Colombian Women: The Dating Secrets They Don’t Tell You
Colombia was the first country I visited in South America. After spending a year living in Mexico, I caught a flight to Bogota, the capital. I really had no idea what to expect.
I liked it so much that I ended up spending two months in the country, and then made two more trips over the next several years. As a man, safe to say that beautiful Colombian women were definitely the reason for my extended stay.
Safety and Security
Before we dive into what it’s like dating Colombian women, let’s discuss the elephant in the room: safety and security. While Colombia is a fairly accessible country from US and Canada (it’s only 3 hours from Miami), if there was one reason that prevents people from getting on a flight it’s wondering whether they will be robbed and/or kidnapped the moment they step out of the airport.
This is something that kept me up as well, but all of those worries disappeared as soon as I arrived in Colombia; I experienced the opposite feeling: I was pleasantly surprised with how everything was safe and organized. In fact, you may not believe when I tell you this: but I feel that Colombia is one of the most secure countries in all of South America (except Chile, but even Chile can be shady).
It’s definitely safer than Brazil, Argentina and, of course, Venezuela, which is rapidly descending into a failed state. Rest assured, you will be completely safe as long as you stick the big cities and don’t go out wandering into the jungle.
No matter how you look at it, Colombian women are special. Many say they’re the most beautiful women in Latin America. I definitely have to agree. They may not be the sexiest (I think Dominican women take this prize) and they may not the most exotic (Brazilian women capture this prize), but I would say they’re the most elegant and sophisticated.
In many ways, they’re truly “Latin” that Dominican and Brazilian women aren’t. They personify everything that’s both good and bad about Latin America as a content, culture, and spirit.
It’s also no wonder that Colombian women make the majority of women that are cast in the popular Latin American telenovelas that are exported all over the world. Most of these telenovelas are also filmed in Colombia as well.
As far as I’m concerned, a Colombian woman is the whole package. They’re ideal for a great night out on the town of salsa and bachata dancing. They’re also ideal as the mother of your children and the keeper for your castle. Many of the women that I have dated all over Colombia make perfect wives and mothers and are ideal for raising a family with. I suppose that’s the result of strong importance of the family and the Catholic religion.
Nevertheless, not all of them are angels. Just like with any women, Colombian women can be extremely manipulative and have no qualms about going for they want with a man who’s weak and can’t easily say “No” to his woman.
Colombian women are also very feminine. While I believe Russian and Ukrainian women are one of the most feminine in the world, Colombian women aren’t that much behind.
It’s because of their femininity and passion that entire telenovelas (soap operas) have been filmed in Colombia with Colombian actresses.
Plus, Colombian accent has been mentioned by many to be one of the sexiest and clearest Spanish accents in the Spanish-speaking world. Much of that is due to the inherent sexiness and femininity of Colombian women.
Along with their conservative nature, Colombian women are also very traditional. They’re very family oriented. Much of their life purpose is about finding the right man, getting married and having kids.
While I believe most Latin American countries are traditional, Colombia is definitely one of the more traditional ones. There’s little to no feminism seen anywhere and the idea that men are somehow their enemy repels many Colombian women who value patriarchy.
Similar to Brazilian women, there’s a myth that Colombian women are somehow easy. A lot of that is because of the whole Latin culture and reggaeton culture that shows a lot of women with skimpy clothing dancing to some fast beats. Actually, that can’t be farther from the truth.
Generally speaking, Colombian women are pretty conservative. Part of that is because of religion: they’re ardent followers of Roman Catholicism and many of them don’t even believe in sex before marriage.
Nevertheless, unlike in Ukraine and Russia, there are women who will definitely sleep with you on the first night. So, you definitely get both sides of the table.
Are Colombian women easy?
A big misconception regarding Colombian women is whether they’re easy or not. Since they’re sexy and forthcoming, people automatically awesome that they hand out sex like prizes at a local county fair.
This cannot be further from the truth. While they’re easy Colombian women—just like anywhere else in the world—your typical Colombian woman doesn’t easily put out on the first date. Remember, many of them are from good Catholic families. Instead, you have to reacquaint yourself with our long-lost friend: the 3-day rule.
Colombian women are known for many things, but there’s one thing they’re notorious for: flakiness. Colombian women have mastered the art of promising to meet on a particular evening and then deciding not to show up at the last possible minute. Sometimes they have to courtesy to let you know ahead of time, but typically they just decide they don’t want to see you and don’t show up.
While women flake all over the world, there’s nowhere else in the world that I happen to witness such behavior from women. They’re simply masters at it.
Men from all walks of life have suffered through this and have devised various strategies to combat this. Some men have said that it’s best for the women to confirm the date beforehand. The idea is that this makes the woman invest more into your upcoming date and, thus, more likely that the actual date will happen.
Naturally, different men devised different strategies to combat flakiness.
When it comes to my viewpoint on flakes, it’s very simple: a woman flakes on you because you’re not of highest priority for her and something more pressing has come up: a boyfriend showed up, she made other plans with her friends, her dog ate her homework, etc.
The only way to combat flakiness is to be busy. Get to know other women, make friends with locals, work on your own projects, get involved with other activities. That way if she does flake—and it will happen from time to time—you won’t sweat it too much because you’ll have other things going on in your life.
After spending many years traveling and living all over Latin America, there’s no doubt in my mind that Colombian women are some of the most beautiful women there.
Depending on the city you will go, they will either be closer to European descent (Bogota, Medellin) or more Latin-looking (Cali, Cartagena).
Obviously this is subjective, but in my opinion, the most beautiful women in Colombia come from Medellin. They’re called “paisas” and are exceptionally beautiful, caring and warm.
What’s a typical date like?
Like in Brazil and many other countries around the world, things operate around the familiar 3-day strategy in Colombia.
For the first date, you want to invite her to a club or a bar. The goal should be about getting to know each other, getting physical and hopefully making out towards the end of the date.
The second date should be much more relaxing. Perhaps a walk around town, her accompanying you while you shop, or going to the zoo.
The third date should be where you seal the deal. By this time, it should be very clear that you both like each other. There’s strong chemistry between the two of you and you can’t wait to get your hands on each other somewhere private.
In this case, you can do one of the following two things: invite her to your house and promise to cook her a meal or ask her to have a drink or two in a neighborhood bar not far from your place.
Both of those options are solid and she should be receptive to coming back to your place after having a drink with you. (That is, unless, she’s already in your place enjoying your home cooked meal and having a nice glass of wine.)
Where to go
As someone who had traveled and lived all over the country, I like to think of Colombia as a country divided into four parts: Bogota, Cartagena (and the Caribbean coast), Medellin (and the surrounding region) and Cali.
I spent a decent amount of time in each region while traveling around the country, so I definitely understand each of the regions and their associated cons and pros. Let’s cover each of the regions in more detail so that you can make an informed decision of which region is more suitable for you.
Bogota and the capital region
Bogota is the beating heart of Colombia and its largest city. The city is divided into various neighborhoods that cater to all tastes and budgets. So, whether you’re on a backpacker budget or prefer something more upscale, you will find the right neighborhood for you.
One of the downsides of Bogota is the weather. It’s perpetually cloudy, always looks like it’s going to rain and just plain depressing. So, if you prefer sunny and warm weather, this city is probably not for you.
The other main downside is that the city isn’t exactly aesthetically pleasing. There’s the charming old town (Candelaria), but apart from that, it pretty much looks like any other Latin American city.
The women here are lighter skin and more cosmopolitan than in other parts of Colombia. They’re also more open to foreigners than women in some tiny remote village in the middle of nowhere.
One of my advantages of Bogota is that women (and people) in Bogota generally hail from all over the country, so you will run into women from all regions of Colombia who’re starting a new life and looking to meet a new man.
Neighborhood recommendations: Candelaria, Zona T, and Zone Rosa.
Medellin and the surrounding areas
Medellin used to be known as the capital of the notorious Medellin cartel with the infamous Pablo Escobar at its helm. Those days are long gone and today Medellin is one of the most efficient and developed cities not only in Colombia but also in all of Latin America.
I spent six months living in Medellin and was left with an impression that I had lived in an extremely developed and “almost Western city.” I say “almost” because, for the most part, there were certain neighborhoods that were super developed while others weren’t developed at all and could’ve fit in pretty much in any Latin American city.
Neighborhood recommendations: Envigado, El Poblado and Laureles.
Cartagena and the Caribbean coast
Cartagena is the quintessential Caribbean city. It resembles nothing of the inner cities such as Bogota, Medellin, and Cali, and is closer to its sister city of Santa Marta.
Cartagena has the standard tropical climate so it’s hot and muggy pretty much throughout the year. If you’re planning to visit, a better time would be in the winter months when the temperatures drop ever so slightly, making it almost bearable to step out of the air-conditioned hotel room and taxi and actually enjoy the surroundings.
The women in Cartagena are darker than their Medellin and Bogota counterparts. In fact, in terms of looks, they’re closer to Brazilian women than women from other parts of Colombia. They’re also just as sexy.
Cali and Valle del Cauca
Cali is Colombia’s third largest city and is situated in the Western part of the country inside the Valle del Cauca region. Cali has a decidedly tropical feel and is much warmer than cloudy Bogota and spring-like Medellin. It’s a great city to visit and stay for several weeks or months in order to experience something very different from the rest of the country.
Cali is more of a “chaotic” city when compared to Medellin and Bogota. It’s definitely not as “secure” as the other two cities, but that doesn’t mean that there’s crime everywhere; it just means it’s a “looser” city and doesn’t have the order and structure of the other two.
The women in Cali are sexy, but they also have one distinctive characteristic that sets them apart from the women elsewhere: they have huge butts that protrude outwards from their bodies. It’s almost like a mix of Colombian and Brazilian women. If you’re an ass man, you will love the women here.
When it comes to meeting women in Cali, dancing salsa reigns supreme. Cali is actually Colombia’s salsa capital and many world-class dancers actually hail from Cali, Colombia. Regardless where I went, I kept stumbling upon one salsa club after another to the point that I made a mental note to myself that I absolutely must learn salsa at one point or another because that was one of the few effective ways of meeting women.
I suppose you can still meet women using conventional means such as on the street, in the coffee shops or even online, but meeting women in the salsa clubs definitely reigns supreme.
Where to meet Colombian women
Approaching women during the day is the easiest way to meet Colombian women. Just like elsewhere in Latin America, women are very approachable and respect a man who goes for what he wants.
When I lived in Colombia, I approached women everywhere I saw them: in coffee shops, restaurants, bakeries, bus stops and generally walking down the street.
If a Colombian woman isn’t interested, she will let you know. Having said, I don’t expect anyone to experience “hard” rejections. Even if she isn’t interested in you, she will still be friendly and perhaps introduce you to her friends.
How to meet Colombian women online
Online dating works great in Colombia. Not only can you meet women in another country, across the planet, all from the comfort of your own living room in your home country.
When it comes to online dating, your options basically boil down to Tinder and various online dating sites.
While Tinder typically gets the job done, the main problem with the service is that the women you meet are fairly low quality.
A much better alternative is a dating site such as Colombian Cupid. It’s the premier site where you can meet high-quality women for short term as well as long term relationships.
During my time in Colombia, I was an avid user of Colombian Cupid. Actually, it’s where I met a girl that went on to become a long term girlfriend.
In fact, most girls that I met on that site were interesting, down to earth and none of that grubby, gold diggers that you usually find on Tinder and other sites.
That’s why I wholeheartedly recommend using Colombian Cupid to meet your future fling or girlfriend. And, best of all, you don’t even need to be in Colombia to do it.
If you’re still unsure, you can read our Colombian Cupid Review to learn more about this service.
Does Colombian nightlife suck?
The problem with Colombian nightlife is that in some cities, especially Medellin, but mostly outside the capital of Bogota, people aren’t standing up and mingling with others. People are mostly sitting with people they already know.
Thus, it’s pretty much impossible to approach people and make friends when you’re not part of their company.
If that’s the case in the city you’re in, your best bet is to forget nightlife and focus on meeting women online or during the day. Both of these options are perfect for meeting women and then going on dates with them.
Do you need to know Spanish?
If you’ve been reading me long enough, you know that I’m extremely bullish when it comes to learning a foreign language in every country you want to spend an extensive amount of time in.
Language is the gateway to culture. When you speak and understand at least some Spanish, you’re able to connect with the people—and that includes women—in ways that merely speaking English and waving your hands you can’t.
It’s important to realize that, like elsewhere in the world, girls that tend to speak English proficiently are more Westernized in nature than the Colombian girls who weren’t exposed to Western culture.
So, when you choose to speak English, you’re essentially saying to yourself, “I will only date women who like the West and expose its values.”
In that case, why not just move to Miami or Los Angeles and meet Westernized Colombian women there?
I thought so.
After all, Spanish is not a difficult language to learn. As someone who speaks a bunch of languages, Spanish is easily one of the easiest languages I know and shouldn’t take someone a long time to pick up.
Moreover, Spanish isn’t some obscure language that few people speak. It’s spoken by close to a 1B people around the world (natively and non-natively). This ensures that you’ll always put your linguistic skills to use—pretty much anywhere in the world, regardless if you’re picking up Colombian women or just making a new friend.
Hopefully, you’ve found this concise guide informative enough to make a decision not if you’re going to visit Colombia, but when you’re going the magical place known as Colombia.
The fact of the matter is that Colombian girls are some of the most feminine and family-oriented women on the planet. Of course, they also make for excellent girlfriends, if that’s all you’re looking for. Just keep your wits about you at all times and you’re guaranteed to have an excellent time regardless which part of Colombia has caught your eye.
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