheap and, in mere two hours, you land in a completely new country with its own customs and traditions and great food.

Additionally, as a tourist, the smallness of the city becomes an advantage instead of a disadvantage. This way you don’t need to spend lots of time and money navigating the city and finding what you’re looking for. 

Tbilisi was a nice gateway to Georgia. In the future, I hope to explore more of Georgia, including the coastal city of Batumi as well as some of the more inland cities. 

However, being a big city guy, one of my future plans is to visit other big capital cities such as Yerevan in Armenia (I’ve already visited the other big capital, Baku, Azerbaijan). Plus, it would be cool to check out another country in the same region.

While I’ve been enjoying living here in Kiev, it’s nice to be discovering another benefit of the city: quick and easy escapes to new and exciting destinations that I wouldn’t be considering otherwise.

Brazil Cupid Review: How To Meet Gorgeous Brazilian Women On Brazil Cupid

Let’s not beat around the bush: Brazilian women are one of the—if not the—sexiest women on this very fine planet. Like my good friend Jake once told me, “If you haven’t dated a Brazilian woman, you really haven’t lived.”

After living for about 3 years in Brazil, I couldn’t agree more.

When it comes to meeting Brazilian women, you have two options: you can meet them in person or you can meet them online.

The main benefit of meeting them online is that you don’t have to be physically in Brazil; you can do that from the comfort of your living room back in New York, Los Angeles or London.

When it comes to meeting women online, you have two options: Tinder and an array of online dating sites.

As far as Tinder is concerned, while you can meet women there, the women tend to be of lower quality than if you meet them through some of the other sites. Plus, they flake a lot more.

In fact, one of my favorite dating sites for meeting gorgeous and high-quality women is Brazil Cupid.

Brazil Cupid is a great way to meet women

Brazil Cupid is actually one of the sites that I started using when I arrived in Brazil. As a result, I went on an array of dates, and eventually met a girl who became my first serious girlfriend in Brazil, a relationship that lasted for many months.

That’s why I wholeheartedly recommend Brazil Cupid to anyone who wants to meet a high-quality Brazilian woman.

OK, so now you understand why the site is so awesome, you’re probably wondering as to what’s the best way to use the site.

It’s actually pretty simple.

Let me tell you about the best practices.

Step 1) Go over to Brazil Cupid and create an account

This step is completely free, so you don’t have any excuses not to do it. 

Go do it now, I will wait

Step 2) Fill out your profile with awesome photos and description.

Here’s the thing. When you’re meeting a woman in real life, there’s an immediate visual connection, so the woman can decide whether she likes you or not. That kind of thing happens fast because it’s done visually on a subconscious level. 

But when it comes to online dating, it’s all about putting in the right information so that you’re able to make the first impression that gets you through the door to the actual date.

Unlike real dating, online dating is really a two-step process.

Women screen men first to see if they want to meet up with them or not.

That’s how it works.

So, when it comes to your profile, the most important element is the pictures. Just avoid any creepy pics. Instead, if you have a few pics with a nice background such as a beach, use those.

You also don’t need to be smiling like crazy in the pictures, but also don’t try to be mean and serious.

Having a good picture matters, a lot.

From my experience dating online, having a great picture is of paramount importance. After all, it’s the first that a woman sees when she checks out your profile.

It’s what she sees before she reads your profile.

It’s what she sees before she reads about your hobbies or interests.

It’s what determines her attraction for you.

So, yeah, pictures are everything.

Pictures are about sexual attraction.

Here are some guidelines for having a great picture:

1) No weird/creepy/serious picture

2) No drunken/partying/doing drugs picture

3) No picture of you surrounded by several male or female friends

Keep it simple. 

The best picture should be of yourself with a cool background. Maybe some cool mural (painting on the side of the building). 

Or, better yet, a nice beach.

My best picture has always been me sitting in some beach cafe, slightly smiling at the camera, with the background of the beach behind me.

That’s it.

There’s something about the beach that always catches the attention of the women (or anyone else really).

Starting a conversation

So, now that you have your profile filled out, the next step is messaging the girls that you like and starting a conversation.

So, what exactly do you say?

The best way would be to say something innocent like:

“Oi, tudo bem? :)” 

Or

“Oi, como vc esta? :)” 

Both of those examples simply mean “How are you?” 

Definitely helps things out.

Brazilian girls love to use smileys everywhere, so I definitely recommend them since it makes you seem not as serious and uptight as someone else. 

Once the girl replies, you can ask her the quintessential question that every foreigner has already asked a local girl (and the question she’d probably heard many times before):

“Do you speak English?” 

Or

“Voce fala ingles?” 

I will warn you though, not many people speak English in Brazil. I mean, you will discover various levels of English speakers, but it’s hard to find a person who speaks English fluently.

Most people will speak English here and there, though, so it should be enough for your needs.

Remember, you’re also chatting so the girl can take her time to formulate a question or response, or, better yet, she can use a translator app to look up an unknown word if she gets confused.

Asking her out

After chatting with her for a bit, the next step is to ask her out.

Remember, the whole point of chatting is to warm things up for the actual date, where you know, you can get physical and get to know the girl a bit better.

I would recommend something innocent like a coffee shop, a bar, or just meet up somewhere and go for a walk in the park.

Although I’m not a huge fan of dates during the day, I understand there’s a time and place for them so if there’s a cool spot you wanna check it out like an exhibit or day event, don’t hesitate to check it out.

For the second date, I may invite the girl to a nice bar or maybe even back to my house for dinner (depending on the feel on the first date).

Final thoughts

Brazil Cupid is an amazing way to meet Brazilian women online. When you go on the site, you have hundreds or even thousands of profiles of awesome women that are just waiting for you to send them a message.

You would be foolish to not take advantage of this and pass up on the opportunity. 

That’s just crazy if you ask me.

OK, so you know what to do, click here to start meeting awesome Brazilian women on Brazil Cupid

Good luck.

9 Location-Independent Skills That Will Forever Make You Immune To A 9-5

I simply love my life. Every day I wake up in a great mood, feeling energized and lucky to be alive.

The best part of my life is that I design it exactly how I want it. I wake up, have my breakfast, a big bowl of tea, work for a bit, then go to the gym.

The rest of the day consists of more work, lunch with a friend or something else.

The reason that I’m able to do that isn’t because of some special voodoo or some luck; it’s because I’m able to create value that’s consumed by people over the Internet.

While I run multiple online businesses that provide me with location-independent businesses, you don’t need to build a business in order to have this kind of life.

All you really need is to have skills that are highly in demand by others and provide such services over the Internet.

Thinking about doing the same? Here are a few solid job ideas:

Copywriting

If you know how to copywrite, you have a license to print money. That’s how lethal this specialty is. 

In a nutshell, copywriting is the ability to write text and words that connect directly with the reader, solves a particular problem they’re experiencing and then sells them a solution that problem.

This applies to basically everything, whether it’s selling physical products such as eCommerce, digital downloads or things like webinars and informational products.

So, while, you must find the customer, bring them to your site, you still need to actually sell the customer once they’re on your site and trying to figure out whether your product will solve their problem.

That’s where solid copywriting comes in. 

Do it well, and you will be handsomely rewarded.

Digital Marketing

While marketing means many things to many people, in a nutshell is the discipline is finding groups of similar people who may be interested in the product you’re selling.

Digital marketing simply means finding such people on the Internet (as opposed to in real life).

How exactly do you find these people? Well, you have to put yourself into the mind of that person and start thinking like them. (That’s called “customer avatar.”) 

Then, you ask yourself: are they hanging out on Facebook? Are they searching for a solution on Google? Or are they hanging on some very specific forums?

Of course, these are obvious, easy solutions. Experienced marketers need to be creative and use a variety of techniques and tricks to pinpoint the locations of their users, wherever they are on the Internet.

FB Advertising / Google AdWords

While marketing is a generally broad field, one of the most in-demand specialities when it comes to marketing are Facebook Advertising experts and Google AdWords experts.

In case you didn’t know, Facebook Advertising is extremely hot right now and many people have been able to make incredible fortunes in a very short amount of time.

The problem with Facebook Ads is that there’s an incredibly steep learning curve, so you must spend a lot of money to buy all that experience before you even get good (if ever).

Thus, someone with a lot of experience in successfully buying traffic and turning a profit is indeed in high demand. In fact, just recently I consulted with a Facebook expert and paid them almost four-figures for several hours of work where they diagnosed and solved a couple of problems in one of my eCommerce stores.

I made the money back in profit in about two days.

The same goes for someone who knows Google Advertising (AdWords) in and out. Although it’s not as complicated as Facebook Ads, having the ability to hire and expert who can hit the ground running quickly is an important asset in a fast-growing business.

Website Optimization

This is mostly a catch-all terms that represents all the things that you can do to make a website (a store) better and faster. 

This includes things like speed improvements, landing page optimizations, conversion optimization and other things in this area.

If you can show a potential client how increasing their website’s speed even by even few seconds can make them $X,XXX more revenue (they are studies that prove this), you will have an interested client.

If you can help a client streamline their website and improve conversion ratio and increase their revenue, they will be very interested in working with you.

I know businesses that make anywhere from $1,000-$20,000 (and more) per month in helping businesses optimize their websites.

Search Engine Optimization (SEO)

SEO is the art of optimizing a website so that it ranks high on Google for specific keyword(s) and, therefore, receives tons of traffic. 

It’s one of those skills where you basically take an idea and generate money out of thin air. 

Of course, there are ever-changing Google updates to know about, the best practices and a bit of trial and error to see what works and what doesn’t.

If you’re willing to put in the work, this can be an extremely lucrative skill to leverage for clients as well as for yourself.

Affiliate Marketing

Affiliate marketing is how I started making money on the Internet back in 2003 or so. It’s one of the most tried and true methods of making money online and no wonder it’s one of the most popular and time-tested ways of making money out there.

Affiliate marketing is when you market other people’s products or services. When the other person purchases the product, you get a commission. That commission can range from something like 10% to even 100% (although it’s typically somewhere in the range of 50-75%).

Affiliate marketing is great because you don’t need to spend time and effort to build your product and service to sell. All you have to do pick a product or service that solves your audience’s problem and go from there. 

Essentially, you’re just a digital middle man who finds an audience for a third party product and gets a cut for the effort.

The above jobs are only a quick sample. What they all have in common is that they directly bring revenue. There’s money involved in a direct way.

“Building” jobs

The skills I listed above are mainly “selling” skills. These are the skills that enable you to hit the ground running without needing to work for anyone else. That’s because, as I mentioned above, these jobs have direct access to money.

The second type of skills are “building” skills. These are the skills that other people can hire you for. Then, these other people combine your “building” skills with their “selling” skills and make lots of money.

Content writing

For this blog, I wrote all the content myself (except a few guest articles who were submitted by others), but for other sites I like to outsource content. 

I basically tell these writers what the content should be about, how long should the article be, and they do the rest. This saves me lots of time and effort that could be potentially put into other projects and endeavors. 

Make no mistake about it, content writing is hard and monotonous work, especially if you need to write about subjects you have zero passion or interest in. 

Programming

In my former life, I was a software developer. Being a logical thinker, I enjoyed getting the computer to do exactly what I wanted to do. Programming came to me naturally and, as it happened, it was a skill that paid extremely high salaries. That allowed me an awesome lifestyle.

Software development is the quintessential remote job because you’re basically writing code (instructions) that make the software that everyone has installed on their computers.

While software development isn’t for everyone, if you can learn how to code, you will have access to a plethora of jobs that will allow you to finally become free and see the world.

The downside is that it’s a rather boring skill where you’re forced to talk to the computer for many hours instead of people (via email). 

Web design/General design

Last but not least, we have programmer’s cousin: web design. Whereas programming is a very logical task, web design is much more artistic and emotional.

While I’ve been a decent developer, I’ve always sucked at web design. It’s not a skill that I ever managed to do well, and I don’t even know if it’s something that someone like me can actually learn.

Nevertheless, if you’re more of an artistic type of person and someone who enjoys creating stuff, you may be suitable for design work.

Moreover this isn’t just applicable to web design, but all kinds of design. I have a friend who does logo designs for major corporations. He’s making some good money at it.

But that’s just one of those skills that I personally wouldn’t be able to do, never mind excel at. It just not something that I’m design for. 

Live on the internet, make money online

What do all these jobs have in common? They live on the Internet. They take advantage of people’s wants and desires and deliver a particular service that others will enjoy.

Obviously, the first category of jobs allow you to hit the ground running and make money while working for yourself. These jobs are the building blocks for a business. 

Whether you’re an affiliate market, an SEO strategist or an FB Advertiser guru, you’re making money directly from clients or from your own projects. That means you can hire other people, expand the business, grow, etc.

The second category of jobs, however, are the jobs that don’t deal directly with money. When you specialize in one of those jobs, you’re typically hired by someone else to help build a product for their business. You’re not building your own business. 

That’s ok because you’re able to get a nice salary and live the location-independent lifestyle.

Of course, my preference is mastering the skills for the jobs in the first category. Those allow you to be more independent and have complete control in the kind of money you make. 

Nevertheless, any one of these jobs is a lot better than being forever stuck in a fluorescent office with annoying and soulless colleagues and two-week yearly vacations along to “off-the-beaten” path destinations like Cancun, Cabo San Lucas or Key West.

Kiev Killed My Inner Digital Nomad; Plans For 2019

It’s hard to believe that it’s already February of 2019. I faintly remember exactly a year ago when I was hustling in New York City, trying to build my first ecommerce business as well as to understand the monster that is Facebook Ads. The end result was building several successful ecommerce stores that are mostly running on autopilot and are turning in a tidy profit every month.

As I write this, I’m sitting in my new apartment in the smack center of Kiev, about a block from the main street and a mere 10 minutes from the Independence Square where the famous “Maidan Revolution” took place in 2014.

Throughout the past 3-4 years, I’ve lived all over Kiev in all kinds of different neighborhoods, but this apartment definitely takes the cake. I suppose it’s the reward for all the hard work.

I love living in Kiev so much, that I sort of lost the desire to escape every now and then to another country and see a new city. Moving around the world just doesn’t have the same allure as it had before. Sure, I’ve traveled a bit throughout Ukraine, visiting different cities, but I could definitely see myself living in Kiev for the foreseeable future without needing to move around too much.

One great thing about Kiev (and Ukraine) is the location. Most of Europe is only several hours away by plane. Then, there’s the Caucus region consisting of countries such as Armenia and Georgia that are also a few hours away. Flights to these destinations aren’t terribly expensive, so there’s always an opportunity to fly to Georgia for a weekend or more and then come back to Kiev.

Thus, Georgia and Armenia are two destinations I hope to explore this year.

When it comes to Europe as a whole, it’s a continent that I’ve covered throughout the years so there aren’t many countries that I’d like to visit (or revisit).

There’s one country that I’ve visited and hope to return to: Portugal. I visited Portugal back in 2012 and had an excellent time. I actually found it friendlier and more laid-back than Spain. Plus, since I speak Portuguese (as a result of living in Brazil), I can easily get around, talk to locals and get the inside scoop on the best spots not covered in your favorite guide-book.

When it comes to exploring the warm shores of the Mediterranean, I’ve visited most of the countries and relaxed on their beautiful shores. The main exception on this list is Greece, an interesting country that I haven’t yet visited.

Hopefully this year, I will finally get to know this interesting country and enjoy its awesome food and pristine beaches.

Of course, there’s Asia with amazing countries such as Thailand and Bali, where I spent several months living back in 2016. I also have a desire to visit China one day, but as it stands, I’m not sure that I will be able to do this year. Maybe my plans will change, and I will drop European countries in favor of visiting Thailand or China.

The other big country that I haven’t mentioned is the country where I mostly grew up and spent the majority of my time living and working: United States of America.

As the years went on, my interest and desire to spend time in this country has markedly decreased. I’m now at the point in my life where I would have no reason to visit USA had it not been for my family and my one-year-old niece that I love seeing grow up. She finally started walking and it’s incredible to see her grow from a small baby to an actual human being with her own character and behavior.

However, if I didn’t have family there, I honestly can’t say when—and if ever—I would return to America.

There’s nothing about America that interests me in visiting.

While living in Kiev is far from perfect (the winter sucks). After more than 10 years of traveling and living abroad, I’m happy to say that I’ve found my oasis of happiness. At least for now.

Projects in the pipeline

There are a couple of projects that I’m currently working on. The first is a book that I’ve been writing on and off for about eight months. It’s based on my struggles and tribulation of building a location-independent business while living around the world.

The second is a new course that I’m working on. It’s about relationships. After I conquered the money issue, relationships have been something that I’ve been struggling with for years (even without realizing it), but now believe I have a solid grasp on.

Meeting women is fairly easy, building healthy relationships is much, much harder. This training will transfer to you my knowledge and experience of things like how to filter women for relationship or marriage material and much more. If there’s one thing I regret in my life, it’s not knowing how to determine whether the woman is truly quality or not, early on so that I didn’t need to waste my time, energy and resources on a hopes for a relationship that never worked out.

Aside from that, I will also be announcing the opening of the Maverick Entrepreneur Bootcamp Live program. In this program, I will be working with a select number of you on a 1:1 basis and helping you with all kinds of issues, whether it’s business or personal. This will be a limited time program, and I will only select a few individuals out of many applicants.

Stay tuned for further announcements.

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