Recently, the Ukrainian president himself has publicly said that Ukrainian women are the most beautiful in the world.
As someone who’s originally from Ukraine but also who’s traveled around the world, I can’t help but agree with such a statement.
In this article, I want to open up and share my experiences dating Ukrainian women from someone who was born in the country but mostly grew up abroad.
This is going to be my objective assessment of Ukrainian dating culture from the perspective of someone who’s seeking casual as well as serious relationships.
Ukrainian women – are they the hottest in the world?
Many men consider Ukrainian women as some of the most beautiful in the world, an impression not lost on the women themselves. I think such statements are absurd: beauty, after all, is subjective. There's beauty all around us.
Having said that, although I have seen some beautiful women during my travels, I must say that nowhere else in the world I’ve seen such a high number of women that can be easily called gorgeous or at least cute, or as I like to say, “easy on the eyes.”
This didn’t happen in Brazil, Spain, Mexico, and even Russia (although Russia does come close).
Ukrainian women physical characteristics
While it’s usually hard to tell between a German from a Dutchman or an Englishman from a Canadian, you can typically see a Ukrainian woman a mile away. There’s something about Slavic—and especially Ukrainian—women that makes them immediately recognizable in any country, pretty much in any part of this world.
Ukrainian women typically range from around 5’6” to 5’11” and up. I would say the average Ukrainian woman is around 5’7-5’9” in height. I’m around 5’9” and, while most of the Ukrainian women have been shorter than me, they haven’t been shorter than me by much. They have also been plenty of women who’ve been at least my height or taller.
Ukrainian women also love to wear high heels and once they do, they automatically become at least 5’9” and taller. Keep that in mind if you’re someone on the shorter side of the spectrum.
When it comes to physical build, it has been my experience that around 85-90% Ukrainian women (under 35 years old) are either slim or of average built, and I can probably count on one hand how many obese young Ukrainian women I’ve seen in the wild. This is in stark contrast to your typical American city where seemingly every third woman you see is overweight or downright obese.
Aside from their height and weight, they typically have very unique facial features that automatically sets them apart in a sea of white people. They have straight and usually long hair, small curved-up noses, and typically small, squinty eyes. Ukrainian women vary in type of complexion; many are light-skinned, but many have also dark hair and dark eyes.
Dating Ukrainian women – The cultural background
An aspect of EE culture that’s very different from Latin America, Southeast Asia or even the US is that there’s a certain element of stoicism and “alphaness” present. Eastern Europe isn’t exactly a paradise on earth: there’s lots of poverty, poor job security (companies can hire and fire people as they please), so you must be pretty tough and aggressive to survive and make ends meet (not to mention even prosper).
That's very different from when I lived and worked in the Bay Area/Silicon Valley, easily making $150,000/year writing software code and being surrounded by similar guys (and gals) who were making the same or more.
As of this writing, the median income in Ukraine is something like $500/month. That’s in Kyiv, the mighty capital. In the other big cities, it’s closer to something like $300/mo.
This means that the wealth must be built from scratch or via some high-level connections.
So, if you see a guy driving an expensive car (Toyota Land Cruiser, BMW 7 Series, high-end Mercedes Benz, etc), chances are he’s not leasing it as you would in America, but actually bought it with cash, with money that he made via a serious business or some corrupt means.
As a result, there’s a bit of a cutthroat culture that pervades everything that’s going on. It touches upon everything: professional life, personal life, relationships, etc.
In America, everyone can potentially be well off, and women themselves can make more money than men, so there’s less of a need to hunt down that serious “alpha”—that successful guy who’s making a ton of money. Whereas here in Ukraine, where the majority of the population makes enough to subsist, that’s a lot more important.
Ukrainian dating culture – What's it like?
The first rule is that the man pays for everything.
Ukrainian dating culture is very traditional and patriarchal. The rules are very simple: the man pays. Period. The man pays for initial dates. The man pays for anything that he invites the woman to do.
If he invites a woman for coffee, he pays. If he invites her to dinner, he pays. If he invites her to take a trip together to another city or country, he pays.
In the case of an expensive overseas trip, the man pays for everything and the woman might throw in a little bit to help with the expenses (or she might not).
After the relationship develops and the couple begins living together, the woman should start contributing more but the relationship will probably never be truly 50/50. In some cases, the woman might scoff at the idea of her contributing any money (which can be seen as a relationship red flag).
The culture in Eastern Europe is very materialistic by nature. So, the question of who pays for what is one of the thorniest issues. And, from my experience dating Eastern European women for many years, it’s usually the man that pays for everything unless other prior arrangements have been made.
Do Ukrainian women prefer casual vs. serious relationships?
My prior experience with Eastern European taught me that unlike Western women who were “liberated” by feminism and all of that, Eastern European women are still very traditional and prefer a steady and committed relationship as opposed to dating random guys every day of the week.
I was both right and wrong.
I was right because, for the most part, Eastern Europeans are much more relationship-minded than their Western counterparts such as American women. I mostly credit that to more traditional culture and parents’ influence (who were raised in a much more traditional environment).
But I was also wrong because, in the big Eastern European cities such as Kyiv and Moscow, the women are as much casual as their Western counterparts. Having lived and dated in New York City, many of the women that I dated in Kyiv weren’t all that different from American women. They had great jobs and were having the time of their life—settling down and having kids was the last thing on their mind.
Relationships in Ukraine can be very transactional
Another thing you must understand about Ukrainian culture is that, at its core, it’s very transactional. When I first arrived in Ukraine after living abroad for most of my adult life, I was confused about this, thinking that everyone is nice and friendly and open, and couldn’t really comprehend how it can be so transactional, but the more time I’ve spent here, the more I realized how true it was.
It’s certainly not uncommon for friends to lend decent sums of money to each other and for your girlfriend (or some girl you’re seeing) to ask you to borrow $500 (or more) at some random point in your relationship.
This is mostly limited to places like Ukraine and Russia and doesn’t happen in the West or even the Baltic countries (Lithuania, Latvia, and Estonia). Although I have dated plenty of women who had decent jobs and made decent money, I’ve also dated women in Lithuania and Latvia who weren’t making that much money, but would never dream of borrowing $500+ from their boyfriend.
Ukrainian life is rife with corruption, so the general mindset is “Let’s steal this and enrich ourselves” or “Let’s screw this guy over so that we’re in a better position.” Believe me, as an Eastern European guy I understand this all too well. I can also guarantee you that other Ukrainians would agree with me as well. No wonder that few of the locals have anything ever great to say about their government.
This cultural element isn’t lost on women, so, like anywhere else, you have your share of conniving people trying to get their share at your expense.
At first, I figured this was the result of poverty and low-income conditions. But after countless conversations with both Ukrainian women and men, I realized that it has more to do with Ukraine specifically than the fact that Ukraine is a low-income country.
After all, Latin America and SE Asia have their poor regions as well, but people aren’t exactly eager to screw each other over for some short-term gain. At least it’s not as obvious and in-your-face as in Ukraine.
In Ukraine, relationships move fast
In Ukraine, relationships move fast, much faster than in America or even Latin America. It’s not uncommon to meet a girl, date her for a month or two, and then move in together. After living for some time, perhaps several months to half a year to a year, marriage becomes the next logical step.
It's not uncommon for couples to marry after just 4-5 months of seeing each other (sometimes even quicker).
This is not the case in America where people can be dating for years or even living together for years without ever making it official.
The main reason relationships move quickly is because there's less friction when it comes to meeting people and building something meaningful. People have a lot fewer insecurities than they do in the West; there are fewer doubts about the roles of men and women, about the notion of who should be doing what in the relationship. Men conquer the world. Women conquer the household. Men make money. Women cook and raise children.
This easily understood division of responsibilities goes a long way into reducing misunderstandings and making a relationship much more enjoyable and predictable for both parties.
Moreover, in America (and the West), relationships are something that is becoming (or have already become) something like an afterthought. People are busy, everyone has a hobby for every day of the week. It's not uncommon for a woman in a city like New York to have pilates on Monday, yoga on Tuesday and some girl's night out on Thursday.
But in Ukraine, it doesn't work like that. People aren't busy for the sake of being busy. Relationships still matter.
When you remove the bullshit that keeps people from being together, you realize that you don't need to date someone for 10 years before taking the next steps and starting a family.
What kind of men do Ukrainian women prefer?
For the most part, Ukrainian girls prefer their men to be tough. When I say tough, I don’t mean they all need to be ex-convicts, drug dealers, narco-traffickers, etc. (although these examples would work, too.)
Tough also doesn’t mean being rich or wealthy. A Ukrainian woman would much more respect a tough guy who isn’t wealthy than a wealthy nice guy. She’d simply milk the nice guy for what it’s worth but will always be drawn to the tougher man.
Of course, this varies by the woman. Some women prefer real tough guys; others are OK when a guy is a little tough, but toughness needs to exist at some level or another. I can’t see how an altruistic nice guy can ever survive in Ukraine.
One of the reasons that women love their men to be tough is because of the environment and trust. A man should say what he thinks even if that will upset others than to be around some guy who says all the nice things because he’s afraid of pissing anyone off. Eastern European men fit this bill perfectly: they tell you exactly how it is without sugarcoating the truth.
Saying what matters without seeking approval or validation is an undervalued trait, especially in today’s environment where people are constantly trying to please each other by saying all the nice things—even if they are not true—to avoid ruffling feathers.
Another reason that women are drawn to tough guys is that there’s a good chance her own father is just like this. After all, women are drawn to men who, at least, partially remind them of their fathers. The majority of EE fathers are tough and old school so it’s natural for the woman to view her father’s version of masculinity as a template of how her future boyfriend or husband should be.
That doesn’t mean you should automatically turn into a stoic and rough Eastern European who never laughs or smiles; it’s perfectly fine to be friendly and chatty, but you must always remember you’ll have to draw the line somewhere and have the ability to say “No” and decline a woman’s requests more than you were comfortable in the past.
This is completely different than the carefree and fun-filled life of Rio de Janeiro, where everyone is friendly and having fun and your ability to relax is more valued than your ability to be tough.
When a Ukrainian woman feels you’re weak and you’re valuing her more than you should because you’re willing to do everything that she requests (or more than she’s used to in the past), she’ll instinctively begin to test your boundaries to see where they end. I believe they do this on a subconscious level. Don't be surprised when she promptly crosses those boundaries and manipulates you into doing more and more things for her, and you're soon left wondering what happened.
Along with toughness, women respect dominance. They respect a man who makes all the decisions (or at least all the important ones). They respect a man who is decisive and not wishy-washy. They respect a man who knows what he wants out of life and isn't afraid to go after it.
Nothing makes a woman lose respect for a man faster than someone who shows weakness (willingly or unwillingly) as well as someone indecisive about what they want out of life.
In other words, don't tell your Ukrainian girlfriend that you just lost your job and don't know what to do with your life. She may feel sorry for you for a moment, but her attraction in you will take a rapid nosedive.
While on the surface, being dominant makes a lot of sense, you must realize that this is radically different from any kind of dominance you’re used to in the West. In the West, there’s a concept of 50/50 relationships where both partners make decisions and reaffirm decisions with the other, but in Ukraine, a man decides what to do and sticks to it, and the woman supports his endeavors.
For a moment, imagine a woman who's incapable of making even the most trivial decisions, and her response to every “What do you want to do?” is “I don’t know.” That’s your typical Eastern European woman, and your responsibility as a man is to make sure your woman is never left wondering what’s going on.
Do Ukrainian girls like foreigners?
One of the most common questions that pops up is how do local Ukrainian women view foreigners as opposed to locals.
Honestly, it’s hard to say because I’m experiencing the “local” side of things. I do not know what it’s like being a foreigner who either doesn’t speak any Russian or can carry a conversation in Russian.
I can tell you several things. First of all, as a local guy, you need to play by the existing rules. Ukrainian women, just like other Eastern European women aren’t exactly simple to connect with: they will endlessly test you in various ways (more on that in a bit), and you will need to respond accordingly or she’ll lose attraction for you quickly.
On the other hand, as a foreigner, you are automatically exempt from these rules to some extent. First, since most women don’t speak English fluently or even conversationally, you will make a woman self-conscious and throw her off balance when speaking in English, thus giving yourself an edge right from the start.
Even asking her to say a couple of words (especially if she’s 30+), and you will notice how shy she’ll suddenly get. She will be forced to communicate with you on your terms, work harder to understand your words as well as your mannerisms.
That's because most Ukrainians don’t even have a conversational grasp of English. This can play to your advantage because you’re throwing her off balance a bit.
There’s a fairly known fact that Eastern European women aren’t particularly fond of their own men. That they complain about how their men are lazy, sit on the couch and drink vodka all day. They complain about how their men take them for granted. I believe there’s some truth to that. Nevertheless, I certainly wouldn’t underestimate local men; while they can be stoic and “cold,” they understand their women particularly well, more so than foreigners.
I think that as women get older (30+), they tend to view foreign men as more suitable for random flings and, thus, tend to prefer local guys for building more serious relationships. Of course, I don’t think a 30-year-old woman would necessarily reject a good-looking and successful foreign guy, but she understands that most foreigners that are in this country are here for sex and sex only (you can thank hordes of Turkish men for that) plus there’s the cultural incompatibility as well, especially if the woman doesn’t speak English.
Honestly, I believe that as a local, I have crucial advantages. Not once did I ever feel that it would've been much happier had I been a foreigner. It has been the exact opposite: most of the women I've met have been super friendly and enthusiastic about hanging out.
Do Ukrainian women like older men?
Ukraine is one of those countries where it’s fairly common to have a relatively big age difference between a man and a woman in the relationship. It’s not unheard off for a 40-year-old man to date a 21-year-old woman. I have also heard of 48-year-old men dating 18-year-old women.
If you’re in your 30s, you can date women starting as low as 21, all the way to late 30s (and above) if you wanted to.
I’ve known a guy who was around 45 but liked dating women as young as 18 or 19. I’ve known another guy who’s 48 and is currently living with a 25-year-old girl.
Having said that, this is not applicable for everyone, so if you’re a 47-year-old man, you shouldn’t think you’re just going to fly in and build a serious relationship with a 21-year-old Ukrainian girl. She may be attracted to you for money or status, but on a primal level, she’d still be more attracted to a 20-something or 30-something guy.
All in all, I would consider something like a 10-year difference to be the absolute maximum that might exist without compromising the relationship and risking that your girl might jump ship to a younger man. There’s nothing weird about a 32-year-old guy dating a 22-year-old girl. Similarly, there’s nothing wrong with a 42-year-old guy dating a 32-year-old girl.
If the age difference becomes bigger than that, there’s a higher chance that your girl is merely waiting for the right opportunity to dump you for a younger man.
One thing I want to point out is that not every 45-year-old man is the same. Some men are in better shape or just genetically look younger, while other men might be out of shape, fat, or just look older. I have met 35-year-old men who looked 50. I’ve also met 45-year-old men who looked 30.
In terms of my preferences, I’m in my late 30s, and I’ve dated women as young as 26, all the way up to 35 (actually, I even once dated a 36-year-old woman). My sweet spot seems to be women who’re 27-31 years old. I don’t have much interest in dating women younger than 25.
There’s a pattern where the older the woman gets, the more jaded she becomes, especially if she had never been in a serious relationship (or had her heart broken in one). After around the age of 33, women seem to lose that innocence and spark in their eyes that’s associated with younger women who don’t have as much baggage or breakups.
Finding Ukrainian women for marriage
If you’re looking for a Ukrainian woman for marriage, you must be ruthless in the types of women you pick to be in your life.
First of all, you must be certain that the woman you like (or love) loves you back. This can be tricky because women can be chameleons and say/do things that you expect them to do, thus masquerading to do everything you want until they get what they want (e.g., citizenship, papers, etc).
There are a couple of things to watch out for. First of all, if you feel that something is wrong, then you’re not feeling it—something is wrong. Whether it’s her behavior, her actions, or something else, this is something you must investigate and find the reasons for your suspicions before you commit.
Second, as I noted above, you must be sure that the woman you’ve chosen views you as the only man in her life worth caring about (maybe just beside her father).
This can be especially tough to do especially if you’re smitten by a particular woman and any kind of positive gesture or smile in your direction makes you automatically think that the love is mutual. You need a cool head to appraise the situation properly.
Another crucial factor to look out for is a woman who is genuinely interested in helping you with whatever you need. It needs to be important for you only—not for both of you. Ask her to do something for you that require some level of effort. If she scoffs and changes the subject, she is not the keeper. If she's more than happy to always help, that's a great sign of good things to come.
Moreover, during the first several months, a woman may act her best self and do everything you want her to do. There's an aptly named term for this: demo version or demonstration version.
I’ve had relationships start amazingly with the women doing everything that I wanted, buying little things for me, cooking for me, but after several months, they became less inclined to do these things for me. That’s because these women stopped pretending that they’re so nice and caring and reverted to their selfish selves.
This means that the first few months aren’t, in any meaningful way, a genuine indicator of what the woman is really about. She can be friendly and nice for the initial few months, but then slowly morph into her real self. On the other hand, she can be friendly and nice and remain like this for the foreseeable future as well. You just never know.
Are Ukrainian girls loyal to their men?
I can’t tell you how many emails I’ve received from men over the years who went to Ukraine, met a beautiful woman, started dating her, brought her over to America and then got burned when she left the guy for a richer/younger/sexier/stronger man. This happens all the time.
Part of the reason is that a lot of these Western men are very gullible when it comes to Eastern European women. They think they can just fly in, meet a beautiful girl and then give her the world and she’ll become theirs forever and ever.
Yes, she’ll gladly take the world, but she won’t stop there, especially if there’s another man who’d gladly give her even more. (Remember: there’s always another man out there who’s better than you in some way, shape or form around there.)
In Russian, we have a famous saying that roughly translates to: “If your wife is very beautiful, then she doesn't belong to you.” (Красивая жена – чужая жена)
What this essentially means is that if you’re seeing or dating a beautiful woman, there’s a good chance other men will be also trying to talk to her and seduce her. Moreover, since she knows that she’s beautiful, she’ll demand and test more of the men around her and won’t hesitate to jump ship to a stronger suitor if her current suitor becomes weak. Ukrainian girls can sniff out weakness in men much better than any other women that I’ve encountered.
This is especially true in the context of Ukraine where there are lots of beautiful women, and, more importantly, these women know that they’re beautiful and they know they can get other men when they wanted and whenever the opportunity presented itself.
Thus, unless you’re some super-duper Alpha guy who knows what he’s doing, you should know that your beautiful and sexy girlfriend might sooner or later become your beautiful and sexy ex-girlfriend.
If you’re a nice guy (or at least a guy with good intentions), you’re probably not going to last long with women who have bad intentions.
While that’s more or less true around the world, I believe it’s especially true in Eastern Europe (Ukraine and Russia) because of the tough living conditions and the desire for women to be with the strongest men possible.
I remember dating a sexy woman a few years ago. She wanted to get married and then move to a Western country. Although I had feelings for her, I was torn, not knowing if her intentions were genuine or she was just using me. The entire time my gut was telling me that something was off.
I showed a couple of her pictures to my uncle, an old school guy who understands women well and he immediately looked at me in a way that confirmed my suspicions.
This was not a girl he’d trust, and I shouldn’t trust either, something that had crossed my mind before.
The biggest mistake men make with Ukrainian women
There are several mistakes that newcomers make when it comes to dating Ukrainian women.
The most common mistake is underestimating them. Many men come with the idea that Ukrainian girls are the most wonderful and feminine women in the world who are straight forward and don’t play any games.
While that may have been true when she was 19 or 20, that’s hardly true as she gets older and dates her share of men.
Since I’ve been mostly dating women in the late 20s or early 30s, the women I’ve been meeting have gone through their share of relationships and were much more guarded and less emotional.
Building attraction and game with Ukrainian women
In my experience, it’s fairly easy to build attraction. Unlike in America, you don’t need to know a complex maze of witty one-liners, anecdotes, or come-backs. As long as you act cool and comfortable and not nervous like it’s your first time talking to a woman, you should be fine.
The one thing you have to watch out for is a series of tests thrown your way. They usually start friendly and innocent, but if you’re not aware of them or if she feels that she’s talking to someone who’s not used to women of her caliber, she’ll lose interest quickly. The prettier the woman, the higher the number of tests.
Then, once you’ve established some kind of rapport, and your relationship continues to develop, one of two things may happen. In the first scenario, she’ll genuinely start liking you and respecting you as a man. She’ll do that because you’ve demonstrated to her that you’re a real man who’s ready to protect and (financially) support her.
In the second scenario, she’ll realize that you’re not exactly the ideal man for her, but because she has no other options at the moment (maybe you’re a Westerner with plenty of disposable income who can show her a good time), she’ll spend time with you and sleep with you in exchange for dinners, gifts, trips, etc. Of course, throughout this time, she’ll continue to look around for better options and, once she finds one, she’ll switch teams.
Best ways to meet Ukrainian women
When meeting women, I keep simple. Remember, Ukraine isn’t America where all the women have read all the seduction books and are on guard when men approach them. When it comes to meeting women, keep it simple.
When I see a woman I like, I simply approach and ask her if I can get to know her. Some women agreed and gave me their number, others immediately told me they’re interested, usually because they’re married or something else.
If you love go out at night, then nightlife in cities like Kiev are a good opportunity to meet Ukrainian women.
If you don’t take rejection personally, approaching women in person is a great way to meet a woman that you otherwise might never meet.
Over half of the women that I met were from approaching them personally (the other half were from online dating).
The best Ukrainian dating sites
While there are ways of meeting Ukrainian women on the street and out and about, one of the best and more efficient ways of meeting women is online on one of the several Ukrainian dating sites.
One of the big advantages of online dating is the fact that you can be sitting on your couch back in New York City, Los Angeles or London and meet women in places like Rio de Janeiro, Prague or Moscow.
So, when you arrive at those places, you've already lined up a whole army of women who are excited to see you.
Of course, you can also do online dating using apps such as Tinder to meet Ukrainian women, but I'm here to tell you that, after using this app for many years, a lot of the women you meet there, at least here in Ukraine, are gold diggers and low quality.
The best way to meet beautiful and quality Ukrainian women is through a website called Ukraine Date. Ukraine Date is a dating website where you can meet plenty of amazing, high-quality women.
I have known several men who came to Ukraine, used the site and ended up meeting great women who went on to become their long-term girlfriends.
So, whether you're looking for a fling, a girlfriend, or even a wife, Ukraine Date is simply the best place to meet women in Ukraine. And you don't even need to be in Ukraine to do that.
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