What All Women Secretly Want And Desire


For much of my adult life, my goal has been to solve the quintessential question that has plagued mankind since the beginning of time. Even the great psychologist Sigmund Freud famously pondered this question. Unfortunately, he eventually left this world without arriving at a satisfactory answer.

Over the years of meeting and interacting with lots of women, I can say that I both failed and succeeded in answering the all important question: what do women really want.

Answering this question has never been easy: after all, different women want different things; answering the opposite of this question has been pretty straightforward. And what women do not want – all women, every single one out there – is one thing and one thing only: they do not want to be worshipped.

You may shrug your shoulders and say that you knew and understood this all along and that this is as obvious as the fact that earth goes around the sun. But before you close this browser tab and return to watching funny cat videos, I assure you that you’re mistaken.

Yes, you’re wrong. This seemingly simple statement is a lot more complex than it initially appears; for, women are being worshipped pretty much all the time— they’re being covertly worshipped by you and everyone around you.

How are women being worshipped? They’re being worshipped in an almost unlimited number of ways. Whenever you go on the forum and ask others what to do when a particular girl that you met on vacation isn’t replying to your texts, you’re worshipping women. Whenever you rate women on a 1-10 scale (or some other scale), you’re worshipping women. (“10” stands for a “Goddess,” remember?)

Whenever you refer to a woman by various exaggerated adjectives such as “hot” or “gorgeous” before you even get to know her as a person, you’re worshipping women. Whenever you ask others how many times should I sleep with women in order to “demystify” them, you’re really worshipping women. Whenever you send your friend an excited text, “I just got laid!” congratulations: you’re the greatest woman worshipper.

Whenever you put a woman’s needs above yours, you’re worshipping women. You worship women when you refuse to treat them like people with faults, people who could be wrong, people who can be both super sweet and incredibly manipulative, and, most importantly, when you refuse to treat them like human beings.

And, last but definitely not least, you worship women when you refuse to believe they love sex as much—if not more—as you do. That they’re really all animals underneath with accompanying animalistic desires.

All day, every day, you’re worshipping women even without giving it another thought.

And you’re usually not acting on your own. You’re being continuously reinforced by others to worship women. The vast majority of the so-called “self-improvement” and “masculinity” blogs teach you different ways of worshiping women. Everything in pickup niche is about worshipping women. The so-called “manosphere” is a huge temple of female worship (see the endless discussion about “shit tests” as though the way any woman communicates must be automatically interpreted as some kind of “test”).

The entire pick up industry spawned up as a result of men who are subconsciously worshipping women (while pretending they just want to fuck like rockstars). It exists precisely to fill in this psychological demand. It exists because guys don’t seem to understand that whatever they do, the number one thing that women do not want is for you to worship them.

 You think you’re learning helpful advice on improving with women but you’re being fed the complete opposite: how to worship women even more than how you’ve been doing in the past. In many cases, women are being worshipped more than God itself (and you call yourself an atheist).

The mainstream media and Hollywood don't help either by always portraying the ultimate prize for every hero saves human civilization from armageddon: a date with a blonde girl.

Women don’t want you to brainstorm 200 ways of approaching them. They don’t want you to think they’re embarrassed to have sex or that they must be somehow “manipulated” into having sex with you. Women just want to be treated like women. They want to be respected for their sexual appetites and needs too.

Why don’t women like to be worshipped? It’s not because women do not like to be treated in a respectful way (the idea that women hate nice guys and only sleep with jerks is a myth that I cover shortly), it’s because men who treat women nice are also covertly worshipping them. And, as I’ve already point out, women don’t fuck men who worship the ground they walk on.

When you worship a woman, you’re indirectly sub communicating to her that she’s someone who’s above you and more worthy of you. Unlike one of your old friends who you’ve known since high school and have seen fucking up and feeling embarrassed, with whom you can have a frank conversation about pretty much anything and everything, whom you can call names, and tell him to “fuck off” when he pisses you off, a woman is always someone “above and beyond” and, therefore, requires special treatment. After all, she’s a goddess and you’re a mere mortal who was put on this planet to worship her.

A world where women are treated like women

While traveling and living around the world, I carefully observed how men in different countries behave towards women; it’s an interesting cultural aspect to observe since each culture has unique mating dances and rituals—and they usually greatly differ from what you find in America and the West. Observing foreign cultures helps you escape the Western bubble where relationships are synthetically constructed and not organically evolved as in the rest of the world.

In Brazil, men are smooth and confident. They confidently approach women and make their intentions known. There’s never any confusion as to what a Brazilian guy wants from a woman he finds attractive. Brazilian men do not worship women. And women seem to be absolutely fine with it.

But you didn’t need to be in Rio’s bars and clubs to appreciate this. This type of behavior is everywhere. I was once sitting on the beach in Ipanema, about a block where I was living at that time. A couple of chairs over to my right, I noticed a young couple; they were probably just 18 or 19 years old. The girl was, as usual, very beautiful. The guy seemed cool too.

As they were enjoying the sun and the waves, the young man wasn’t sitting still like a robot: he was busy touching the girl all over her petite body, while subtly (or not so subtly) working his way down. The girl didn’t seem to mind too much—she was smiling—although I noticed she was a bit uncomfortable because it was done right out in public. Judging by their behavior, I wouldn’t say they’ve been together for a long time. Most likely it was only their first or second date.

Do you know what you call this young man? Answer: someone who isn’t worshipping women. That’s exactly what you call this guy. Instead of worrying what to do, he’s feeling her out like an animal.

I’m pretty sure if I showed you a picture of this girl, most of you reading this article right now would be salivating at the mere thought of getting her to notice you. Furthermore, most of you would probably be brainstorming ways of approaching and seducing her (and maybe a tiny of fraction of you will have the balls to actually approach and make your intentions known beyond the useless discussion).

Yes, she was that beautiful. And girls like these don’t like to be worshipped; they much more prefer to be with men who’re trying to fuck them.

Few years later, I returned to my former homeland of Ukraine and discovered what true masculinity is all about. While Brazilian guys are smooth and confident, Eastern European guys are more “macho” and direct; they don’t waste time playing silly games—and don't waste time with those who do—they simply show up and take what they want. And, you guessed it, they don’t worship anyone, much less the opposite sex (which I suppose is a byproduct of a very tough and demanding culture).

It didn’t take very long to see that. Kiev, the capital of Ukraine, is arguably a city with the largest per capita of beautiful women in the world. I’m no stranger to traveling, and I do not ever remember being in a place every other woman was so cute and approachable.

But it wasn’t the sheer number of beautiful women that had me perplexed throughout my stay: it was the seemingly uninterested and aloof behavior of men. These men usually just went about their day, without paying much attention to the sheer beauty around them pretty much all the time.

This bothered me for a long time. While I consider myself a man of above average intelligence, I couldn’t solve the riddle as to why these guys aren’t running around and approaching these gorgeous women left and right, day and night, like some of their counterparts in the West (e.g., “PUA” and others).

Were these Eastern European men pussies? Wussies? Losers? “Betas”? Didn’t have balls? And I’m talking about men who don’t take shit from anyone (let’s not forget that, contrary to popular belief, it was Soviet Union that actually won WWII while losing over 20 million of its citizens in the process).

One of the explanations I came up with is that Eastern European guys aren’t as sex-hungry/starved as their Western counterparts mostly due to experiencing much higher quality relationships with women who support their men. But after spending some more time in Ukraine, I realized that the real reason is actually something else.

A much clearer explanation eluded me for a long time until now: the reason for Eastern European men’s genuinely aloof behavior is that, unlike Western men, they do not worship women. They treat women as their equal and don’t give them special treatment simply because they happen to have two breasts and a vagina. I’m not saying that EE men treat their women badly; they don’t. They simply treat women as mere humans, not with some idolized and irrational reverence.

As poisonous Western culture is slowly seeping into ex-USSR countries, this is slowly changing, but if you travel to Russia, for instance, you will see relationships develop organically, without harmful Western media influence. You’ll see couples walking around: a decent looking guy with a very cute woman. While the guy will treat his woman right, he certainly won’t take any shit from her. I’m not saying that he’ll be a selfish jerk— his treatment will be just and fair, something that’s completely foreign to the typical Western male who worships women and the ground they walk on.

Spending lots of time living in Eastern Europe really solidified my understanding as to how harmful Western culture really is when it comes to relationships—as well as how harmful all the present ways of remedying the problems (e.g., “game” as well as all kinds of toxic relationship advice) can be as well.

Among the nice guys and the jerks

One of the prevailing beliefs in America (and in the rest of Anglo-Saxon world) is that women hate nice guys (actually they’re nice to them until it’s time to sleep with them and then they get rid of them) but love jerks. I’m sure you’ve seen countless pictures of some famous model or actress who is standing next to some bad-ass looking guy covered with tattoos, a guy who doesn’t look like he respects much of anything including himself.

This belief has always bothered for me one reason and one reason only: it’s complete bullshit. There’s no woman on this planet that looks at a guy and immediately determines whether he’s (a) a nice guy or (b) a jerk/douchebag.

Actually, the real reason that Nice Guys always finish last and get the short end of the stick is because they have no backbone. They don’t stand for anything. They’re born and raised to please others. That’s really what the whole ‘Nice Guy’ syndrome is all about.

’Nice Guys’ are also the quintessential women worshippers. They will put their needs way below the woman’s. They will prioritize women’s state above their own.

They’re always trying to “save” women from one “danger” to another. If the woman is not happy for some reason or another, they will ask her if they could do something—anything—to make her feel better. If the woman’s “jerk” boyfriend made her upset or hurt her (physically or emotionally) in some way, they will patiently listen to her vent and see if they could do anything to help.

Secretly, they’re looking to get closer to the woman, but the only person who knows this is the Nice Guy. The woman just sees a guy without any backbone, and such men never get access to her pussy.

What “jerks” have learned to do really well—better than most guys—is to not give a fuck about anything or anyone. They care about their own needs and their own needs only. Thus—you guessed it—they worship no one, much less women. They simply do what they want, when they want. Since they’re prioritizing their own needs above the women’s, women naturally find such behavior “sexy” and “attractive” which almost always leads to hot monkey sex.

You may be thinking, “Does that mean I need to become a jerk?” The answer is, no, of course you don’t. First of all, if you’re a nice guy who loves to program computers and helps old ladies cross the street, you can’t wake up tomorrow and turn into a jerk who rides motorcycles and has crazy tattoos all over his body. It doesn’t work like this.

And, besides, why would you want to? There are other ways of attracting women: like, well, by not worshipping them. Learn to take care of your needs first and foremost. After you get comfortable putting yourself first, women will notice that you’re a secure with who you are and find that attractive.

The art of conflict

Another thing that “jerks” do extremely well is that they never avoid conflict. They relish in conflict and embrace it. And rightly so because conflict is important. Conflict is good. There can be no relationship ever built (with women or fellow men) that’s completely void of any conflict.

People have different goals and objectives, so there needs to be a way to reach a compromise between all these competing wants and desires. When you avoid conflict, it shows that you’re weak and lack a backbone. It shows that you’re willing to accommodate others’ needs and wants above your own (it’s also a sign that you don’t know what you really want, a really bad trait).

If I met a beautiful woman who is my type in every way, but then I noticed her smoking in my car or house, and I’m a non-smoker who hates the smell of smoke, then I must tell her to put out the cigarette and not stink up the premises. If I’m going on a date with a girl and she suggests a vegetarian restaurant, but I’m a heavy meat eater and don’t feel good unless my meal has at least a half kilo of beef, I have to tell her that a vegetarian restaurant is a bad idea and suggest a compromise.

Whenever you don’t go along with someone else’s wants and wishes, there’s a possibility of conflict. A woman you’re seeing can refuse to put out the cigarette or go to a non-vegetarian restaurant. But that’s fine. (An unwillingness to compromise can be a sign of deeper relationship issues just lurking below the surface.) If I don’t let the woman know what I think—if I don’t risk conflict—then I’m secretly worshipping her.

Even after you’re in an established relationship, you should never shy away from conflict. A woman who knows that she can walk all over a guy also instinctively knows that this is a man who doesn’t really stand for anything; after all, he doesn’t have any needs, desires or points of view that he’s willing to fight for. She also knows that she can never trust this man.

One trait that I always admired in people is the willingness to say ‘no.’ I myself can be wishy-washy at times, but when I notice a man (or woman) say ‘no’ to one of my requests, I feel this person actually stands for something.

I’m not saying that you have to embrace conflict so much that you’re actually going out and looking for fights; that’s counterproductive to any relationship and doesn’t fix anything, what I’m saying is that you should never avoid conflict when it also means hiding your true needs and desires.

People who worship someone will never even remotely think of the mere possibility of stoking conflict. But that’s the beauty of conflict: it completely obliterates all worship.

They take huge dumps, too

A beautiful woman who you personally haven’t gotten to know yet should never warrant your worship or admiration. When you worship such a woman, what you’re actually doing is projecting all your insecurities and weaknesses onto another human being. You think such a woman will “complete” you; that by being with her, you will somehow become a better man and fill in some void in your life and your heart.

In other words, without her you’re a complete mess, a lost cause, but when she’s by your side, you suddenly gain your wings and feel like you can conquer the world. These are nothing more than rationalizations to worship someone.

The way to stop this vicious cycle of worshipping women is by becoming a bit more skeptical and never judging a book by its cover. It's by realizing that you don’t know anything about the woman of your desire until you get to know her and discover for yourself. If it’s a woman you don’t know, you need to understand what she’s all about before you brag to all your friends that “you got a number of a perfect 10.” You must understand that women are mere humans, and so it’s pretty foolish to brag that you obtained a telephone number of another human (brag when you cure cancer or AIDS).

All women wake up, put on makeup, go to the bathroom and take a dump. They make mistakes. They’re not perfect. Like us, men, they’re also trying to get by in this world by working with what they have.

But, above all, understand that the moment you start thinking that a woman will somehow complete you and, therefore, begin worshipping her is the exact moment you’re defining a specific role for her in your life: a distant and nebulous object of worship, not someone with whom you can have a loving and fulfilling relationship—including hot and passionate monkey sex.

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Justin March 30, 2016 - 1:54 pm

James, this just might be one of the most important articles you’ve written thus far.

James Maverick April 5, 2016 - 3:25 am

Thanks Justin!

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jabrony March 30, 2016 - 4:23 pm

This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Thank you maverick!

People might laugh at this but I’m so in love with my current girlfriend that I’ve lost part of myself along the way. I’ve really been worshipping her without fully stopping to realize how detrimental it is. I think part of it is the emotional rollercoaster that comes when you form such a deep deep connection with someone – but I’ll need to snap out of it sooner than later. It’s not as bad as I’m making it seem, but I’ve been pandering to her needs a little more than my own which isn’t great. Biggest problem is that she is unlike any woman I’ve met before so she’s made me reconsider a lot of what has worked for me in the past.

Long story short – thanks dude!

Tex Austin March 30, 2016 - 6:03 pm

I can’t speak for other “Western” countries, but I think part of the problem is that in the US, obesity, tattoos, etc. (but especially obesity) have become so epidemic that there’s a scarcity of attractive women, causing their perceived value to skyrocket. An unthinking response is to treat this scarce resource (attractive women) worshipfully. That’s why guys in the Ukraine and similar places can be aloof — in those places you can always replace one attractive woman with another.

James Maverick April 2, 2016 - 1:56 am

That’s definitely part of it, it’s undeniable fact that in other countries a vast majority of women is easy on the eyes unlike in America or England.

I’ve seen very few obese women in Eastern Europe (and Latin America).

Christo March 30, 2016 - 6:35 pm

Spot on and your best so far.

Joe March 30, 2016 - 7:38 pm

One of your best pieces, if not the best.

This is why I’ve been reading your site for more than 4 years now.

Thank you.

Leaveit2me316 March 30, 2016 - 8:45 pm

This right here is gold. Complete flip on how I imagined this article to read as I clicked the link. Much respect.

pbw March 30, 2016 - 9:26 pm

In feminist western countries, women tend to have shitty attitudes and look down upon men. No matter what you do, nice, jerk, etc, it is almost impossible to get through to them and have a simple dialogue.

Jorx March 30, 2016 - 9:31 pm

It’s an interesting paradigm to see pickup artistry as women worship– you’re absolutely right however. What bothers me so much about the nice guy syndrome is I see elements of that in myself, how I quickly i could compromise my values and success to be with a woman.

On the other hand though, without any compromise at all, does such a women feel worth it? The girl I’m seeing is low maintenance and accommodates me, which is great but I don’t see myself with her long term.

James Maverick April 2, 2016 - 1:53 am

Nice Guy syndrome is fine unless you want other people to take you seriously. Learn to put your needs first.

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Your stuff makes much more sense than pretty much all the other nonsense sites out there.

James Maverick April 2, 2016 - 1:45 am

“the red pill for the red pill,”

Hehe. That’s pretty interesting.

LJ March 31, 2016 - 8:58 am

Wow – that was a spectacular article.

It was actually only last night I was thinking of quitting ‘pick up’, even with the success I’ve been having with lays and relationships. Strangely the impulse I had was to spend more time on sprituality – ie changing my focus of worship to something more healthy – like meditation and maybe even explore a religion like Hare Krishna.

One quote I really like about religion and God is ‘people worship God, because if they worship anything else – success, power, sex, beauty, intelligence – eventually it will eat them alive.’ I think this applies to pick-up.

LJ March 31, 2016 - 9:02 am

Insanely good article. Wow.

It reminds me of a quote by David Foster Wallace – basically he says that the reason people worship God is becuase if they worship anything else – money, power, sex, intelligence etc – eventually it will eat them alive.

It’s funny because just this week I have been thinking of taking a break from pick-up despite the success I have been having with lays and relationships. My impulse was actually to begin to do something religious or spiritual like meditation or chanting. Maybe pursuing women had become a weird form of religion – which is very unhealthy but probably quite common.

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Nice I like that. Heading toward inner cultivation is always a good idea.

James Maverick April 2, 2016 - 1:46 am

Good comment as usual, LJ.

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Sam March 31, 2016 - 1:07 pm

James man…this is most definitely the best article you’ve ever written. I’ve been reading you for a lonnng time. This nails it. I don’t know if you ever need to write anything again. (but you can if you want haha)

So good. Thank you.

James Maverick April 2, 2016 - 1:47 am

Thank you Sam for being a reader for so long.

pinchharmonic March 31, 2016 - 1:39 pm

I’ve recently removed most of the manosphere from my daily reading because I’ve found it be toxic in exactly this manner. The guys worship girls, and combine that with a negative and cynical outlook on everything.

Your post is spot on. The way to go forward is to use positive energy and have a realistic view on things. Who are you? What are you trying to accomplish? Are you doing it because you think other people want it or because you want it? I realized I don’t want to be a PUA, at all. I want to be healthy, balanced, and working towards developing and achieving my goals every day. No time to waste on negativity, cynicism, and worshipping other mortals.

jabrony March 31, 2016 - 2:07 pm

I’m the exact same man. The manosphere has become so much more poisonous than it was even a year ago.

It’s either worshipping women, or hating them.

James Maverick April 2, 2016 - 1:48 am

Positive energy is what it’s all about. Great feedback, pinchharmonic.

Roberto March 31, 2016 - 5:57 pm


I’ve been reading you for five years now (since your Brazilian days) and this is your best article on the site.

You’ve really hit the nail on this one.

Thanks for proving that there still helpful sites for men without all the hating.

Cheers from Mexico.

James Maverick April 2, 2016 - 1:50 am

Hey Roberto,

Glad to have you aboard for such a long time.

Mike Vandonado March 31, 2016 - 6:03 pm

I can’t say enough about what you’ve just written. Brilliantly written piece.

I’ve just forwarded it to some of my friends who’re “knee deep” in the manosphere. I really hope they see the light.

James Maverick April 5, 2016 - 3:31 am

Thanks Mike, appreciate it.

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This forum needed shnkaig up and you’ve just done that. Great post!

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Andrew April 1, 2016 - 10:28 am

Top post, James.

Are there any spots left for mentorship?

James Maverick April 2, 2016 - 1:52 am

Not this month. In May, there’s a waiting list.

Borges de Oliveira April 1, 2016 - 1:18 pm

The part where Maverick discusses the virtues of the jerk, which is spot on, made me think of some pieces by Pook.

Jake April 1, 2016 - 10:23 pm

Completely agree there. Nice observation, Borges.

Jake April 1, 2016 - 10:23 pm

Completely agree. Nice observation, Borges.

Nomad in Asia April 1, 2016 - 9:53 pm

Been a reader of your blog for over 5 or 6 years now.

I have to say that I’ve been waiting for you to write such a post. The whole “manosphere” scene is toxic and counterproductive, IMHO.

James Maverick April 2, 2016 - 1:57 am

Thanks Nomad. Glad you liked it.

Lenny April 2, 2016 - 3:25 am

hi James,

Could you write an article comparing South/Latin America to Eastern European women. I am interested to see what is different & similar between the two, that has nothing to do with Americans.

Thank you

James Maverick April 5, 2016 - 3:25 am

Hey Lenny,

I might do that in the future. The comparisons are very interesting and do deserve a separate article.

Sebastian April 2, 2016 - 7:00 am

Hey James, I think you hit the nail on the head with this one. I’ve only recently discovered your site, but I think out of many of the ‘manosphere’ writers out there, your content is not only brimming with sense, but also a positive and healthy outlook.

Regarding this article, I’d like to ask… where does one draw the boundaries for ‘woman worship’ ? Is it considered ‘worship’ to spend some time deciding on where to take my girlfriend for a date so that we can both have a good time? How about something simple, yet heavily analysed, like saying, “I love you” first? I myself feel that I’m beginning to withdraw from my ‘pickup’ phase and am starting to pursue meaningful, complete relationships with women. I’d love to hear more of your perspective on this.

Thank you

James Maverick April 5, 2016 - 3:23 am

Hi Sebastian,

None of these are acts of worship if you’re genuinely treating the girl as a girl (i.e., she’s not perfect, with faults, etc) than a woman who “completes you”.

I do nice things for my women, but I don’t worship them. They don’t complete me. I’m also not afraid if they decide to leave me.

Johny October 7, 2016 - 8:50 pm

We already had this discussion with friends. If it doesn’t bother you, when they leave you, why were you together with them? If you are already complete, why are you going into a relationship, because then you don’t need anyone else. If you are already complete, is it possible at all that a woman has an impact on your life? And can’t two people complete each other? We couldn’t find an answer to this problem…

ZiggyM April 4, 2016 - 2:02 pm

Hey Mav,

Good article, but I think you are nonetheless wrong on three key points:

1) Women do love sex and do harbor animalistic desires, but if that is supposed to excuse your friend’s girlfriend’s gangbang (linking to the article seems to suggest that – correct me if I’m misreading you), then you’re wrong. It is one thing for a woman to desire sex with a man; it is quite another for her to whore herself out to several guys at once. The former kind of behavior is perfectly normal, the latter is just disgraceful behavior worthy of a whore, and no self-respecting man would even touch such a woman.

You blame (partially rightly) men’s desire for shallow relationships (e.g. one night-stands) for the frequent break-ups in relationships in the West. But you ignore an even more important factor: the fact that most Western women spend their teens, 20s, and even early 30s sleeping with several (or more) different men, and then, guess what?

They age, their beauty declines precipitously, and as a result, not even the beta and omega males they used to reject are interested in them any longer.

2) You wrote :

“The so-called “manosphere” is a huge temple of female worship (see the endless discussion about “shit tests” as though the way any woman communicates must be automatically interpreted as some kind of “test”).”

The truth is that women DO test men who vie for their affections. It is not “women worship” to say so. Nor is it mysogynic to say that. It’s the truth.

And, TBH, women are within their rights to do so.

Most women don’t want to end up with fucked-up guys who can’t take care of themselves (let alone take care of a family). That would consign them (and their future children) to a lifetime of misery.

So they TEST men to separate the wheat from the chaff. They TEST men who’re trying to seduce them.

Of course, they could simply ASK a man if he’s strong enough to deal with the challenges of life and to raise a family.

But he could LIE.

A woman could just ASK her suitor how much money he makes.

But he could LIE.

A woman could just ASK her suitor if he’s good in bed.

But he could LIE.

So a woman tests her suitors to “disqualify” ASAP any unfit “candidates”.

Similarly, if one is a student at school or at a college, the teacher could just ASK you if you’ve learned the course material taught over the semester.

But you could LIE.

So the teacher gives you a TEST to see if you’ve REALLY mastered that study material.

And the #1 reason so many men fail with so many women is because they don’t even realize they are tested, let alone HOW to pass a woman’s tests.

Because here’s the BIG difference between the tests teachers give you and the tests women give men: women don’t tell you in advance that they’re going to test you.

And besides, women don’t teach you what you need to know before they test you.

That’s why those manosphere blogs do.

3) Last but not least, as a historian, I want to correct the record: the Soviets did NOT win WW2 alone, not even in Europe.

In late November and early December 1941, the Soviet Union was on the brink of total defeat. They had just lost all but about 500 of the tanks they had on June 22nd, most of their aircraft, and most of their troops. German troops had laid siege to Leningrad and came within 20 kms of Moscow (their avant-garde already had the Kremlin’s towers within sight).

Without American and British (at first, primarily British) war materiel and training (including several hundred tanks that were superior to anything the Russians had except the T-34 and the KV-1, as well as several hundred fighters superior to anything the Russians or the Germans had at the time), as well as food/life necessities supplies, Leningrad and Moscow would’ve fallen – and with them, the Soviet Union.

Even after their retreat from Moscow in 1941, the Germans could still have beaten the Russians at Stalingrad in 1942-1943, or even later at Kursk in the summer of 1943. But by that time, the Soviet Union was receiving massive quantities of American and British Lend-Lease aid.

Even then, the Germans could’ve won if the madman Hitler had only listened to his generals and allowed them to conduct the war professionally, or if he had simply given his U-boot commander, Adm. Doenitz, enough submarines to shut down transatlantic convoy lines – at which point Lend-Lease deliveries to the USSR through the Atlantic would’ve stopped and any idea of any landing in France would’ve become pure moonshine.

Or, quite simply, in 1942 Hitler could’ve given Rommel enough troops to beat the British in North Africa, which would’ve opened the way to Middle Eastern oil reserves and – and to the Caucasus oil fields – to the Wehrmacht. Had that happened, the USSR would’ve been forced to surrender or, at minimum, make peace, as Stalin would’ve done everything to protect the Soviet oil fields in the Caucasus.

The Soviet Union and its Western allies did win the war – but only thanks to their overwhelming advantage in numbers and materiel coupled with plain old dumb luck. If only Hitler – a rank amateur in military affairs – had LISTENED to his generals, men who had served in the German military since their teens/early 20s, he would’ve won WW2 hands down.

Johny October 7, 2016 - 8:37 pm

I agree on most you said, except 1): It doesn’t make any sense to judge people on their sexual preferences. Sounds like 50ies morals.

josh bar April 4, 2016 - 6:19 pm

GOLD!!! Maverick

James Maverick April 5, 2016 - 4:24 am

Thanks bro.

Octavio April 5, 2016 - 10:42 am

I think this is the best post on this blog. Seriously.

James Maverick April 7, 2016 - 11:43 pm

Thanks Octavio!

Pete April 5, 2016 - 1:00 pm

Excellent post here James! This is very true advice. Too much emphasis is placed on woman worship all throughout the western world and media as well. As a result this has plagued the minds of many men across the world. It’s more about developing some inner wealth and especially strong values. I think the more that a male becomes spontaneous and shows their true self, ultimately the more a woman will gravitate towards the individual. Great stuff!

James Maverick April 7, 2016 - 11:44 pm

Very nice comment. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

Nomad77 April 5, 2016 - 8:27 pm

You touched upon a topic I think deserves its own article. How Game could be viewed as the ultimate form of women worship.

Lenny April 7, 2016 - 3:15 am

What fascinates me the most is that the few trolls who bash your articles need to get laid asap. The anger is incredible. The west is producing so many trolls by depriving humans of basic needs. Complete violation of human rights. Amnesty International should address this now! Million Men March!

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david April 22, 2016 - 7:55 pm

I agree with you in theory. My personal stumbling block is being too self absorbed and aloof. Most girls I date tell me “I thought you hated me when we first met.” lol. I personally need to be more aggressive with my intention.

… and yes american women are the worst pool to fish in. So many overweight, stuck up girls when I go out. The best game here in southern california is to be the loud asshole.

Mavje April 27, 2016 - 11:10 pm

Yo James, Poland here!
I’ve been reading your blog since the very beginning but when I read this article … Reminds me of the scene in the ‘Rocky VI” movie when Rocky got hit so badly he fell on the ground and all those crazy pictures came to his mind but eventually he got up and stood up a great fight.
And that’s basically what happened when I read this article – first I was shocked and unconcious but when I got up, I know … I just know
I’m looking forward to your articles, keep it the way it is because it’s great!

James Maverick April 30, 2016 - 11:43 pm

Nice comment, Mavje. Glad you liked it.

Sentyme May 6, 2016 - 10:43 am

I’ve read a lot about women in forums about seduction, PUA-stuff etc. And I learned one, very important thing: you just can’t generalize women. I beg all of you, don’t do this, never.
Let’s ask this question: What all men want and desire?
And what would be the answer? You can write about some main tendencies, you can pick some general characteristics about men, but you can’t specify what men desire, because they are not a homogeneous collective but a wide spectrum of different personalities. The same applies to women, different women desire different things, I mean, there is 3,5bln of them on this planet! Just do the statistical analysis – there will be some fraction of women that love to be worshipped, and there will be women that hate it and get rid of this as soon as someone starts.
So to answer the question – What women desire? That depends on women. You can’t just make simple general statement.

MrMasculine May 7, 2016 - 1:14 am

I live in the USA. I think that about 20% of the women I see everyday are fit and attractive. 100% of unmarried men are competing for these 20%. If American guys were surrounded by attractive women all day it would become normal to us and we would get over it. I also agree with you that for some odd reason, we American guys are brain washed to worship women. As a kid I was told girls are sugar, spice and everything nice and guys were made from snakes,snails and puppy dog tails. Hard not to believe that crap when you hear it in the 2nd grade. I think you are right that the EE guys don’t worship women. When I date American women they almost expect to be worshiped. I learned to kick them off the pedestal years ago. My ex actually got upset because I would do her bidding and worship her. I dumped her. She was furious and said she’d never been dumped. I said that her previous boyfriend must have been wimps. What surprised me was that she actually said I couldn’t use certain words. I told her she is not allowed to tell me how to talk. That was the beginning of the end. I’m sure there were 10 suckers standing behind me that were waiting with baited breath to follow her stupid rules.


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