As a man, who’s tired of the whole dating scene, but also as someone who’s currently living in Ukraine—and originally born in Ukraine—I must admit that marriage is something that crosses my mind now and then.
Coupled with the fact that Ukrainian women are beautiful, feminine, know how to make a mean breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and you have a perfect combination of someone you could see spending your life with.
In this guide, we’re going to talk about the pros and cons of marrying a Ukrainian woman, how to find a woman to marry, how to vet them for marriage, where to meet them and the common pitfalls you need to avoid if you want your marriage to be successful, or at least as successful as it could be.
So, let’s be realistic for once. Does this article need any introduction? I mean, if you’ve stumbled on this page, then you know that Ukrainian women are some of the most gorgeous and feminine women on the planet.
They’re a huge difference from the masculine and annoying American and other Western women seeping with entitlement.
At least that’s what everyone has been saying and I completely agree with that.
As someone who’s been living in Ukraine for many years, in this article, I will walk you through the process of finding a quality Ukrainian woman to marry, tell you which women to avoid and give you more tips to finding a quality wife.
Why you should marry a Ukrainian woman
First of all, allow me to ask the most important question you might have on your mind: why should you marry a Ukrainian woman in the first place?
It’s a multi-faceted question.
Whether you want to get married or not is your decision. For instance, I know that many men don’t want to get married whatsoever regardless if it’s a Ukrainian woman or not, but since you’re here, you probably want to get married.
But does it need to be a Ukrainian woman?
What about plenty of other women such as the women from your country (assuming you’re American, British, Australian or similarly hail from some other western country).
Now, if you ask me, I think what makes Ukrainian women so desirable for marriage is one reason: they’re still very traditional when compared to western women.
That means, when you come home, expect to have a clean place, have a nice dinner and other elements of comfort waiting for you at the house.
This may sound like I’m speaking in a foreign language to many of you, but that’s how things should be. But I digress.
Overall, I believe one should get married to a Ukrainian woman for one reason only: to have a family. Otherwise, it’s much better to be single.
Why marriage is important in Ukraine
I know what some of you are probably thinking: do I really need to get married to a woman? Why can’t I just live with her?
Well, here’s the thing: in Ukraine (and other Eastern European countries), security to a woman is very important. It’s not like out in America or the UK, where you can simply live with a woman for 20 years without any sort of commitment (which is in fact what many men do).
In Ukraine, because the state doesn’t provide much of a safety blanket, the man must provide it by getting married.
Thus, it’s not enough to simply live with a woman, it’s important to make it legally binding so that she understands that you won’t simply disappear tomorrow and leave her to raise the family, etc.
How to vet a Ukrainian woman for marriage
It’s important to understand that not all women are suitable for marriage; some women are more suitable than others.
In Eastern Europe, we have a saying that translates roughly like this: “There are some women that you date (have fun) and there are some women that you marry.”
I completely agree with this. In fact, in Ukraine, there are LOTS of women that you can have fun with, but choosing to marry a woman is something else entirely.
Remember back to the girlfriends that you had (in Ukraine or other countries)? Why did you decide to leave them and not marry them?
Chances are you probably didn’t view them as marriage material. Something about them didn’t jive well with you when it came to having that partner for life.
Maybe the woman you were dating was a bit “loose” or sluttier than you would’ve had liked as the future mother of your children.
Or maybe you enjoyed going out and having sex with her, but couldn’t stand being in the same room with her for an extended amount of time.
Or, maybe—and this is very important—she couldn’t cook a mean Borsch (Ukrainian beat soup) or pretty much any other dish that you envisioned your wife to cook.
There are lots of reasons why some woman would perfect for spending a few months with, but not someone you’d ever choose to make your life partner.
After listening to many of our readers and speaking to many guys who’ve gotten married, I’ve come up with some solid signs that the woman you’re dating may be suitable for marriage.
Signs that a woman is marriage material
She doesn’t drink a lot. I consider myself a social drinker and so that’s cool if a girl I’m with likes to drink now and then, but it would be a red flag if she loves to get completed destroyed every chance she got.
She doesn’t smoke. I don’t smoke, never did, so I would categorically opposed to any girl who smokes as a long-term prospect. And, even if I did smoke, the woman shouldn’t smoke because that’s a sign of low will power.
She can cake awesome meals. OK, so, call me old fashioned, but if a woman can’t cook, then it’s hard to consider her as the “future mother of my children.” Cooking is one of the most nurturing and feminine things a woman should do. This is especially weird in a country such as Ukraine where the majority of women can cook amazing meals.
She’s not too old. I’m not telling you to not marry women who are in their late 30s or 40s. But, if you want to have children with this woman, it’s important to make sure she’s young enough to have children. My recommendation is to look for women in their 20s, or maybe early 30s as the absolute maximum. Once a woman is older than 35, the chances of her having kids decrease exponentially. Keep them young.
Your friends and family like her. As they say, “Love is blind.” That’s very true. While you may be in love with a woman (or at least infatuated by her), but, yet, all your friends and family can’t stand her and wonder what you see in her. Make sure that your family and friends like her as well. They don’t need to love her, but it’s important for them to at least like her.
Unfortunately, in my experience, the majority of Ukrainian women ding at least one of the points mentioned above. Ukrainian women aren’t the most conservative in the world and many of them love to smoke, drink, party, etc.
That’s why you need to be super ruthless when looking for a life-long partner.
Where to meet Ukrainian ladies looking for marriage
Once you understand what makes a woman marriage material, the next step is to find such a woman, get to know her for some time and then (I recommend at least a year) and then, hopefully, tie the knot.
The place where you meet your future wife is of paramount importance. After all, the places that she frequents and looks for possible mates says a lot about her.
There are plenty of places where you can find Ukrainian women for marriage. You can meet them through a social circle, such as your job, a conference or some other event.
You can meet them out in the real world such as on the street, a park, a coffee shop, or a restaurant.
There’s also nightlife, but I don’t recommend that simply because the women you meet there wouldn’t be of such high quality that they would be suitable for marriage.
Think about what kind of women participate in the nightlife? Mostly narcissistic women who like attention in the form of sex, that’s who.
A solid place to meet women for marriage would be online. I have known lots of friends and even some family members who met their future wives online.
Because EVERYONE is online. Quality women, not so quality and everyone in between.
And there’s a big BUT.
Before you go and download that famous app—yes, Tinder—please understand that the women you will meet on there would be those who are interesting in mostly one-night stands and not long-term, monogamous relationships.
This is how it is all over the world, in America, in South America, in Europe, everywhere.
Instead, I highly recommend you check out the best site for online dating: Ukraine Date. It’s a site we recommend highly here at Maverick Traveler for its transparency and ease of use.
Oh, and did I mention that they have the highest amount of single and quality women out of all other sites?
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Well, there you have it, an honest to goodness guide on finding a Ukrainian woman for marriage from a Ukrainian guy who’s living in Ukraine. While it does require some work, I believe that you’d agree that the rewards of being with an awesome woman are worth it.
As someone who’s originally from Ukraine but also who’s traveled around the world, I can’t help but agree with such a statement.
In this article, I want to open up and share my experiences dating Ukrainian women from someone who was born in the country but mostly grew up abroad.
This is going to be my objective assessment of Ukrainian dating culture from the perspective of someone who’s seeking casual as well as serious relationships.
Ukrainian women – are they the hottest in the world?
Many men consider Ukrainian women as some of the most beautiful in the world, an impression not lost on the women themselves. I think such statements are absurd: beauty, after all, is subjective. There’s beauty all around us.
Having said that, although I have seen some beautiful women during my travels, I must say that nowhere else in the world I’ve seen such a high number of women that can be easily called gorgeous or at least cute, or as I like to say, “easy on the eyes.”
This didn’t happen in Brazil, Spain, Mexico, and even Russia (although Russia does come close).
Ukrainian women physical characteristics
While it’s usually hard to tell between a German from a Dutchman or an Englishman from a Canadian, you can typically see a Ukrainian woman a mile away. There’s something about Slavic—and especially Ukrainian—women that makes them immediately recognizable in any country, pretty much in any part of this world.
Ukrainian women typically range from around 5’6” to 5’11” and up. I would say the average Ukrainian woman is around 5’7-5’9” in height. I’m around 5’9” and, while most of the Ukrainian women have been shorter than me, they haven’t been shorter than me by much. They have also been plenty of women who’ve been at least my height or taller.
Ukrainian women also love to wear high heels and once they do, they automatically become at least 5’9” and taller. Keep that in mind if you’re someone on the shorter side of the spectrum.
When it comes to physical build, it has been my experience that around 85-90% Ukrainian women (under 35 years old) are either slim or of average built, and I can probably count on one hand how many obese young Ukrainian women I’ve seen in the wild. This is in stark contrast to your typical American city where seemingly every third woman you see is overweight or downright obese.
Aside from their height and weight, they typically have very unique facial features that automatically sets them apart in a sea of white people. They have straight and usually long hair, small curved-up noses, and typically small, squinty eyes. Ukrainian women vary in type of complexion; many are light-skinned, but many have also dark hair and dark eyes.
Dating Ukrainian women – The cultural background
An aspect of EE culture that’s very different from Latin America, Southeast Asia or even the US is that there’s a certain element of stoicism and “alphaness” present. Eastern Europe isn’t exactly a paradise on earth: there’s lots of poverty, poor job security (companies can hire and fire people as they please), so you must be pretty tough and aggressive to survive and make ends meet (not to mention even prosper).
That’s very different from when I lived and worked in the Bay Area/Silicon Valley, easily making $150,000/year writing software code and being surrounded by similar guys (and gals) who were making the same or more.
As of this writing, the median income in Ukraine is something like $500/month. That’s in Kyiv, the mighty capital. In the other big cities, it’s closer to something like $300/mo.
This means that the wealth must be built from scratch or via some high-level connections.
So, if you see a guy driving an expensive car (Toyota Land Cruiser, BMW 7 Series, high-end Mercedes Benz, etc), chances are he’s not leasing it as you would in America, but actually bought it with cash, with money that he made via a serious business or some corrupt means.
As a result, there’s a bit of a cutthroat culture that pervades everything that’s going on. It touches upon everything: professional life, personal life, relationships, etc.
In America, everyone can potentially be well off, and women themselves can make more money than men, so there’s less of a need to hunt down that serious “alpha”—that successful guy who’s making a ton of money. Whereas here in Ukraine, where the majority of the population makes enough to subsist, that’s a lot more important.
Ukrainian dating culture – What’s it like?
The first rule is that the man pays for everything.
Ukrainian dating culture is very traditional and patriarchal. The rules are very simple: the man pays. Period. The man pays for initial dates. The man pays for anything that he invites the woman to do.
If he invites a woman for coffee, he pays. If he invites her to dinner, he pays. If he invites her to take a trip together to another city or country, he pays.
In the case of an expensive overseas trip, the man pays for everything and the woman might throw in a little bit to help with the expenses (or she might not).
After the relationship develops and the couple begins living together, the woman should start contributing more but the relationship will probably never be truly 50/50. In some cases, the woman might scoff at the idea of her contributing any money (which can be seen as a relationship red flag).
The culture in Eastern Europe is very materialistic by nature. So, the question of who pays for what is one of the thorniest issues. And, from my experience dating Eastern European women for many years, it’s usually the man that pays for everything unless other prior arrangements have been made.
Do Ukrainian women prefer casual vs. serious relationships?
My prior experience with Eastern European taught me that unlike Western women who were “liberated” by feminism and all of that, Eastern European women are still very traditional and prefer a steady and committed relationship as opposed to dating random guys every day of the week.
I was both right and wrong.
I was right because, for the most part, Eastern Europeans are much more relationship-minded than their Western counterparts such as American women. I mostly credit that to more traditional culture and parents’ influence (who were raised in a much more traditional environment).
But I was also wrong because, in the big Eastern European cities such as Kyiv and Moscow, the women are as much casual as their Western counterparts. Having lived and dated in New York City, many of the women that I dated in Kyiv weren’t all that different from American women. They had great jobs and were having the time of their life—settling down and having kids was the last thing on their mind.
Relationships in Ukraine can be very transactional
Another thing you must understand about Ukrainian culture is that, at its core, it’s very transactional. When I first arrived in Ukraine after living abroad for most of my adult life, I was confused about this, thinking that everyone is nice and friendly and open, and couldn’t really comprehend how it can be so transactional, but the more time I’ve spent here, the more I realized how true it was.
It’s certainly not uncommon for friends to lend decent sums of money to each other and for your girlfriend (or some girl you’re seeing) to ask you to borrow $500 (or more) at some random point in your relationship.
This is mostly limited to places like Ukraine and Russia and doesn’t happen in the West or even the Baltic countries (Lithuania, Latvia, and Estonia). Although I have dated plenty of women who had decent jobs and made decent money, I’ve also dated women in Lithuania and Latvia who weren’t making that much money, but would never dream of borrowing $500+ from their boyfriend.
Ukrainian life is rife with corruption, so the general mindset is “Let’s steal this and enrich ourselves” or “Let’s screw this guy over so that we’re in a better position.” Believe me, as an Eastern European guy I understand this all too well. I can also guarantee you that other Ukrainians would agree with me as well. No wonder that few of the locals have anything ever great to say about their government.
This cultural element isn’t lost on women, so, like anywhere else, you have your share of conniving people trying to get their share at your expense.
At first, I figured this was the result of poverty and low-income conditions. But after countless conversations with both Ukrainian women and men, I realized that it has more to do with Ukraine specifically than the fact that Ukraine is a low-income country.
After all, Latin America and SE Asia have their poor regions as well, but people aren’t exactly eager to screw each other over for some short-term gain. At least it’s not as obvious and in-your-face as in Ukraine.
In Ukraine, relationships move fast
In Ukraine, relationships move fast, much faster than in America or even Latin America. It’s not uncommon to meet a girl, date her for a month or two, and then move in together. After living for some time, perhaps several months to half a year to a year, marriage becomes the next logical step.
It’s not uncommon for couples to marry after just 4-5 months of seeing each other (sometimes even quicker).
This is not the case in America where people can be dating for years or even living together for years without ever making it official.
The main reason relationships move quickly is because there’s less friction when it comes to meeting people and building something meaningful. People have a lot fewer insecurities than they do in the West; there are fewer doubts about the roles of men and women, about the notion of who should be doing what in the relationship. Men conquer the world. Women conquer the household. Men make money. Women cook and raise children.
This easily understood division of responsibilities goes a long way into reducing misunderstandings and making a relationship much more enjoyable and predictable for both parties.
Moreover, in America (and the West), relationships are something that is becoming (or have already become) something like an afterthought. People are busy, everyone has a hobby for every day of the week. It’s not uncommon for a woman in a city like New York to have pilates on Monday, yoga on Tuesday and some girl’s night out on Thursday.
But in Ukraine, it doesn’t work like that. People aren’t busy for the sake of being busy. Relationships still matter.
When you remove the bullshit that keeps people from being together, you realize that you don’t need to date someone for 10 years before taking the next steps and starting a family.
What kind of men do Ukrainian women prefer?
For the most part, Ukrainian women prefer their men to be tough. When I say tough, I don’t mean they all need to be ex-convicts, drug dealers, narco-traffickers, etc. (although these examples would work, too.)
Tough also doesn’t mean being rich or wealthy. A Ukrainian woman would much more respect a tough guy who isn’t wealthy than a wealthy nice guy. She’d simply milk the nice guy for what it’s worth but will always be drawn to the tougher man.
Of course, this varies by the woman. Some women prefer real tough guys; others are OK when a guy is a little tough, but toughness needs to exist at some level or another. I can’t see how an altruistic nice guy can ever survive in Ukraine.
One of the reasons that women love their men to be tough is because of the environment and trust. A man should say what he thinks even if that will upset others than to be around some guy who says all the nice things because he’s afraid of pissing anyone off. Eastern European men fit this bill perfectly: they tell you exactly how it is without sugarcoating the truth.
Saying what matters without seeking approval or validation is an undervalued trait, especially in today’s environment where people are constantly trying to please each other by saying all the nice things—even if they are not true—to avoid ruffling feathers.
Another reason that women are drawn to tough guys is that there’s a good chance her own father is just like this. After all, women are drawn to men who, at least, partially remind them of their fathers. The majority of EE fathers are tough and old school so it’s natural for the woman to view her father’s version of masculinity as a template of how her future boyfriend or husband should be.
That doesn’t mean you should automatically turn into a stoic and rough Eastern European who never laughs or smiles; it’s perfectly fine to be friendly and chatty, but you must always remember you’ll have to draw the line somewhere and have the ability to say “No” and decline a woman’s requests more than you were comfortable in the past.
This is completely different than the carefree and fun-filled life of Rio de Janeiro, where everyone is friendly and having fun and your ability to relax is more valued than your ability to be tough.
When a Ukrainian woman feels you’re weak and you’re valuing her more than you should because you’re willing to do everything that she requests (or more than she’s used to in the past), she’ll instinctively begin to test your boundaries to see where they end. I believe they do this on a subconscious level. Don’t be surprised when she promptly crosses those boundaries and manipulates you into doing more and more things for her, and you’re soon left wondering what happened.
Along with toughness, women respect dominance. They respect a man who makes all the decisions (or at least all the important ones). They respect a man who is decisive and not wishy-washy. They respect a man who knows what he wants out of life and isn’t afraid to go after it.
Nothing makes a woman lose respect for a man faster than someone who shows weakness (willingly or unwillingly) as well as someone indecisive about what they want out of life.
In other words, don’t tell your Ukrainian girlfriend that you just lost your job and don’t know what to do with your life. She may feel sorry for you for a moment, but her attraction in you will take a rapid nosedive.
While on the surface, being dominant makes a lot of sense, you must realize that this is radically different from any kind of dominance you’re used to in the West. In the West, there’s a concept of 50/50 relationships where both partners make decisions and reaffirm decisions with the other, but in Ukraine, a man decides what to do and sticks to it, and the woman supports his endeavors.
For a moment, imagine a woman who’s incapable of making even the most trivial decisions, and her response to every “What do you want to do?” is “I don’t know.” That’s your typical Eastern European woman, and your responsibility as a man is to make sure your woman is never left wondering what’s going on.
Do Ukrainian girls like foreigners?
One of the most common questions that pops up is how do local Ukrainian women view foreigners as opposed to locals.
Honestly, it’s hard to say because I’m experiencing the “local” side of things. I do not know what it’s like being a foreigner who either doesn’t speak any Russian or can carry a conversation in Russian.
I can tell you several things. First of all, as a local guy, you need to play by the existing rules. Ukrainian women, just like other Eastern European women aren’t exactly simple to connect with: they will endlessly test you in various ways (more on that in a bit), and you will need to respond accordingly or she’ll lose attraction for you quickly.
On the other hand, as a foreigner, you are automatically exempt from these rules to some extent. First, since most women don’t speak English fluently or even conversationally, you will make a woman self-conscious and throw her off balance when speaking in English, thus giving yourself an edge right from the start.
Even asking her to say a couple of words (especially if she’s 30+), and you will notice how shy she’ll suddenly get. She will be forced to communicate with you on your terms, work harder to understand your words as well as your mannerisms.
That’s because most Ukrainians don’t even have a conversational grasp of English. This can play to your advantage because you’re throwing her off balance a bit.
There’s a fairly known fact that Eastern European women aren’t particularly fond of their own men. That they complain about how their men are lazy, sit on the couch and drink vodka all day. They complain about how their men take them for granted. I believe there’s some truth to that. Nevertheless, I certainly wouldn’t underestimate local men; while they can be stoic and “cold,” they understand their women particularly well, more so than foreigners.
I think that as women get older (30+), they tend to view foreign men as more suitable for random flings and, thus, tend to prefer local guys for building more serious relationships. Of course, I don’t think a 30-year-old woman would necessarily reject a good-looking and successful foreign guy, but she understands that most foreigners that are in this country are here for sex and sex only (you can thank hordes of Turkish men for that) plus there’s the cultural incompatibility as well, especially if the woman doesn’t speak English.
Honestly, I believe that as a local, I have crucial advantages. Not once did I ever feel that it would’ve been much happier had I been a foreigner. It has been the exact opposite: most of the women I’ve met have been super friendly and enthusiastic about hanging out.
Do Ukrainian women like older men?
Ukraine is one of those countries where it’s fairly common to have a relatively big age difference between a man and a woman in the relationship. It’s not unheard off for a 40-year-old man to date a 21-year-old woman. I have also heard of 48-year-old men dating 18-year-old women.
If you’re in your 30s, you can date women starting as low as 21, all the way to late 30s (and above) if you wanted to.
I’ve known a guy who was around 45 but liked dating women as young as 18 or 19. I’ve known another guy who’s 48 and is currently living with a 25-year-old girl.
Having said that, this is not applicable for everyone, so if you’re a 47-year-old man, you shouldn’t think you’re just going to fly in and build a serious relationship with a 21-year-old girl. She may be attracted to you for money or status, but on a primal level, she’d still be more attracted to a 20-something or 30-something guy.
All in all, I would consider something like a 10-year difference to be the absolute maximum that might exist without compromising the relationship and risking that your girl might jump ship to a younger man. There’s nothing weird about a 32-year-old guy dating a 22-year-old girl. Similarly, there’s nothing wrong with a 42-year-old guy dating a 32-year-old girl.
If the age difference becomes bigger than that, there’s a higher chance that your girl is merely waiting for the right opportunity to dump you for a younger man.
One thing I want to point out is that not every 45-year-old man is the same. Some men are in better shape or just genetically look younger, while other men might be out of shape, fat, or just look older. I have met 35-year-old men who looked 50. I’ve also met 45-year-old men who looked 30.
In terms of my preferences, I’m in my late 30s, and I’ve dated women as young as 26, all the way up to 35 (actually, I even once dated a 36-year-old woman). My sweet spot seems to be women who’re 27-31 years old. I don’t have much interest in dating women younger than 25.
There’s a pattern where the older the woman gets, the more jaded she becomes, especially if she had never been in a serious relationship (or had her heart broken in one). After around the age of 33, women seem to lose that innocence and spark in their eyes that’s associated with younger women who don’t have as much baggage or breakups.
First of all, you must be certain that the woman you like (or love) loves you back. This can be tricky because women can be chameleons and say/do things that you expect them to do, thus masquerading to do everything you want until they get what they want (e.g., citizenship, papers, etc).
There are a couple of things to watch out for. First of all, if you feel that something is wrong, then you’re not feeling it—something is wrong. Whether it’s her behavior, her actions, or something else, this is something you must investigate and find the reasons for your suspicions before you commit.
Second, as I noted above, you must be sure that the woman you’ve chosen views you as the only man in her life worth caring about (maybe just beside her father).
This can be especially tough to do especially if you’re smitten by a particular woman and any kind of positive gesture or smile in your direction makes you automatically think that the love is mutual. You need a cool head to appraise the situation properly.
Another crucial factor to look out for is a woman who is genuinely interested in helping you with whatever you need. It needs to be important for you only—not for both of you. Ask her to do something for you that require some level of effort. If she scoffs and changes the subject, she is not the keeper. If she’s more than happy to always help, that’s a great sign of good things to come.
Moreover, during the first several months, a woman may act her best self and do everything you want her to do. There’s an aptly named term for this: demo version or demonstration version.
I’ve had relationships start amazingly with the women doing everything that I wanted, buying little things for me, cooking for me, but after several months, they became less inclined to do these things for me. That’s because these women stopped pretending that they’re so nice and caring and reverted to their selfish selves.
This means that the first few months aren’t, in any meaningful way, a genuine indicator of what the woman is really about. She can be friendly and nice for the initial few months, but then slowly morph into her real self. On the other hand, she can be friendly and nice and remain like this for the foreseeable future as well. You just never know.
Are Ukrainian girls loyal to their men?
I can’t tell you how many emails I’ve received from men over the years who went to Ukraine, met a beautiful woman, started dating her, brought her over to America and then got burned when she left the guy for a richer/younger/sexier/stronger man. This happens all the time.
Part of the reason is that a lot of these Western men are very gullible when it comes to Eastern European women. They think they can just fly in, meet a beautiful girl and then give her the world and she’ll become theirs forever and ever.
Yes, she’ll gladly take the world, but she won’t stop there, especially if there’s another man who’d gladly give her even more. (Remember: there’s always another man out there who’s better than you in some way, shape or form around there.)
In Russian, we have a famous saying that roughly translates to: “If your wife is very beautiful, then she doesn’t belong to you.” (Красивая жена – чужая жена)
What this essentially means is that if you’re seeing or dating a beautiful woman, there’s a good chance other men will be also trying to talk to her and seduce her. Moreover, since she knows that she’s beautiful, she’ll demand and test more of the men around her and won’t hesitate to jump ship to a stronger suitor if her current suitor becomes weak. Ukrainian women can sniff out weakness in men much better than any other women that I’ve encountered.
This is especially true in the context of Ukraine where there are lots of beautiful women, and, more importantly, these women know that they’re beautiful and they know they can get other men when they wanted and whenever the opportunity presented itself.
Thus, unless you’re some super-duper Alpha guy who knows what he’s doing, you should know that your beautiful and sexy girlfriend might sooner or later become your beautiful and sexy ex-girlfriend.
If you’re a nice guy (or at least a guy with good intentions), you’re probably not going to last long with women who have bad intentions.
While that’s more or less true around the world, I believe it’s especially true in Eastern Europe (Ukraine and Russia) because of the tough living conditions and the desire for women to be with the strongest men possible.
I remember dating a sexy woman a few years ago. She wanted to get married and then move to a Western country. Although I had feelings for her, I was torn, not knowing if her intentions were genuine or she was just using me. The entire time my gut was telling me that something was off.
I showed a couple of her pictures to my uncle, an old school guy who understands women well and he immediately looked at me in a way that confirmed my suspicions.
This was not a girl he’d trust, and I shouldn’t trust either, something that had crossed my mind before.
The biggest mistake men make with Ukrainian women
There are several mistakes that newcomers make when it comes to dating Ukrainian women.
The most common mistake is underestimating them. Many men come with the idea that Ukrainian women are the most wonderful and feminine women in the world who are straight forward and don’t play any games.
While that may have been true when she was 19 or 20, that’s hardly true as she gets older and dates her share of men.
Since I’ve been mostly dating women in the late 20s or early 30s, the women I’ve been meeting have gone through their share of relationships and were much more guarded and less emotional.
Building attraction and game with Ukrainian women
In my experience, it’s fairly easy to build attraction. Unlike in America, you don’t need to know a complex maze of witty one-liners, anecdotes, or come-backs. As long as you act cool and comfortable and not nervous like it’s your first time talking to a woman, you should be fine.
The one thing you have to watch out for is a series of tests thrown your way. They usually start friendly and innocent, but if you’re not aware of them or if she feels that she’s talking to someone who’s not used to women of her caliber, she’ll lose interest quickly. The prettier the woman, the higher the number of tests.
Then, once you’ve established some kind of rapport, and your relationship continues to develop, one of two things may happen. In the first scenario, she’ll genuinely start liking you and respecting you as a man. She’ll do that because you’ve demonstrated to her that you’re a real man who’s ready to protect and (financially) support her.
In the second scenario, she’ll realize that you’re not exactly the ideal man for her, but because she has no other options at the moment (maybe you’re a Westerner with plenty of disposable income who can show her a good time), she’ll spend time with you and sleep with you in exchange for dinners, gifts, trips, etc. Of course, throughout this time, she’ll continue to look around for better options and, once she finds one, she’ll switch teams.
Best ways to meet Ukrainian women
When meeting women, I keep simple. Remember, Ukraine isn’t America where all the women have read all the seduction books and are on guard when men approach them. When it comes to meeting women, keep it simple.
When I see a woman I like, I simply approach and ask her if I can get to know her. Some women agreed and gave me their number, others immediately told me they’re interested, usually because they’re married or something else.
If you don’t take rejection personally, approaching women in person is a great way to meet a woman that you otherwise might never meet.
Over half of the women that I met were from approaching them personally (the other half were from online dating).
The best Ukrainian dating sites
While there are ways of meeting Ukrainian women on the street and out and about, one of the best and more efficient ways of meeting women is online.
One of the big advantages of online dating is the fact that you can be sitting on your couch back in New York City, Los Angeles or London and meet women in places like Rio de Janeiro, Prague or Moscow.
So, when you arrive at those places, you’ve already lined up a whole army of women who are excited to see you.
Of course, you can also do online dating using apps such as Tinder, but I’m here to tell you that, after using this app for many years, a lot of the women you meet there, at least here in Ukraine, are gold diggers and low quality.
The best way to meet beautiful and quality Ukrainian women is through a website called Ukraine Date. Ukraine Date is a dating website where you can meet plenty of amazing, high-quality women.
I have known several men who came to Ukraine, used the site and ended up meeting great women who went on to become their long-term girlfriends.
So, whether you’re looking for a fling, a girlfriend, or even a wife, Ukraine Date is simply the best place to meet women in Ukraine. And you don’t even need to be in Ukraine to do that.
So there you have it, a 5,500+ word guide on everything you need to know about Ukrainian women.
While, at first glance, dating and building relationships may seem like a straightforward and simple process, there’s a lot of things that lurk beneath the surface that you must understand to be successful and eventually find your dream Ukrainian girlfriend or even wife.
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Russian women have known the world over as some of the sexiest, most feminine and most amazing women. In this article, I will discuss this in great detail as well as tell you the pros and cons of dating them and even possibly marrying them.
While it’s difficult to say with complete certainty, I’m pretty sure that had I not been living in Brazil when I decided to start this blog, this may have been the inaugural post (or one of the first posts) instead of a post that teaches the Portuguese language.
It just has to be: Russian women (as well as Russian-speaking women from neighboring countries) have been such a big part of my life, and, to a large extent, are duly responsible for the intense chemistry that evolved into torrid relationships only to be balanced out by ferocious breakups as well as some of the downright harshest and vengeful rejections that I’ve experienced in my whole life.
Even after wondering half away around the world and having the time of my life in countries replete with truly amazing women such as Mexico, Colombia or Brazil, meeting a Russian woman always ensures an experience that’s devoid of any boredom and monotony (like that fateful night when I locked eyes with a tanned blue-eyed Russian girl in a hostel bar in Ipanema, Rio de Janeiro, but that story is for a future post). For women that hail from such a cold and brutal climate, they sure know how to spice up a man’s life.
Russian women are the world’s greatest chameleon
First of all, unless you’ve interacted with Russian women in Russia (or in neighboring Russian-speaking countries such as Belarus or Ukraine), your experience with Russian women is rather limited and might be even biased. That’s applicable if you’ve met Americanized Russian women in big cities like New York or Chicago. That’s also applicable if you’ve met a Russian girl in tourist destinations like Turkey or Thailand. (A rookie mistake is to think that Americanized Russian women are the same as Russian women who grew up in Russia. That’s completely false; the two have little in common.)
That’s because you must learn the very first rule about the amazing but complicated creature called a Russian woman: she’s the greatest chameleon in the world and has an uncanny ability to adapt and blend into pretty much any environment. The reason for her super adaptability is the unique—and unforgiving—environment in which she has grown up. This isn’t a strong influencing factor with other amazing women like Brazilians or Colombians, which is why they’re equally friendly and approachable both at home and abroad.
Since I hail from the mythical land behind The Iron Curtain, I get asked constantly about the women there. My response is usually tailored to the asker’s experience. If the guy isn’t well-traveled, I think harder, desperately trying to stitch my answer using words and images that the guy may already be familiar with. However, if the guy has already spent time in Brazil, formulating my answer becomes infinitely easier.
Russian women have an uncanny resemblance to Brazilian women, but not in the way you think. Brazilian women are larger than life. They’re extremely warm, approachable, friendly and sensual. They have an intoxicating swagger that no other woman in the world possesses or can even dream of successfully mimicking. They simply stand out. After spending lots of time in Brazil, I became skilled at recognizing a Brazilian woman anywhere in the world from a mile away.
Like Brazilian women, Russian women are also larger than life but differently. Russian women don’t have the intoxicating sensuality nor the exhilarating swagger of Brazilian women, but they make up for those shortcomings with sincerity, warmth, and intensity, all stitched together and interlaced with strong femininity—an invigorating combination that I haven’t found in other European women (Ukrainian women come close).
Diverse as the empire
There’s a stereotypical Russian woman that’s known the world over. She’s tall, slim, has blonde or light brown hair, blue eyes and perfectly toned legs that seem to go on forever. She possesses a certain swagger and sexiness. But that’s all it is—a stereotype. What surprises most people is that Russian women are extremely diverse, and that’s because Russia itself is one of the world’s last remaining empires that’s composed of many diverse races and ethnic groups.
Throughout my life, I’ve met all kinds of Russian women: tall and short; dark-haired and light-haired; blue-eyed and brown-eyed. While I’m personally not a huge fan of blonde women with blue eyes and much prefer darker women, I’ve been fortunate to meet women who were as close to my perfection as possible: they were olive-skinned, looked Latin or Southern European, but acted and carried themselves with the sexy and familiar Slavic swagger. The last time I met one was in Jurmala, Latvia, and at that moment I felt as though all my prayers were answered from above.
When it comes to sheer beauty, I honestly cannot say that Russian women are the most beautiful women in the world. Other nationalities are blessed with more per-capita beauties such as Lithuania and Argentina.
But, as usual, statistics don’t tell the whole story. A cute Russian girl holds her own compared to pretty much any other nationality. If you see a really cute Russian girl, you’d be hard-pressed to avoid moving into her direction and striking a conversation. And if she’s in the “super cute” or model territory, you’ll suddenly overcome with temporary amnesia and would have difficulty recalling all the previous women in your life.
Like a Brazilian woman, a Russian woman has a very distinctive body language, so much so that I could usually recognize a Russian woman outside Russia, even in countries where she strongly resembles the native population. After traveling and living in the Baltics (Estonia, Lithuania, and Latvia) for over a year, I’ve been able to determine whether a particular woman is Russian or Baltic with almost pin-point accuracy.
The overwhelming distinction is in her subtle body language and not merely in the physical appearance. I could be buying a cup of tea in a coffee shop and just feel that the woman behind the counter is Russian before she even utters a single a word. Call it a sixth sense or whatever, but it’s there.
Wise beyond her years
But discussing only beauty would make for a pretty shallow article. Not only is beauty skin deep, but it’s also very subjective; every nationality of women has its share of gorgeous women, always ensuring that a love-tourist will be delighted regardless if he’s in Riga, Latvia or Cali, Colombia—or anywhere in between. If someone loves Colombian women, that doesn’t make Lithuanian women any less attractive. If someone glorifies Spanish women, that doesn’t make Ukrainian women any less desirable.
Russian women, however, really begin to outshine their counterparts in other countries once you factor in their iron spirit and mentality. Not only are they tough, but they’re also very goal-oriented and ambitious, something that I felt was lacking at times in Latin America and Western Europe.
On my first week in Russia, I met a 23-year-old woman who already had her apartment (not in the center) and a decent car. She had a well-paying job as a marketing director for a large company. She planned to open her business and then get married and start a family in a couple of years.
In Serbia, I met a 24-year-old Russian girl who was busy building her translator services business. Although she was physically small, her dreams were big and ambitious. Here was this woman with her apartment, a car, and a rapidly growing business, and here was a guy—me—who possessed none of the above. Being older than her and still living a nomadic lifestyle that entails renting assets instead of owning them, I felt at times underprivileged to be in her company.
While talking to each of these women, I felt like I was talking to a person who was many years wiser than her biological age. Each possessed an unmatched combination of sophistication, classiness, and intelligence, something that was sorely absent from the women that I interacted with in the big American coastal cities like San Francisco or Los Angeles. And women like those weren’t some strange aberration, there were lots of women like that who’re busy trying to make something of themselves, and, in the process, assemble crucial real-world knowledge and experience.
All that can be summed up in one word: maturity. In general, Russian people grow up fast, exceptionally fast—way, way faster than their counterparts in the West. I’ve met guys in their early 20s who easily passed for guys in their early 30s. And I’m not just referring to their physical appearance; I’m referring to the way they acted and carried themselves.
As someone who’s grown up in New York and San Francisco where—especially in the latter—it was very common to meet a 37-year-old woman (or a girl) who’s still single and playing the field because she’s “afraid of commitment,” it was the most refreshing thing in the world to meet a mid-20s woman who had achieved so much already—and was able to do that in such an unforgiving and difficult environment where success isn’t simply given away and must be earned with blood and sweat.
Smiling and flirting can only last so long: at some point, there needs to be a more concrete conversation around the topics that have more weight, topics like current events, politics, history, literature, etc.—topics that let you discover the depth of a person’s knowledge, experience, beliefs, and convictions.
I’m an avid student of life and read books spanning many topics, and in one of the conversations with these women, I subtly hinted that I had just gotten a copy of White Guard, a classic about the 1917 Russian Revolution, that I’ve been meaning to read for a long time. To my surprise, both of these women had not only read them but also recommended a bunch of other books that I would find interesting and should read as well.
There’s something truly intoxicating about being able to take a gorgeous woman to dinner, have incredible sex later that night, and then discuss War and Peace or Crime and Punishment over breakfast the following morning. If you’re surrounded by women who leave you underwhelmed, I’m here to tell you that there are women who can stimulate and challenge you both sexually and mentally. That’s what I call genuine fulfillment.
Why Russian women have an edge
One of the most commonly used adjectives that Westerners use to describe Russian women are “cold” and “calculating.” There’s some truth to such harsh adjectives. A Russian woman, as opposed to, say, a Latin American, has a certain “edge.” She can be amazingly sexy and classy one moment, but can suddenly change and become scheming and conniving the next; she can be warm and soft one moment, but icy and hard the next.
That’s the “Russian edge.” It’s a trait that I’ve found predominantly in Russian women as opposed to Russian-speaking women in neighboring countries. It’s what defines a Russian woman. It’s a direct result of living in a dog-eat-dog society; it’s her insurance policy against being mindlessly complacent in an environment where complacency means you don’t eat.
While not all Russian women are “cold” and “calculating,” all Russian women have this edge in varying degrees. The bold and ambitious women have more of it. I’ve also met women who are shy and reserved, but when faced with a stressful situation, suddenly exhibited a certain level of determination and intensity. It’s as though they metamorphosed into someone extremely decisive, conquered the menacing obstacle and then reverted to their previously warm, loving and caring selves.
I found this quality very admirable and respect it. But that’s probably because I’m a realist than anything else. It took me many years of wondering the distant corners of the globe and soul-searching to finally realize that there’s no such thing as a perfect woman. Every quality that a woman possesses is a tradeoff for another quality that’s absent.
Femininity has its price, too. The more feminine the woman is, the less she’s ambitious and driven, and the more you have to babysit her. The more independent the woman is, the less you have to babysit her, but the flip side is that she’s fully capable of being without you (she’s independent, remember) instead of being fully loyal to you. I can keep going, but you get my point.
I certainly don’t mind when a woman is savvy and street-smart as opposed to a woman who is so indecisive and confused that she’s all but disconnected from reality and has no idea what to do with her life. I don’t want to have to do all the planning and strategizing—and babysitting and handholding.
Fortunately, the sheer essence of a Russian woman is that she’s always capable of thinking independently and acting in a supporting role to her man, a role that allows her man to sit on the throne and take the reins while planning the overall long-term strategy. To me, that’s the ideal scenario: a woman that’s gentle on the inside, but is covered with a tough exterior shell designed to withstand and overcome constant obstacles that are thrown her way.
These qualities put Russian women in a world of their own when compared to their counterparts in Western Europe and America, but one doesn’t need to go that far; even comparing them to women in neighboring countries—and former Soviet Union republics—such as Lithuania and Latvia, makes other women seem spoiled and confused, lacking genuine drive and determination.
Curious about the world beyond the wall
But even with all the aforementioned drive and ambition that emits powerful energy, it’s also not unusual to meet women who are eager to absorb energy and information with the same intensity. Russian women are some of the most curious women I’ve met in my travels. And if she’s curious, she’s curious about lots of things, things that are so banal that they don’t arouse any interest from women from other nationalities. For example, on more than one occasion I’ve met women possessing an abundance of curiosity about life in Europe and America.
They inquired about life in Europe as though the continent was on some distant and mysterious planet that was only accessible to royalty and aristocrats while being closed to normal people like herself. I’ve had multiple conversations with them about topics that I’ve never had with women from other nationalities and regions who have neither the interest nor the sheer curiosity about the world around them.
Of course, there are plenty of Russians who not only visit Europe but actually buy chunks of it, by purchasing huge mansions and villas, but I’m not discussing a woman’s (and her husband’s) financial ability; I’m merely pointing to the existence of women who are actually curious about the world around them, something that’s in our age of distraction is rapidly becoming a strange and unique novelty.
I suppose this curiosity a direct result of living in a culture that has been completely blocked from the rest of the world for a good part of the 20th century—and remains blocked to some extent even today.
Russian seduction is pure, very pure, pure like the finest spring water—perhaps the purest in the world. Pure means the genders are super traditional: super feminine women who are attracted to super masculine men. Another culture that comes to mind when thinking about pure mating rituals is Brazil, where women are amazingly sexy and approachable and men are confident and aggressive. A crude difference between two mating cultures is that Brazilians are friendlier and smile more than Russians.
Russian women love real men—masculine, powerful and ambitious men for two main reasons. First, a powerful and strong man is always preferable to someone ineffective and weak. Everyone biologically gravitates to powerful and strong men. Who wants to be with some weak loser with a pencil neck? When is weakness preferable to strength? A man should be strong, powerful and successful.
The second, and more important reason why Russian women prefer real men is that they simply wouldn’t survive by being with other, less assertive and weaker men. It comes down to a matter of survival—a matter of life and death. In Russia, the odds are stacked against a woman; it’s the man who’s graced with unobstructed green lights on the road to the top. An overwhelming majority of the country’s political and business elite are men. A powerful and successful man can build a real business that makes a lot of money and can use this wealth and power to provide his woman and their family with a much better quality of life.
This just doesn’t apply to Western countries with generous welfare systems or legal and social structures that result in enough opportunities for men as well as women. A woman who grows up, say in Norway, Denmark or even America, doesn’t need to be with a successful man; she might or might not be successful herself and in many cases even make more money than her boyfriend or husband.
How to meet Russian women online
While there are plenty of acceptable ways of meeting Russian women offline while they’re out and about in the cafes, restaurants, parks, clubs, etc., one of the best ways to meet Russian women is online.
The biggest perks of meeting Russian women online is that you can do so from the comfort of your living room in New York City, Miami or London while the woman is out in Moscow, St. Petersburg or Sochi.
Thus, even before you decide to go to Russia, you can already set up a whole army of women who are super interested in meeting you as soon as your plane touches Russia’s land.
Of course, there are apps like Tinder (and others) that you can use for online dating, but the problem with such apps is that you typically have a lot of gold diggers, flakes, and other low-quality women. Trust me, I have tried these apps and experienced nothing but pain and suffering.
Instead, I wholeheartedly recommend you use a site such as Russian Cupid to meet Russian women. I have used the site myself, and I can attest that the women you meet on there are of a much higher caliber than the women you find on those junk dating apps.
Meeting women on Russian Cupid is super easy. Just sign up, create an account, put amazing pictures and start contacting the girls you find attractive.
If your profile is on point with no creepy pictures, I’m pretty sure you will be receiving responses from plenty of women.
In America, the bulk of the game consists of lots of meaningless conversations; in Brazil, it’s about playfulness backed by raw confidence; in Russia, it’s about coming in and taking what’s yours.
Russian women, like any other women, love to flirt and play games, but the flirting and banter never crosses the common sense boundary. Unlike an American or an Americanized woman, a Russian girl will never tease you like one of your male friends, nor would her responses be laden with a heavy sarcasm because she doesn’t know how to react when confronted with your bold advances.
A Russian woman would never accuse you of “following an N-day rule” when you call her to schedule a date. She would never pull out her blackberry and begin asking you interview questions on the first or second date. She’s blessed with lots and lots of emotional intelligence, and thus can usually tell what kind of man you are by observing how you act and behave, all without asking you direct and logical questions.
All of this translates into a much more direct and quicker game. I can meet a Russian girl and either build chemistry super quick or know right away that we’re just not meant to be. There’s rarely a situation where we fill up the time by talking about empty—and politically correct—topics like the weather or politics (if you find yourself having mindless conversation as a way to fill up awkward silences with a Russian woman, you can be pretty sure that she’s not going see you again).
There’s usually instant sexual magnetism simply because a man and a woman meet, something that’s very difficult to explain to guys who’ve lived all their lives in Western countries where politically correct communication is the norm not only in public but in private conversations as well. And I experience this polarity not only because I’m from the region and speak the language; foreigners always mention experiencing the same thing.
Russian women respect men who make it clear what they want. They love sincerity and commitment and loath aloofness and ambiguity. They hate dealing with someone who sends them mixed signals. In the West, you’re forced to hide your primal instincts and be indirect because showing interest first might make you appear desperate and needy; in Russia, not showing interest quickly enough makes you appear insecure and indecisive. If she detects that you’re playing games—and she knows perfectly well the difference between flirting games and games that showcase your ineptitude and insecurity—she’ll abruptly stop talking to you and move on to a more promising candidate. Life in Russia is too short for games.
Instead of playing endless games that don’t lead to anywhere, Russian women respond well to a strong man who shows initiative and control. They love when a man has the raw confidence and determination to get what he wants in life, and, ultimately through his efforts, conquers the woman herself. They love when a man instinctively leads.
In America, a man who’s confident, assertive and successful with women is called an “alpha” male. But because American culture is structured in such a way that the women do not genuinely need a confident and assertive man to succeed, and, instead, gravitate to men who are not just confident and assertive but also act confident and assertive, it’s relatively simple to mimic this type of man: just fake it till you make it.
That ain’t going to fly in Russia. For starters, a Russian alpha male is a real deal: it’s a man who built something by confronting and outmaneuvering—or stealing from—his competitors. He has several million or billion in the bank, and he probably didn’t earn that money via “legal means.” A Russian alpha male is a true leader of men. It’s not someone who you can become by mimicking. It’s not someone who you can learn to be; it’s someone who you either are or not.
Russian women have learned to be very adept in separating the wheat from the chaff; they know how to distinguish between the real men and the posers. Since finding a quality man is imperative to have a high(er) quality life, Russian women have evolved a high level of emotional intelligence to properly judge a man for his fittest. And they manage to do that without asking what you do or who you want to be in the next five years.
They have no choice; if they don’t possess the emotional intelligence to understand the kind of man they’re dealing with, they will get stuck with some loser and that will mean a disaster for their own and their children’s future. If that’s not evolution and survival of the fittest at work, then I don’t know what is. Charles Darwin would be very proud.
The pure mating culture dictates that the more vivacious, ambitious, aspiring, and hotter the woman, the more masculine and successful the man needs to be to seduce her—or even to have a shot at the title. I’ve rarely seen a very beautiful and vivacious woman with a guy who’s indecisive, wishy-washy, and has no clue how to make a buck.
No matter how you slice it, this is one of the cultures where there’s just no substitute for raw masculinity.
It’s not all peaches and cream in Rußland. Besides the things that were already mentioned such as the torrid hot and icy cold personality, coupled with an intensity that some guys might find overbearing and even threatening, there are several other factors worth discussing.
Russian women will always try to get their fair share in any human exchange, whether it’s business or personal, before rewarding others with their feminine charm. If what you’re after is sex with no strings attached, you’ll have a difficult time. In that case, you might as well stay in your safe and comfortable North American or European Union country where women have no problem with shallow relationships based on the exchange of fluids and not much else.
Russian women love attention and usually get no shortage of it from other horny men, so if you’re an insecure guy who easily gets jealous, you’ll have a difficult time, especially if the woman you are with is extremely beautiful.
Russian women also seem to age fairly quickly when compared to their Western and Latin American (which can partly explain their frenetic drive to get something done and raise a family very quickly). It’s common to meet a complete knockout when she’s 25, but then wonder what happened to her in just ten years.
This is simply not the case in many of the other countries I’ve lived, especially in Latin American countries such as Brazil or Colombia. When I was living there, I used to walk the streets and just couldn’t believe my eyes how sexy some of the older women were. Latin American women are like fine wine; they only seem to get better with age.
The antidote to Western culture
The best advice for guys who want to meet Russian women is exactly same for guys who want to meet Brazilian women; you must first live in Russia to understand the spirit of the land and its people. Watching cheesy PUA videos of guys approaching women on YouTube will do more harm than good; although it might perhaps help in Times Square, you’ll seem like a confused clown in the bars and clubs of Moscow.
Besides, living in Russia and interacting with Russian women is the greatest antidote to a Western man who’s confused about his role in the world as a result of being brought up in a culture that’s void of any meaning, cause or purpose.
The richness of Russian culture will fortify your psyche and inject into your life rich meaning and purpose. The more you spend time with Russian women, the less you’ll ever take seriously another 37-year-old American girl, who proclaims that she’s “too picky” or “still wants to play the field,” the same one who’s debating whether to freeze her ovaries so that she can have children when she’s 65, while she’s attending house parties wearing tube socks.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that there are no shortcuts. Succeeding with Russian women is a direct consequence of succeeding in Russia as a whole. It means digging deep and understanding the history, the culture and why are the things the way they are. It means being tough and reaching the absolute pinnacle of masculinity.
Above all, one thing is definitely guaranteed: you’ll interact with women who possess an unmatched combination of beauty, femininity, sexiness, sophistication, determination, and toughness—a lethal cocktail that I simply haven’t found anywhere else in the world, and, like a drug addict, always tend to reach for a new injection whenever sufficient time has passed between infusions.
PS: To meet beautiful and quality Russian women, click here.
Argentinian women are simply gorgeous. Those were my first impressions as soon as I landed in Buenos Aires after an eleven-hour flight from New York City. As I spent the next several months living in Argentina’s capital, those initial thoughts were only reinforced.
While not only were they beautiful, but, as I later found out, they were also one of the hardest women to approach and seduce.
In this guide, I want to talk about my experience meeting and seducing women in the country, but also bring in someone who knows about Argentinian women much more than I do: my friend Pepe who’s been living in Argentina for over ten years.
The following article is partly contributed by my friend Pepe, who’s originally from Miami but has been living in Buenos Aires for over a decade.
Let’s not beat around the bush and let’s just call things as they are: Argentinian women have a certain reputation when it comes to Latin America.
I know that many Argentinian women aren’t going to agree with that statement, but ask any Argentinian guy or Latin guy and they will nod their heads. It’s true.
While Argentina is located in Latin America, as a country Argentina bears little resemblance to its neighbors: Brazil, Chile or even every other country in Latin America. Argentinian women are just different. Different in every way.
So, what’s their reputation? Keep reading.
Argentinian Women Characteristics
First of all, they’re more European. They just are. They look European, act European and even lack a certain sexiness and charisma of everything that defines a Latin woman (to be discussed shortly).
An average Argentinian woman is a mixture of Spanish and Italian genes with some Portuguese thrown in for good measure. The majority of them have olive skin, so they wouldn’t be out of place in Spain, Italy or Portugal if you transport one there.
Nevertheless, while on the surface they look exactly like any Southern European, there’s a certain “something” that makes them somehow different from European women.
That something is hard to pinpoint, but it’s there.
Argentinian Women Personality
While I have met Argentinian women that have been friendly and helpful, the consensus is that Argentinian women are somewhat brash or arrogant does have some strength behind it.
There are certainly many more arrogant Argentinian women than, say, Brazilian or Colombian friendly who are, overall, much friendlier.
Argentinian Women vs. Latin Women
While Argentina is geographically located in South America—and thus Latin America—Argentina is much more European than pretty much any other country in both South or North America.
It just has a much more European feel.
The people “look” European, the cities have a European feel to them and just the overall mentality of the country is closer to, say, Spain or Italy—where the majority of the citizens are descended from—than, say, Brazil or Venezuela that feel much more Latin because of their native indigenous populations.
What kind of men do they like?
This is a good question. From my experience talking to many Argentinian women as well as seducing plenty of them, Argentinian love men who are tall, dark and handsome.
I’m just kidding.
Seriously speaking, though, like most of Latin American women, Argentinian women seem to gravitate towards their kind. That’s because Argentinian men are no slouches and they know how to approach and seduce women. Plus, they’re not bad looking.
Having said that, there are always women in pretty much any country around the world that are open to dating foreigners. To make your life easier, you have to know where to find these women and not waste your time on those who are only looking for local guys. And one of the best places to meet such women would be online (see below).
Moreover, I want to point out that being an American (or British), doesn’t seem to help your chances as the case is in other Latin countries. So, don’t play the “I’m an awesome American so you should have sex with me” card. That will backfire in a big way. It just doesn’t work.
How to seduce Argentinian Women
Like $Ukrainian women, Argentinian women can smell BS a mile away and will endlessly test you to see if you are who you say you are. While they like to be seduced, they don’t want to feel like they’re being played.
When seducing them, be direct and honest. Try not to play too many games, and don’t try to be some smooth Don Juan. After all, they’ve been surrounded by Don Juans all their lives (Argentinian men), so they know the game.
Be smooth, but don’t come off too strong and aggressive, which will set you apart from the macho and direct Argentinian guys and raise interest in the eyes of the woman.
It also helps to be persistent. When I lived in Colombia, I met an Irish guy who had lived in Buenos Aires before me. Like every other expat who had lived in Argentina, he recounted how the women were difficult and how he couldn’t make anything happen for at least the first several weeks.
Then, something clicked.
When I pressed him further, he explained that the key to his success was persistence.
He told me about a time when he kept asking this girl to go out with him until she caved in and went out. Then, he kept pressing her to come back to his house. He told me that he had to do it no more than 5 times before she finally relented and agreed to see him again.
I’m not saying to be forceful and make her do something she doesn’t want to do, but it’s important to be persistent.
Eventually, she’ll either give in and allow herself to be seduced, or she’ll refuse. Either way, you will know where you stand.
Where to meet Argentinian Women in Argentina
Buenos Aires is the obvious start. It’s the capital and pulsating heart of the country. It’s a huge city with tons of coffee shops, restaurants, bars, and clubs. Plus, you can attend all kinds of cultural events, thus ensuring you’ll be able to meet the type of girl you’re looking for.
Buenos Aires has a flourishing coffee-shop scene, which is great for working and relaxing, especially if you’re a digital nomad who makes a living working line. Coffee shops are also ideal places to approach women since you’re usually in a relaxed, no-pressure situation.
Nightlife in Argentina is different
Argentinian nightlife is unlike nightlife in many other cities around the world is that it starts relatively late.
When I lived in Buenos Aires, I typically had dinner at 9 pm, went to a bar for some drinks at 11 pm and finally hit up some club around 1-2am.
So, if you’re an early riser, you will have a bit of a challenge adjusting to this nightlife. On the other hand, if you’re a night owl (like I am), you will feel right at home.
How to meet them in real life
While there are all kinds of tricks and techniques to meet women in real life, I like to stick to tried and try approaching. If I like a girl, I simply come over and talk to her. My approaches are generally direct; if I like a girl, I come over and introduce myself.
I found that this straight-up approaching goes perfectly in line with Argentinian’s European mentality.
How to meet them online
I think, by far, the best way to meet Argentinian women is by finding them online. Whereas Brazilian or Colombian women can be easily approached offline or online, Argentinian girls are typically on guard, so an online way is much better.
While they are many websites to meet Argentinian women, by far, the best one to do so is $International Cupid (Latin American Cupid is a good choice as well).
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One final note: if you have more time, I highly recommend you visit Argentina’s flamboyant next-door neighbor: Brazil. The women exude pure sexuality and femininity that their Argentine counterparts lack.
As I sit in my apartment right in the heart of Kiev, I can’t help to appreciate a certain rawness about Eastern Europe that I just love.
It’s hard to explain to those who’ve never been to the region, but the foreigners who’ve lived here have a hard time grasping this concept. But Eastern Europe is raw. Much more raw than your comfortable West. That’s indeed what makes it so special as opposed to the boring West. That’s why people come here and enjoy staying here.
For instance, take something as raw as a conflict between two men. You’re much more likely to get into a physical altercation in a city like Moscow than in a city like New York. I’m not saying that Moscow is more violent than New York, but an Eastern European man is much more like to resort to physical violence to solve a problem than an American man, who, instead, might choose to hire a lawyer and sue you in the court of law.
This isn’t just applicable to “random” disagreements you might have with someone on the street but is also applicable to situations where, for instance, a man happens to find out that his wife is cheating with another man. In that case, it wouldn’t be entirely unusual for the woman’s husband (and a couple of his friends) to show up at the guy’s work or home to “solve the problem.” This is not something a random New Yorker might want to do for fear of easily getting arrested and sent to prison for assault.
Corruption is another area where things are much more “raw” and “closer to the metal.” In Eastern Europe, corruption is simple: a politician pays himself more salary for “special expenses” or influences the government to award contracts to his business friends (or his own company). Or, if they’re even that sophisticated, they just blatantly steal money from the government’s budget.
In Eastern Europe, you don’t need much digging and investigative reporting to see where the money is going. In the United States, the UK or some other developed Western country, things aren’t very transparent. The corruption is still there, but it’s so beautifully masked and embedded into our mind and culture that even though there’s plenty of corruption in America, it’s countries like Russia and Ukraine that are pretty much synonymous with the word “corruption.”
When the American government wants to steal from its citizens, they do it via many sophisticated ways. There are complicated tax laws that allow rich people lots of write-offs that the middle-class earners, thus allowing some American companies to pay zero taxes.
But when Russians want to steal, they just steal. No complicated tax laws. No confusing off-shore companies (of course, they have those two), they just take the money and run.
Just recently, there was news in Russian media about five FSB (equivalent to America’s FBI) agents were arrested by other FSB agents after taking a business man’s deposit $2M deposit and splitting it amongst themselves. These guys raided a bank after being tipped off by a bank teller after a large deposit and ran off with the money. Of course, they were later caught and apprehended, but since they had connections to the highest levels in the agency, it’s questionable if they will serve much time if any.
Money and power, raw money and raw power is the name of the game in Eastern Europe. Part of it is because governments are so weak and corrupt themselves, that the average man needs to build everything himself and make his own money. This ain’t Denmark where you have universal healthcare and a universal safety net where you can work doing “what you love” and still be able to have a decent living.
But in Russia and Ukraine, things are different. And this is where real masculinity shines. This is where men are “old school,” where they take responsibility for building, protecting and providing for that family and their loved ones. But once you make enough money to provide for your family, where does the rest go? To the women, of course.
The counterpart to masculine men is feminine women. The more masculine the men, the more feminine the women. In my opinion, Eastern Europe is the place where you have super masculine men and super feminine women. It’s the perfect confluence of sexes that you don’t experience elsewhere—especially in the sexually-neutered West.
Thus, it’s no surprise that Eastern European women are some of the most feminine women in the world. They have to be, act and stay feminine to be selected by the successful masculine men who can protect them, care and provide for them. And the constant manicures, hair salons, gyms, and buying nice clothing proves this fact.
The result is a society that, at the extreme, can be very raw. I say, “at the extreme,” because not every woman and not every man is super feminine and masculine, respectively. Not all men are super hustlers who are trying to make a killing and not every woman is a perfect ten supermodel who is seeking a super high-value man. There are plenty of “regular” guys and “regular” women who aren’t that ambitious that they must have the absolute best of everything. In other words, Eastern Europe has hipsters, too.
But even when taken as an aggregate, the average man is much more masculine than, say, in America. They’re much more decisive and have that “the strong, silent type” behavior. Conversely, the women are that much more feminine. Why? Because being feminine that’s the purest way of attracting a masculine and capable man. Neither of that is some accident, but an evolved survival and reproduction strategy. After all, no high value man would ever want to spend his quality time with a masculine, ball-busting woman.
It’s no surprise that many young women that won beauty contests across Russia or Moscow have been known to be associated with all kinds of mafiosos, criminals and gangsters. Although these men might have built their lives on the wrong side of the law, they are ambitious and domineering men who get what they want in life.
Living so long in Eastern Europe made me realize is how feminized America and the West are. I mean, we’re talking about a culture where the majority of men’s behavior is, well, feminine. Where men put women up on a pedestal, emotionally argue with women, believe in the so-called “50/50 relationships” where men and women aren’t romantically involved, but are “partners,” and where men employ a scarcity mentality where they’re made to believe that the women they’re with are the only one in the world.
If there’s one word that describes Eastern Europe women, it’s “submissive.” Generally, a woman’s attractive level determines how submissive she’s. If she’s very attracted, then she’s super submissive. If the man is dominant, she’s super submissive.
Why are American women so masculine? It’s a question that every American man has been asking themself for the past twenty years or more years. The answer is simple: it’s because the men are so feminine. And I can bet you that you don’t even know why. The fact of the matter is that the behavior that you consider as being “normal” is very feminine. Ever seen men argue on Twitter either amongst themselves or troll Trump’s latest tweet? (Or if they liked Trump, they trolled liberals or SJW’s). Well, in case you didn’t know, trolling is feminine behavior. Masculine men simply don’t have time nor energy to troll because they’re too busy conquering the world. I can’t imagine a healthy, successful Eastern European man argue with another man over some inconsequential stuff, like, why some anonymous man on the Internet said one thing and what he meant.
If there’s anything that I learned about masculinity and femininity while living in Eastern Europe is that men and women are radically different, much more different than I had anticipated. If you want to understand the genders, you have to be outright sexist. For instance, I don’t let my girlfriend cook my steaks because I feel that it’s a man’s job and that I should be doing it. Her job is to take care of the house and create a nice environment where I can home and relax. While I understand that I’m with a good girl who won’t leave me the second I have financial difficulties, I’m also not so naive to think that she’s going to continue living with a man who has zero ambition to make his and his future family’s life the very best it can be.
Nature has created a certain balance when it comes to how men and women behave. A man’s mission is to conquer the world while the women’s mission is to conquer the man who’s conquering the world. That includes the men amassing fortunes any way they can and beauty queens stopping at nothing to be part of that fortune. Eastern Europe reflects that perfectly. Maybe that’s why a lot of things just make sense in this part of the world.
Let me ask you a question: are there any women on this planet that are more well known than Brazilian women? Ask almost anyone around the world and chances are that person will at least know what you’re talking about.
Brazilian women along with maybe Russian women are some of the most popular women on the planet. Virtually everyone on this planet has heard of Brazil, Rio de Janeiro, and the yearly carnival that happens there.
I spent a total of seven years living all over Latin America. Brazil was the country where I spent the longest by far: three years.
Geographically, Brazil is located in South America, but it doesn’t take long to realize that the country, its culture, and the people are almost like on another planet.
In this guide, I want to introduce you to Brazil that I know, its culture and people. When taken as a whole, all of it would greatly enhance your chances of connecting with the Brazilian woman of your dreams
Brazil is the largest country in Latin America and borders every single country on the continent except Chile and Ecuador. It’s also the fifth largest country in the world.
Brazil was conquered by Portuguese explorers lead by Pedro Álvares Cabral in the 15th and 16th century.
In the 20th century, Brazil experienced huge waves of immigration. As a result, Brazil is many ways like America, a melting pot of different nationalities.
Lots of the Brazilians have Portuguese, Italian, German, and even Ukrainian ancestry.
The official language in Brazil is Portuguese—not Spanish, as everyone mistakenly thinks. Portuguese and Spanish are about 90% similar, so if you speak Spanish, you should be able to pick up Portuguese fairly quickly.
When I arrived, I only knew one word in Portuguese. Fortunately, I had already spoken pretty fluent Spanish.
It took me about 3 months to get fairly decent at Portuguese and another 3 months to become fairly fluent. After a year or so, I was able to converse with everyone and speak pretty decently. I didn’t have any problems understanding anything and even watched television shows with problems.
If you don’t already speak a similar Latin language like Spanish, Italian or French, give yourself at least six months to learn and become proficient in Portuguese. Since you’re in the country, you should be able to learn it fairly rapidly.
English isn’t as widely spoken as you might imagine. Although it’s spoken by people in the hospitality industry: hotels, restaurants, tours, etc. It’s generally not spoken by regular people who have regular jobs.
I know for a fact that my life in Brazil would’ve been entirely different had I only stuck to English instead of trying to learn Portuguese. Brazil is such an exotic and amazing country that speaking only in English simply doesn’t do the country justice.
My recommendation is to learn Portuguese. That will give you the best experience for living in the country. However, if you, for some reason you can’t, then English or Spanish is the next best choice.
OK, so we’re finally getting to the important bits: the women. Brazilian women are famous around the world for a few things. In general, they don’t need much introduction. They’re beautiful, sexy and have beautiful butts that make other women jealous. They wear very revealing bathing suits to the beach that many call “dental floss” or “fio dental” in Portuguese.
My favorite part about them is the fact that they just exude sexuality that other women—like the super feminine Ukrainian woman—can’t come close. Don’t get me wrong, Ukrainian women are sexy, but they definitely lack the sexuality of Brazilian women.
Here’s the thing, a typical woman from Brazil isn’t usually the most attractive woman if judging strictly by the face. Most of them don’t exactly have supermodel looks, but when viewed as the complete package, they just exude immense sexuality that just turns you on like no other woman can or will.
This is something that I’ve discussed with my friends. And all of them agree that there’s just something magical about Brazilian women that almost all the other women just lack.
For instance, Eastern European women are absolutely gorgeous to the point of being mistaken for models, but because of the closed culture (Soviet Union) and colder climates, they just don’t exude the same level of sexuality as their Latin American—and especially—Brazilian counterparts.
I actually prefer that. If given the choice, I would definitely choose a super sexy woman that turns me on compared to a woman with a beautiful face but lacking charisma. What’s the point of amazing looks when the woman looks charisma and doesn’t feel too comfortable in her environment?
Of course, many guys might indeed prefer a gorgeous girl even if she doesn’t exude super sexy charisma, but I’m one of those guys who really values the overall package: looks, personality, sexiness, charisma, sex, etc.
When viewed from this perspective, Brazilian women are simply unbeatable.
Are Brazilian women easy?
There’s a certain stereotype world over that Brazilian women are super easy. The reason for this stereotype is because foreigners are constantly inundated with images of Brazilian women wearing skimpy clothing, dancing, and their overall sensuality is automatically translated into being easy.
All of that is false. In fact, Brazilian women are, for the most part, fairly traditional. I say “for the most part” because there’s also a geographical factor. Typically, women from the Northern parts of Brazil (Bahia, Recife, Amazonas) are typically “easier” than women south of Rio de Janeiro (São Paolo, Curitiba, Porto Alegre).
In Rio de Janeiro, women are also fairly traditional, so it pays to follow the typical 3-day rule.
As you go more South, women become more European (both in looks and mentality) so things like one-night stands are typically out of the question.
Of course, I’m not saying that one-night stands don’t happen; they do and they happen more often than not, but I definitely wouldn’t bet on flying into Rio de Janeiro for a weekend, meeting a girl and then bringing her back to your place.
The chance of that happening is pretty slim. My advice is to plan for a minimum of two weeks, a month is even better, but two weeks should suffice.
That would give you enough to meet the girl of your dreams, wine and dine her and seduce her.
What’s it like dating Brazilian women
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After meeting her and getting her contact info, the first date should be something like a nice lounge with good drinks somewhere. This is where you’re going to spit your game and get the all-important kiss (see below).
On the second date, you can keep it super casual by doing some daytime activity such as going to the beach, shopping in one of the large shopping malls or just going for a walk in the city.
By then, it should be well established that you both like each other, so there’s no need to try hard for kissing or anything like that.
Brazil is the only country in the world that I know where you can kiss a woman within 10-15 minutes after getting to know her. Of course, some exceptions do apply and that’s assuming she’s actually enjoying your company.
But if you’ve been talking to each other for a while and you notice that she’s enjoying your company, then don’t be afraid to go for that kiss.
On the other hand, since kissing happens so quick, it generally doesn’t mean much and is not an indicator that you’re going to get laid soon. It simply means that you’re no longer will be friends and maybe something more.
Brazilian women are used to Brazilian guys trying to kiss them within the first 15 minutes of establishing chemistry (which happens very quickly after the first meet).
If you don’t kiss her soon enough, she might think you’re not interested — or worse off — you’re weird in some way.
This is something you should keep in mind when trying to get to know the woman.
Your goal should be to build comfort
Once you get the kiss and it has been established that both of you like each other, your objective should be to build comfort.
Don’t rush into sex, but also don’t shy away from being physical and aggressive. Save the serious make outs for the bedroom; there’s no need to get super heavy on the beach or in another public place.
On the third date, you can suggest to meet up in your place for some wine or have a couple of beers in a bar nearby your place. This will help with logistics in order to get her back to your place for some late night fun.
Where to meet Brazilian women online
Let’s face it, we all live on the Internet. One of the best ways of meeting women whether you’re already in Brazil or still planning your trip is online.
In fact, one of the nicest parts about meeting women online is that you can do something called “pipelining” – that is, contacting and chatting up women while you’re in your home country. Then, when you arrive to Brazil, you’ll already have a list of women waiting to see you.
This is one of the main advantages of meeting women online vs. meeting them offline.
So, what’s the best site to meet Brazilian women?
After spending months and months creating different profiles all over the Internet, I finally discovered the best site to meet your next Brazilian girlfriend.
Obviously, the best indicator that the site is solid is the fact that it has a high number of visitors. More visitors, more women. More women, more chances to find your perfect Brazilian girlfriend.
It’s all simple math, really.
Numbers don’t really lie.
After checking out all the dating sites and doing my research, it was obvious that the obvious winner was Brazilian Cupid. The site boasts thousands and thousands of active members.
Once you register, you’re ready to go to the next step
Step 2: Add a profile picture
Hey, other women want to see what you look like. So, go ahead and upload a nice picture of yourself.
Tip: I found that pictures where the background is beach or sea work the best. But if you can’t get a picture like that, then any picture would do. Just make sure you look relaxed and maybe with a slight smile.
Just don’t look too creepy because that will just scare the women away.
Step 3: Upload more profile pictures
It never hurts to upload a few more pictures (2-4) just give women a better understanding of your life and what you’re about.
I remember when I only had one picture, many women would ask if I had more pictures because the first picture wasn’t clear enough.
To do that, just click the “Profile” tab just below the member menu.
It took me about five minutes to complete the profile and put it in all the interests for other women to see what you’re all about.
Step 4: Start contacting women!
Now we’re getting to the fun parts.
This is where you’ll look through the profiles of the gorgeous women and begin contacting them.
If everything about your profile is setup right, you should be receiving a message shortly, sometimes that happens instantly if the woman you’ve contacted is also online.
Of course, if you’d like the ability to message hundreds of women, you will need to upgrade your profile. But, honestly, that’s a small price to pay for love, right?
Imagine that you meet an amazing woman, even your soul mate, what’s a few extra bucks to do so?
Here’s a sample message I used to get lots of messages:
I couldn’t help to message you and let you know that you have a nice smile.
After looking over your profile, I think we would get along pretty well.
Acho que a gente pode fazer algo juntos (I think we can do something together)
Let me know!
Brazilian women love it when a man is direct and isn’t afraid to tell a woman he loves here.
Brazilian guys can be extremely confident and aggressive when pursuing the women they desire. A Brazilian guy doesn’t need to get wasted and see double before approaching the woman he wants. Once they find a woman attractive, they go over there and approach her.
It’s that simple.
This means that Brazilian women are very used to guys approaching them directly without the indirect games that people play in the West. A Brazilian woman is entirely comfortable with getting approached by a strange man on the street, in a store, in a restaurant, a coffee shop or even the beach.
She’s not going to “freak out” like a woman in a Western country (USA, Canada) where guys are timider and don’t really approach women.
This brings on to the next point: be direct. When approaching a Brazilian woman, don’t beat around the bush. Don’t play indirect games. Don’t ask for “directions” (unless you really mean it).
Once you find a woman you like, simply come over, tell her that you noticed her walking or sitting, that you found her attractive and then ask her if she’d like to meet up one day.
Brazilian women appreciate a man who wants something and aren’t afraid to get it. Thus, they will be direct in return. If she likes you, she’ll let you know immediately. And, if she doesn’t, she’ll tell you the same.
Unlike American women, they’ll never shame you or make fun of you or your approach.
No asshole behavior
Don’t be an asshole to women. Don’t use the so-called “asshole game” when trying to communicate with women that’s very common with American women.
Respect the women. Don’t play any stupid games, don’t insult them, and don’t treat them like shit. Be nice but also aggressive (don’t be a nice guy).
Brazilian women don’t think highly of men who look down at them and don’t respect them.
If she isn’t responding well to your advances, then she probably isn’t attracted to you. In this case, you should just stop pursuing her and find another woman.
I’m not going to beat around the bush, but if you want to really connect with beautiful women in their own country, you have to do it in their own language. That means learning Portuguese.
Of course, some English is spoken in the major cities. In Rio de Janeiro, some of the richer and better-educated women will speak at least some English. The same for more educated women in a city like São Paolo. Additionally, women who have spent some time in the US or the UK will also speak some English.
But there are two problems with relying only on English. First, you will limit yourself to the women who speak English. That means limiting yourself to women who have lived in the West or, at least, women who have been heavily exposed to a Western country.
That means you can forget all about regular, middle-class Brazilian women who don’t speak a word of English. That’s missing out on a huge opportunity.
Second of all, it doesn’t matter which country you’re in, but trying to connect with people in some third-party language (e.g., English) instead of in their own is always problematic. When I lived in Brazil, I made an effort to learn Portuguese. After learning it, my ability to connect with women skyrocketed. It really made ALL the difference. I can never imagine living (or visiting) Brazil and not being able to speak Portuguese.
So, my suggestion is that you must absolutely learn Portuguese for best results. Or, at least make a solid effort of at least trying to.
The gringo factor
There’s one important factor I want to mention before discussing how dating works: the gringo factor. Being a foreigner means you’ll automatically have a different experience dating local women than a local man. Not better or worse—just different. That’s just part of the game so you have to accept it.
First of all, my experience has shown that there are two kinds of women: those who only date Brazilian men and those who are open to dating both kinds of men. I’ve also met women who only date gringos, but those have been relatively rare.
The other thing you have to realize is that Brazilian men can generally get away with a lot more than gringos. What I mean when I say that is that a Brazilian man can be super aggressive with a woman in a bar, and the woman will accept this behavior (she’ll just shrug it off as a “Brazilian thing.”)
On the other hand, a gringo doesn’t have that freedom. A gringo can’t simply be super aggressive because the woman will not accept such behavior: she might think to herself, “Who the hell does this gringo think he is? Does he really think we’re that easy?”
Thus, some Brazilian women won’t be as comfortable when gringos behave aggressively but not when Brazilian guys do the same.
Of course, that might not be the case, but because of the gringo stereotype, there’s always a risk a woman will think that.
The point I’m trying to make is that you need to be careful with your behavior and can’t just do the same thing Brazilian guys do. Even if you have a great game, you might get a completely different reaction from the woman you’re pursuing.
How to meet women during the day
I can’t name a single country where it’s easier to meet women during the day than in Brazil. Brazilian women are completely comfortable being approached during the day; Brazilian guys do it all the time—everywhere.
In fact, a good way to learn about local dating customs is by observing Brazilian guys. Brazilian guys are confident. But they also don’t really need to get drunk in order to approach women. All they do is look in the direction of the woman they like, get up, go over and initiate a conversation.
They also don’t care about rejection. So, if the girl declines, they move on to another woman. There are so many of them, so being rejected by one woman is never an issue.
Whenever you see a woman that you like, simply approach her and ask her how she’s doing.
In Brazil, everything is very simple, so you don’t need any fancy lines or elaborate approaches, you just need to come over and open your mouth. Once you do that, she’ll know exactly what you’re up to, so there will be no misunderstandings and awkward moments.
Where to meet women during the day
The fact that it’s so easy to meet women means that entire cities are your playgrounds. You can approach women pretty much anywhere. When I lived there, I approached women in coffee shops, restaurants, gyms, beaches, juice bars, and pretty much anywhere I saw a cute woman.
This is something that you really can’t do as much in European countries because the women are on-guard and aren’t very comfortable with being approached by strangers on the street (you can blame the new media for scaremongering people).
Nightlife: how to meet women at night
Like anywhere else in the world, meeting women at night is also a great strategy. When I lived in Brazil, I went out 3-4 days a week and never had a problem meeting women.
In Rio de Janeiro, where I spent the bulk of my time, nightlife works in peculiar ways. Being a beach city, the whole life revolves around the beach. On weekdays, the beaches aren’t as packed, but during summer months, the beaches are absolutely packed on weekends.
This means that instead of partying hard on Friday or Saturday nights, people typically party until around 1-2am and then head home. That’s because they want to wake up earlier the next day (Saturday or Sunday) and spend their day at the beach.
That’s completely different from your typical nightlife scene in most cities around the world where people party until the wee hours of early morning.
So, if you’re in Rio, this is something you should take into account: the nightlife isn’t great—but still doable—although the good news is that you should have no problems meeting women during the day pretty much anywhere.
Meeting women online
There’s another time-tested method of meeting women: online.
The usual suspects come into play such as Tinder and an entire assortment of other online apps.
In Brazil, Tinder works very differently than in other parts of the world. It’s extremely easy to match women and meet them, so you don’t need to try very hard. I used the same strategy that’s described here.
When I visited Brazil and began using Tinder, I immediately had a ton of matches, so getting dates was never a problem.
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To sum it up
Learn Portuguese. Your options expand greatly when you’re at least conversational in Portuguese. Girls know that you’re not a fly-by-night tourist and, instead, see you as someone who’s at least somewhat dedicated to the country.
Be aggressive. Brazil is one probably one of the most aggressive dating cultures I’ve ever experienced. Girls are completely fine when guys approach them out of the blue and ask them out. Brazilian guys are super aggressive as well and don’t really need to see twice (be drunk) before approaching a woman they like.
Be in shape. Whether you’re in Rio de Janeiro, Belo Horizonte, São Paolo or Salvador, you’ll notice a common theme: both men and women are always striving to be in shape. Especially in a city like Rio, with its great beach, it’s important to at least not to be fat. Being overweight will be a disadvantage when it comes to dating (come to think of it, I can’t think of one country where it will be much of an advantage)
Be patient. It’s fairly rare for Brazilian women to sleep on the first date. Although it does happen from time to time, it’s much more common on the second or third date. Of course, you can try to take her home on the first date, but don’t be disappointed if she rebuffs your advances and you end up needing a few more dates to seal the deal. That’s completely normal.
Don’t be a jerk. Being a jerk as a tool for generating attraction has its place in certain cultures (USA, Canada, and other Western countries), but it has no place in Latin America and Brazil. Brazilian guys are aggressive but always respectful. None of that “nice guy” stuff, but also none of that disrespect that you might notice in the West.
Have a well-balanced life. More than anything, it’s important to have a well-balanced life. Don’t just focus 100% of your time on the women, but develop other hobbies like BJJ, surfing, or something else. No woman wants you to devote 100% of your time to her. She wants you to pursue your goals and enjoy the ride. When I lived in Brazil, I had lots of friends, trained BJJ and worked out. The women were the icing on the cake. It worked out really well this way.
One thing you must understand about Brazil is that each major city and state are like a country within and are very different from other countries and cities.
During my sojourn in Brazil, I mostly stayed in Rio de Janeiro. I first thought that the rest of Brazil is exactly like Rio de Janeiro. Then, as I was getting ready to leave Brazil, I went and lived in two other cities: Belo Horizonte and São Paolo.
Rio de Janeiro is a city that doesn’t need much of an introduction. Everyone knows what the city is like and what to expect. It’s one of the most exotic cities in the world. Not only there are great beaches to relax on, but you also have the historic downtown area and even museums if that happens to be your thing.
One thing you have to keep in mind is that Rio de Janeiro isn’t exactly the safest city out there, and can be downright dangerous. When I lived there, I would never leave my house with anything I was willing to lose. That meant not going outside with my expensive smartphone, a watch, and a wallet with lots of money.
Here’s some solid advice: dress like a local, don’t act like a tourist, don’t stand out and you should be ok.
Belo Horizonte is only eight hours north of Rio but is an entirely different city. There’s no beach. The people are very different; the look and act differently. They even speak with a different accent.
Additionally, as I wrote above: Rio de Janeiro doesn’t have the best nightlife in the world because the people are eager to hit the beach in the morning.
Well, Belo Horizonte doesn’t have that problem because it doesn’t have a beach. When I went out there, I typically partied until 4-5 in the morning, something that wasn’t possible in Rio de Janeiro. So, if you love nightlife, you won’t be disappointed.
São Paolo is one of the largest cities in the world and has pretty much everything that you may desire. There are tons of different neighborhoods with awesome attractions: cafes, restaurants, lounges, nightclubs, etc.
There’s even a beach that’s only one hour away in a neighboring city called Santos.
I spent a couple of months in São Paolo and quite enjoyed it. While it isn’t as exotic as Rio de Janeiro, it’s definitely more sophisticated and cultured. The people are more cultured as well. While it’s not a super safe city, I felt it was somewhat safer than Rio de Janeiro.
When to visit
Brazil is a hot and tropical country most of the year, so no matter where you go, you’re probably not going to need to pack a lot of winter clothes.
For instance, in Rio de Janeiro, it’s scorching hot pretty much all year except the winter months of June-August. When I stayed there, the lowest the temperatures ever got was around 15 C (60 F), and that didn’t last very long.
By September, the temperatures start to rise up again and it’s back up to the typical 30C (86 F) in no time.
The further south you go, the more you will experience regular seasons. In Southern Brazil, it gets fairly cold and even snows in the mountains.
Honestly, if you’re heading down to Rio de Janeiro, I wouldn’t worry about the perfect time to visit because it’s pretty the same weather year-round.
Unlike Europe with its dreary and freezing winters, Brazil is an awesome country to visit pretty much year-round.
Brazilian food is diverse and rich. Not only there are bazillion different juices, with most of them not available anywhere else, but you also have delicious and savoring meats.
Brazil is well known for having amazing BBQ meat. In fact, Brazilians prepare it in their own special way, one that’s completely different from American BBQ (or other country’s).
It’s so delicious that when I lived in Brazil, I couldn’t resist having it almost every day at different eateries.
Brazil’s national dish is called feijoada. It consists of rice, beans, and pieces of meat. It’s super filling and healthy, so if you’re on a tight budget, you will have no issues staying fed and healthy.
OK, So where can I find a good Brazilian girl?
In my opinion, the most efficient way of meeting a Brazilian girl is online. This way you can sit on your couch in your living room and browse hundreds of profiles of available Brazilian women who are also looking for a relationship (or a fling).
A quick caveat: unfortunately, just like anywhere in the world, there are women who are only looking for a sugar daddy or a sponsor, and a country like Brazil is no exception. That’s why you should avoid places like Tinder for meeting women since it’s full of gold diggers and other low quality women.
A much better place to meet Brazilian women is through a reputable online dating website such as Brazilian Cupid. That’s actually where I met my first serious girlfriend. Many of my friends got married with the women they met through the site. The biggest difference between Brazilian Cupid and Tinder is that the women on Brazilian Cupid are far more traditional instead of looking for something quick.
Indonesian women and, for that matter, Indonesia, was never on my radar. As someone who mostly roamed in Latin America, the only thing I knew about Asia was places like Thailand, China and Japan; in fact, the first time I ever went to Asia was when I flew to Thailand in 2004.
It wasn’t until 2016 that I returned back to Asia when I escaped the dreary Eastern European winter and flew to the tropical island of Bali where I ended spending three months.
While I haven’t been properly introduced to Indonesian women before my trip, I certainly had an idea of what they looked like. For instance, there’s Anggun, a singer who was part of the Enigma music project, whose music I greatly enjoy up to this day. Dark with long black hair, the only word to describe her is exotic.
While not all the women in Bali (or in the rest of Indonesia) resembled the famed singer, many certainly were tall, dark and exotic. Moreover, there’s a lot more than meets the eye.
The following article is written by my friend Robert, a German guy who has been living in Indonesia since 2005 with his Indonesian wife.
Indonesia is a country that’s, by some estimates, is made up of more than 17,000 islands. Most of the people know Indonesia’s most famous island: Bali, but there are a few other important islands such as Sumatra, Java (where the capital, Jakarta, is located), Kalimantan and Sulawesi. The rest of the islands are typically small islands that are located near the big ones.
Indonesia is the world’s most populous Muslim country. Although it’s nowhere near as conservative as Saudi Arabia or Kuwait, the level of conservatism varies from region to region. For instance, in the city of Banda Aceh, at the northern tip of Sumatra (close to Malaysia and Singapore), Islamic law is in place which is similar to Saudi Arabia. However, the rest of Indonesia is pretty relaxed when it comes to Islam.
Bali, the famous island, is the only region in Indonesia that’s not Muslim: its main religion is Buddhism.
The types of women
For the most part, you can categorize the women in Bali into three types: super conservative, mildly conservative and not conservative.
It’s easy to understand what kind of women you’re dealing with just by looking at her behavior. If she wears a veil that’s an obvious sign that you’re dealing with a conservative woman who abides by conservative Islamic principles and isn’t really open to some casual relationship. This type of woman would be most likely seeking a Muslim man who her parents would approve. As a fly-by-night Westerner, these types of women would be simply out of your reach.
The second type of woman is a less conservative middle-class woman. While she may not be wearing a veil when she’s outside, there’s a good chance that she’s directly looking for a husband and not really interested in random dating. A few dates with this girl and the next thing you know is that she wants you to come over to her house for dinner and be introduced to her parents. This is typically not the type of woman you would ever meet in a bar or a club.
The third type of a woman is a Westernized Indonesian woman that listens to Western music, wears (revealing) Western-style clothing and spends her free time by frequenting various bars and clubs. This type of woman would be the easiest to engage in a casual relationship and she may even be open to having a one-night stand if you meet her in a bar or a club (or even online dating; see more of that below).
If you’re looking for a more serious relationship or even marriage, your goal is to cultivate a social circle so that you can meet more of the second type of women. On the other hand, if you’re looking for something casual, then don’t sweat it, since you’ll be able to meet those types of women in the places where Western women typically hang out: bars, lounges and clubs.
Meeting the family
If you’re dating a fairly traditional Indonesian woman and she invites you back to her house for dinner, you must understand that it’s an important step in direction of a much more serious relationship or even marriage.
This is why I urge to think twice before accepting a girl’s invitation to have dinner with her family. When you show up to the date, you’re essentially making a statement that your intentions are serious and that you’re looking into marrying the girl. Don’t accept the invitation when you know you are never marrying her and that she’s just someone with whom you’re passing your time.
How to know if she’s marriage material
For all the traditional and conservative aspects of the culture and the country, there are plenty of Indonesian women who are only after your wallet and nothing else. Let’s talk about some ways you can determine if she’s marriage material or just merely an opportunistic gold digger.
If you initially met the woman in a bar or a club, then you have to understand that she mostly enjoys a casual lifestyle and has probably met multiple men before you in the same fashion. While it’s not necessarily a red flag, you must understand that this type of woman probably enjoys receiving lots of attention from men and favors short-term relationships over long-term ones.
If a woman brings forward the topic of money early on in the interaction, or even on the first couple of dates, that’s definitely a red flag. That could mean she’s trying to gauge how much financial resources you have and whether you can be a good provider for her (instead of someone she’s sexually attracted to).
Another thing that really helps is to get the opinion of your other friends and acquaintances who are aware of your relationship. When you’re in a relationship with a woman you like (or love), you’re mostly blind to her behavior. You tend to rationalize everything she does as good and ignore anything that might be negative. But because your friends and acquaintances aren’t emotionally involved with the woman, they see things for what they are. Thus, if your friends notice something that’s off, they can let you know.
It’s even better if your friends are local Indonesians instead of other Westerners. Indonesians (men or women) understand their own kind and will alert you if something isn’t right, especially if they feel that the woman is using you.
Another tip is to look around at her friends. If most or all of her friends are slutty and are always frequenting bars, or most of her friends have foreign boyfriends who are sending them money, then there might be a high chance that the girl you’re with is also doing that (either with you or another foreigner) or has a similar mindset of her other friends. In that case, I would pay close attention to her behavior and attitude towards yourself.
You must be super vigilant if your only form of communication is online and you’ve never physically met her in her hometown. Even if she’s always willing to chat with you online at the exact same time, that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have another guy in her life.
I have known a couple of guys who spent months and months (and even years) chatting with a girl—and even sending her money—only to find out later that she was actually living with her boyfriend for many years. This would be a super heartbreaking experience that I don’t ever want you to go through.
Beware of the woman “disappears” for days at a time without any explanation and then reappears as if nothing happened. This could mean she was spending time with another guy without telling you anything.
In the same fashion, beware of a girl that has two phones. One phone might be for communication with friends and you, and another phone might be for communication with her “clients.”
Other than that, trust your gut because typically it’s rarely wrong. If you suspect foul play, spend time to investigate why you’re having this feeling in the first place. If you can back it up with some facts, especially if you know your girl is not being honest with you or is playing games, it might be a good idea to confront her about it or find a new girl altogether.
Where to meet women
Meeting Indonesian women is really like meeting any woman. If you’re in a big city like Jakarta or Surabaya, then I would recommend frequenting the nicer places such as the nicer shopping centers, cafes, lounges, etc.
When it comes to traditional day game, it’s going to be hard in Indonesia because it’s super hot and humid outside and because most of the cities aren’t really walkable. The sidewalks are either in poor condition or completely inexistent and people mostly move around the cities in cars, buses or scooters. That’s why it’s much easier to meet women in places with air-conditioning than outside where foot traffic is relatively rare.
Meeting women online
A much better option is to meet women online. Since everyone is on the Internet and pretty much everyone has a smartphone (yes, even women in Indonesia), meeting women is both easy and effective.
There are generally two ways of meeting women online in Indonesia. The first is an app that everyone has already heard of: Tinder. While Tinder works really well, the type of women you’ll most likely to meet on there will be more suitable for casual relationships than something as serious as marriage.
The second method of meeting Indonesian women would be via online dating sites. This is by a far a much better way of meeting women than something like Tinder. The women you’ll meet on there will usually be of higher quality and more interested in serious relationships.
There you have it. The concise guide to meeting and mating Indonesian women. If you like Asian women, you’re going to love spending with Indonesian women since they exhibit a certain exoticness that other Asian women such as Thai, Vietnamese or Filipino simply do not.
While I have been fortunate that I met my future wife within in the first three months of moving to Indonesia, and our union has been nothing short of amazing, I also know of many situations where foreigners (bule) haven’t been as fortunate. When it comes to women, there’s a quote that a good friend told me a long time ago, “trust, but verify.”
I suppose one of the benefits of a free market economy and capitalism is that there are services for everything. Just like the popular catchphrase, “There’s an app for that,” if something is difficult or confusing for someone to do, you can be sure someone out there will come and simplify the process for you. For a fee, of course.
One of these services is the familiar “mail-order bride” phenomena that started some time ago. It’s basically a way for men abroad to choose among the preselected women and marry them right away, instead of endlessly dating them for many years as traditionally done.
Another way to view the entire mail-order pride phenomenon is as a “concierge” service where someone is essentially hand-holding your hand throughout the entire process, from helping you choose a mate, to communicate with her and, ultimately, arranging for you to meet her in her home country. That’s in comparison to a “self-service arrangement” like Tinder or a regular dating site where you’re forced to do everything else.
There are obvious benefits to such an arrangement. For example, if you’re an American guy in Texas, and you’re interested in a Ukrainian woman from Kiev, there’s a lot of things that you need to know and understand. The elephant in the room is the cultural differences. Someone with experience matching such people before would obviously help you navigate the landmines of incompatibilities and other possible problems.
But just like with any full-service arrangement, there are various risks that you must take into account. First of all, there’s a big risk of being scammed by the agency owners. Secondly, there’s the risk of being scammed by the foreign women themselves. Let’s analyze these risks in greater detail.
Marriage agency scams
When you’re dealing with a full-service agency, you’re essentially relying on them to help you at each step of the way. Naturally, they’re going to charge you for this. The more hand-holding you need, the more money you will have to shell out. I know a dating agency here in Kiev that charges you every time a woman opens and reads the man’s message. Another agency charges when someone sends a guys message. This is an addition to charging various fees when it comes to actually meeting the woman in person and everything else.
There was a popular documentary on Netflix named “Love Me” that chronicled the journey of several Western men, ranging in age from mid-30s to 60s as they traveled from their Western country all the way to Ukraine, all arranged by a particular marriage agency. Only one guy (a guy from Texas) brought his new Ukrainian wife back to the States; the rest were played (manipulated) by the women in one way or another. One guy was even swindled by the local police that worked in tandem with the “bride” he was pursuing.
The moral of the story is that grass isn’t particularly greener on the other side and that many things can go wrong when a wealthy Western man tries to marry a not so wealthy, but very attractive Eastern European woman. Of course, there are success stories as well, but the point is when things don’t work, not only do they hurt the guy emotionally, but financially as well.
This brings me to the second point: apart from being gamed by these marriage agencies, there’s also the risk of being gamed by the women themselves. Actually, Ukrainian (and Russian) women are known for being experts in manipulation. (As someone who’s been living in Ukraine for five years, I definitely confirm this and tell you that it’s absolutely true.)
Ukrainian women are experts at extracting resources from men like oil companies are experts at extracting oil from the ground. Part of it is because they’re very beautiful and sexy and they know that men are crazy about them—especially those men who’re willing to travel abroad in order to court and seduce them.
The way it works is that if a woman feels like you’re valuing her very high because you’re always doing things for and are afraid to voice your concerns or even say something negative about her, she will keep asking for more and more things. A lot of Western guys that come to Ukraine are naturally smitten by the local women, and women feel this right away and demand more and more things as a result of the guys’ high interest.
This type of manipulation can start small and innocent. It can initially take the form of financial help, maybe as low as one hundred dollars or as high as several hundred dollars. If she gets that, she may ask for more and more things until you draw the line and refuse. Even if you refuse, she might use guilt into getting you to do additional things for her.
This is a trap that many guys fall into because as men we’re hardwired to acquiesce to a women’s demands in order to get what we want (e.g., sex, relationship, marriage). That’s especially true if the woman is ultra feminine, a stark difference from the most masculine Western women that we are surrounded with today.
While this type of manipulation is difficult to handle, one way to deal with it is to trust your intuition. If you feel that you’re taking for a ride—in a literal or figurative sense—then it’s not a “feeling,” it’s most likely the reality. As they say, the gut almost never lies. In my experience, the gut has been right in around 99-100% of the cases.
Of course, another option is to not put yourself in such a position in the first place. When you go abroad to meet women, and you’re socially awkward or of a certain age (e.g., over 50), you’re essentially conveying that you can’t get laid at home and that’s why you’re going abroad to trade your wealth and passport for the chance to be with a woman. Although that can result in love, you have to admit that the first thing these women notice is the material gain to be had.
Yet, another option is a sort of a middle ground. You go abroad to meet foreign women, but you don’t employ the services of these dating agencies. Instead, you go the independent route by flying to the foreign country and meeting the women on your own. This might be in person or with the help of the various dating sites. There’s the infamous Tinder, but we at Maverick Traveler are huge fans of Ukraine Date (read our review here or join the site for free here), which we believe is the best way to meet gorgeous Ukrainian women in Ukraine.
While marriage agencies and “mail-order brides” fill a particular niche in an ever-expanding and lucrative international dating market, they are certainly not without their drawbacks. Having said that, I’m sure there are plenty of love stories and successful relationships that have resulted from this arrangement. But, as always, it pays to stay vigilant and trust your intuition for any foul play—all without having to keep your guard up so high that you can’t enjoy the woman you’re after.
It’s the beginning of summer here in Kiev, Ukraine, and in my centrally located neighborhood, you can hear more and more English (as well as Turkish and other foreign languages). Yes, it’s the time of the year where tourists are coming in droves; one of my friends from New York decided to come out for the entire summer by booking an Airbnb for three months. When the temperature drops in mid-September, he’ll be on the first flight out.
There are many reasons that, mostly, Western tourists come to Ukraine. One reason is history. Ukraine is replete with history, so if you’re someone who’s interesting in exploring an ex-Soviet Union country, you will enjoy a city like Kiev as well as the entire region.
But let’s not beat around the bush much longer. If you’re a man between the ages of 18 and 70, and you’re not accompanied by your girlfriend or wife, and you’re not some scientist who’s here to study WWII history or some ancient civilization, and you have a pulse, chances are you’re here for one reason and one reason only: the women. Everyone knows this. Everyone has at least has heard of rumors that Ukrainian women are some of the most beautiful in the world. Not to mention super feminine and submissive.
Last week, I sat down and had coffee with a 57-year-old English tourist. He’s originally from southern England, but, just like myself, loves travel and women, and has spent a good amount of time living in all kinds of countries like Colombia, Thailand, and the Philippines. He loves women. And that’s why he decided to spend the summer in Ukraine.
“Nothing beats Ukrainian women for their sheer beauty,” he assured me.
The problem is that women know this too. A lot of guys think that women are stupid, that they’re emotional and can be easily manipulated, that you can arrive on a flight from Rome, Istanbul, New York or London and sweet talk some woman off her feet and make her yours. But that’s a common rookie mistake. Women—especially Ukrainian women—are actually pretty smart, and they know exactly why you are here. And, as the case is in Ukraine, they also know that they’re some of the most beautiful women and the world which gives them a certain sense of entitlement—especially with foreign men who flew thousands of miles for a chance to spend time with them.
In psychology, there’s an important concept called validation. Validation is when you elevate someone’s value relative to yours by doing something for them. You can validate someone directly or indirectly. A compliment is the simplest form of validation. It’s rare that I would compliment a woman if she’s not pretty, but if a woman is much more gorgeous than the women I regularly date, compliments will naturally fly out of my mouth.
Furthermore, If I take a girl out to an expensive restaurant on a first date, when I usually invite other women to my apartment for a glass of Georgian wine, I just validated her by letting her know that her value is super important to me and that I’m willing to do more than usual to get her to like me.
If I invite a girl on an expensive trip abroad, when I usually invite other women for a drink at a cheap dive bar, then, guess what, I’ve just validated her by indirectly letting her know that I don’t usually date women of her high caliber.
When you travel thousands of miles from your home to a country that’s known for very feminine and beautiful women, well, what does that say about you? In many ways, it’s the ultimate form of validation that a woman can receive.
A woman instinctively knows and understands this. She knows that if you’re willing to spend so much time and money to fly so far away, then perhaps there’s a good chance that you’re not very successful with women in the country you’re in, otherwise you would be having sex with them instead of spending many hours on the plane. That naturally puts you in a weaker position right from the start. (If you need further proof, watch a few episodes of the show 90 Day Finance.)
Of course, that’s not true in all cases, there are some exceptions (I’ll cover those later), but that’s really the elephant in the room that needs to be covered and addressed.
That’s especially true if you’re coming from countries that are known for sex tourism like Turkey or Italy, or if you’re over 55 with really no other business in Ukraine, or if you’re a guy of any age (even young) but awkward and not really social around women.
While I want to sound optimistic and tell you that, yes, you will find your love in Ukraine, the reality is that if you’re 55 and are trying to date 25-year-old Ukrainian women, you will need a bit more than pure charm and personality to compensate for the age difference. Of course, money, fame, and status all can bridge the gap, but my point is that merely “love” won’t cut it. A certain transaction must take place.
A couple of years ago, I remember having a conversation with a 52-year-old American guy who came to Odessa and ended up meeting a 23-year-old girl at a bar. As I was talking to him, he couldn’t stop how he was able to get this girl’s number as though he hadn’t talked to a single woman in the past 50 years.
Of course, he was happy that she liked him enough to give him her number, but call me a cynic (although I prefer a realist), the reason she probably gave him her number was because he spent all night buying expensive drinks for everyone in the bar including her, something that no regular Ukrainian guy would ever do.
For all the glory about being a foreigner who’s dating exotic local women, sometimes it’s nice to be a local guy. Ukrainian guys are simple, no-frills men. Unlike Western men, they don’t go out of their way showing off or trying to prove anything (showing off seems to be mostly a Western thing). They’re mostly to themselves and doing their thing.
In fact, that’s the beauty of it all. Because when a girl likes a simple, no frills Ukrainian guy, she likes him for who he is. She likes him for his personality, for his stoic attitude, for his no bullshit behavior, but above all, for the very fact that all his sees in her is a simple woman, and that he’s not putting her up on the pedestal by traveling tens of thousands of miles away just to take her out to some expensive restaurant. She has no choice but to like him for who he is, otherwise, she wouldn’t be with him.
I’m not saying that all foreign dating is a form of validation. Of course not. I met my amazing Lithuanian ex-girlfriend by chance at a bar in Copenhagen. A year later, we were living in Copenhagen and later on even moved back to Lithuania to live together.
The keyword here is chance. It all happened by accident. I was just passing through Denmark as part of my European adventures when I decided to check out a bar. Our eyes locked and we decided to get to know each other further. Then, when I visited Lithuania, I came directly to see her—not because I was so desperate that I wanted to seek validation from random Lithuanian women.
The same thing happened to one of my friends in New York. He was in Moscow on a long-week business trip. During a random walk through Moscow’s downtown, he bumped into a girl at a store. They exchanged contact information and began dating. Three years later, they got married.
Compare both of those experiences to a 35-year-old needy and nervous guy who can’t get laid back home or a 60-year-old retiree who takes every woman he meets on an expensive date in the hope of impressing her into liking him.
The difference between the two situations is one word: mission. It helps to be on your mission. Then, meeting a woman here or there becomes a nice side effect as compared to when you make meeting women your main focus.
The power of the local guy
A random Ukrainian guy might not have the cachet of being an exciting foreigner, but he will never suffer through the stigma of being called a sex tourist. He will never be in a position of trying to build something with a woman while the woman scheming with her friends on the best way to extract resources from him. He will never have to endure the pain of ultimately realizing that his relationship with that hot 23-year-old is contingent on him giving her money and taking her to nice places; as soon as he stops, the attraction disappears.
While this may surprise you, I never tell local women that I’m a US citizen who had spent most of his life living in the US. Sure, in some instances, telling women that I have such an important document can indeed be an asset and immediately set me apart from the run-of-the-mill Ukrainian guy, but I want to play the run-of-the-mill Ukrainian guy as long as I can.
Unfortunately, the truth can stay hidden only for so long. The longer I know the girl, the sooner my past will get discovered, and the sooner she realizes that I’m not some run-of-the-mill regular “Ivan,” but a man who’s very, very different from most of the men out there. That’s a double-edged sword, but as far as I’m concerned, the cons of being perceived as a regular guy outweigh the pros of her knowing that I have a US passport.
As soon she knows that I’m an American citizen, I can no longer be fully confident for the real reasons as to why she’s with me.
Essentially, who you are multiples 10x when you go abroad. If you’re a fun and interesting American guy, you will be 10x more fun and interesting when you abroad. That’s because you now possess the exotic factor. The reverse is true as well. If you’re a needy and awkward dude who doesn’t know how to groom and dress well, you will be 10x less attractive when you go abroad. That’s because women see that you’re needy and lame, and, coupled with the fact, that you’re a foreigner who presumably can’t get laid at home, lowers your value even further.
One of my friends here in Kiev is a socially awkward and easily-triggered friend. He gets pissed off at pretty much everything. He gets defensive at a drop of a hat. He was born in Russia but grew up in Australia. As men, we may not want to admit if a guy is handsome or not, but we sure can tell whether a man gets laid or not. And it’s evident this guy doesn’t get laid very often in Australia (or elsewhere). And, so, it becomes extremely evident why he’s in Ukraine; becomes he can’t get laid elsewhere.
Another friend of mine is an extremely confident and tough guy. He is a black belt in BJJ and loves to surf. He’s the kind of guy who has no problems getting laid—whether it’s in America, Brazil or some other country he happens to be passing through. His attractiveness level is 10x thanks to his exotic foreigner status.
I remember a conversation I had with a Ukrainian girl a few years ago. She was in his early 30s and was very focused on her work and career. I hated the fact that her work had such a high priority in her life. One day, during some argument, I told her straight up that I didn’t come to Ukraine to meet some career woman; that we have enough of those in America. Moments later I realized my error: I basically admitted that the only reason I was in Ukraine was for the women, and, as I’ve already explained, you can’t validate women any higher than that.
When you go abroad to date foreign women, everything about you is magnified. If you’re a stud back home but prefer women of a certain nationality, you will be an even more of a stud abroad. If you’re a dud back home, those insecurities and complexes that make you this way will easily become evident and you will have the stigma of someone who can’t get laid at home. It’s all about where you’re in life.
That’s not to say that I’m somehow discouraging you from dating foreign women. No, dating foreign women is great. Leaving America for the more greener and feminine lands has been one of the best things I’ve done in my life. It’s just things are a bit more complicated on the ground than the rosy picture everyone else is trying to make you believe.
Ukrainian dating sites are an elusive bunch. Let’s not beat around the bush and ignore the 800 lb gorilla in the room: it’s 2019 and everyone is online. Even my mom has been searching for her old classmates on some social networking sites. Of course, she’s not on some dating site, but you get the picture.
I do know that there are plenty of you who’re skeptical of the whole online dating and don’t believe that’s what “real” men do, but trust when I say that there are plenty of quality and sexy Ukrainian women out there and you’ll have a chance to find one for yourself.
So, without further ado, here’s our pick for the top 5 ukrainian dating sites in 2019!
We can’t really begin this list without talking the 800 lb gorilla of the online dating sites: Tinder.
Tinder started out big in the West, but then slowly conquered globe with Eastern Europe no exception.
The whole purpose of tinder is to match up with people very quickly and effortlessly. just like in the west, most of it for casual hookups.
While ukrainian women are generally more relationship minded than their Western counterparts, the fact of the matter is that Tinder is mostly used by the 20s demographic for quick sex. It’s a poor choice for someone who’s looking for a more serious relationship.
Badoo is basically Eastern European tinder with a dating site all rolled into one.
While my experience on the site has been rather short, I felt that my success ratio had been a bit better than on Tinder, but I certainly wouldn’t hold my breath and hope to meet the future mother of my kids on that site.
Moreover, many of the girls seemed awfully low quality and certainly not ones you’d ever want to bring home to your momma.
While I want to mention this site to signify its existence, I can’t really see myself as a site where I’d be spending lots of time on. There are much better places to meet beautiful women.
Mamba is one of Eastern Europe’s oldest dating apps that’s almost 20 years old. (It was established back in 2002.)
It started out as a Russia-only site, but quickly spread through the former-Soviet Union countries.
Mamba is different the previous “swipe-style” dating apps is that it’s more old school and similar to Match dot com that’s popular in the US market.
Another thing about Mamba is that it’s mostly for the local market. While you may find some foreigners on there, that’s pretty rare. Still, the fact that it’s notoverflowing with foreigners may either be an advantage or a disadvantage.
Having said that, the overwhelming majority of people on there are also mostly looking for hookups and short-term relationships. Plus, there are also plenty of gold diggers and women looking for sponsorships.
Many of you are surprised to see Facebook on this list, but make no mistake about it, Facebook is a solid place to find your next girlfriend or a fling.
There are several ways of using Facebook as a dating site that I want to cover:
Engaging women you already know. One of my favorite ways to use Facebook as a dating app is basically adding women that I already know, but otherwise don’t have any other contact.
For instance, this could be a woman that did some service for you at an office. So, you know her name, but didn’t have the balls (or felt it was inappropriate to ask her), so you look her up on Facebook and add her as a friend. Then, go from there.
Finding women you don’t yet know. Another way to use Facebook as a dating app is to look for attractive women and add them as friends. I have met a good share of women this way. Obviously, not all women will respond to your requests and accept your requests, but the ones that do might be open to going on a date with you.
The problem with this approach is that Facebook might not like the fact that you’re trying to add lots of women, especially if many of them either ignore your requests or reject them. This tells Facebook that you may not know these people in real life which Facebook doesn’t like.
OK, so we saved the best for last: last but not least, we have Ukraine Date, our favorite place for meeting high quality women and the only site that we recommend here on Maverick Traveler.
Ukraine Date is the only site that’s geared for meeting high quality women that are actually looking for a real relationship and not merely some one-night stand.
Unlike Mamba and other sites, most of the women on the site actually prefer foreigners as opposed to local men. This makes it ideal for meeting a great woman to spend the rest of your life with. (Although, if you’re looking for a fling that’s cool, too.)
There you have it, the best dating sites for meeting Ukrainian women in 2019. The list is a mix of paid and free sites, of dating apps and even a regular social networking site—Facebook.
While each one of the sites listed above enables you to meet a female for a date, our pick for serious relationships and even flings is without a date Ukraine Date. It’s the only site that enables you to meet high quality women and not random gold diggers like many others. Click here to create a free profile and find the woman of your dreams.