The Curious Case Of The Ultra Feminine Woman

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Femininity is much more than meets the eye. While it may seem like a simple concept at first, it’s actually much more complicated and multidimensional. Generally speaking, femininity exists almost everywhere. Brazilian women are extremely feminine. So are Colombian and Romanian women. Even in America, the land of feminism and the “independent woman,” I’ve been told (by sources who shall remain anonymous) that there are also feminine women, perhaps in the South or the Midwest, at least as far away as possible from the big liberal cities on West and East coasts.

What is an uber-feminine woman? Think about a typical feminine woman. She has feminine polarity. She emits wonderful feminine energy. She respects and doesn’t challenge your masculinity. She wants you to take charge and make decisions. She loves wearing sexy dresses and high heels. She expects you to pay for everything, at least initially. That’s femininity.

Now take all these qualities and multiply them by 100 and what you get is the uber-feminine woman. The uber-feminine woman is absolutely gorgeous. She wears the latest threads and never leaves the house without high heels. She always expects you to pay for everything, never lifting a finger when the check arrives; a corollary of this is that she won’t go with you just about anywhere, so forget about a date on a city park’s bench. She must always go somewhere special to “see and be seen,” like an exclusive restaurant or a club. There’s no such thing as a free lunch, and there’s no such thing as free uber-femininity.

Most of you are probably thinking that what I’m actually describing is a regular woman who happens to be beautiful. I’m not. An uber-feminine woman is different from a pretty woman. Many women are beautiful, but few of them are uber-feminine. As you’ll see below, an uber-feminine woman is like an exotic fish that can only be found in a unique environment.

Conditions for the existence of the uber-feminine woman

An uber-feminine woman exists in environments when all of the following seven conditions are met:

Poor economic conditions

The uber-feminine woman is a direct byproduct of her cultural and economic environment. Economically, the region needs to be in a depressed state with a high income disparity. Only when you have a small amount of people with lots of money at the top, a small to non-existent middle class, and lots of poverty down below, can you create a breeding ground for an uber-feminine woman.

Only outside the West can you discover such an environment. There’re corrupt Latin American countries with huge wage disparities; Brazil has one of the highest in the world. Eastern Europe is also a region with a huge income disparity. That explains why there are uber-feminine women in countries like Romania, Bulgaria, Ukraine and Russia.

Poor economic conditions are one of the key factors that differentiates an uber-feminine woman from a regular pretty woman. There are can be no uber-feminine women when you have hard currency, clean streets and buses that always run on time. While there are plenty of pretty women in New York or Switzerland, they’re not uber-feminine.

Great economic windfall for men with the right connections

While there’re poor economic opportunities for the masses, there are fabulous ways to get rich for a few lucky men who have connections to low people in high places. This is usually the case in countries blessed with lots of natural resources instead of developed economies that derive most of its GDP from services like high tech consulting.

Colombia makes and markets cocaine, so if you’re a drug kingpin, you have access to a wide array of uber-feminine women. Russia is the world’s second largest producer of oil and gas. So, if you happened to know Mr. Putin personally, you will get amazingly wealthy and uber-feminine women will be knocking on your door.

In egalitarian places like Sweden or Switzerland that don’t have much natural resources and no accompanying corruption, you have egalitarian women. These women aren’t exceptionally feminine simply because they don’t need to be.

Little to no economic mobility

Not only do you need to have poor economic conditions, but there also needs to be little to no economic mobility. This prevents the citizens from easily escaping economic hardships by moving to a richer country with more opportunities.

Although there are many poor countries around the world, some of them allow their citizens to freely travel to other countries with better potential. Lithuania and Latvia are relatively poor ex-Soviet Union countries, but since they’re members of the EU, their citizens can freely travel, work and live anywhere within the 27 states that make the union. As a result, many Lithuanian and Latvian citizens have duly emigrated to other parts of the continent, like the UK or Denmark. Even many Latin Americans like Brazilians and Colombians now have visa-free access to rich Western countries.

This isn’t the case in Eastern Europe. Ukrainian and Russian citizens need a visa to visit most countries in the world, except former Soviet Union, some Latin American countries, and perhaps a few African countries. They cannot easily immigrate (or even visit) to rich countries with lots of economic potential like Germany, USA, Canada, etc.

No government handouts

In many of the world’s rich countries, there are welfare programs that provide generous handouts to various groups like the unemployed, minorities, immigrants, women on maternity leave, etc. Scandinavian countries immediately come to mind. I spent a year in Denmark, and virtually everyone there receives some kind of a handout from the government. The unemployed people don’t have much incentive to find a job because they already have a great “salary” that doesn’t motivate them to work too much.

Thus, it’s no surprise that there are no uber-feminine women in Denmark. An uber-feminine woman wouldn’t stay uber-feminine for long if she’s getting a fat government subsidy every two weeks. She’s uber-feminine because that’s what attracts a successful man, but that’s no longer necessary if she’s getting free money from the government.

Outside the wealthy West, things are very different. In Eastern Europe, every man (and woman) must fend for themselves. It’s truly a dog eat dog society. They must earn every single cent. Thus, women are forced to “market” themselves the best way they can. Even if a woman is intelligent and capable, it’s difficult for her to progress the corporate ladder in a male-dominated society. Fortunately, if a woman is uber-feminine, she can make ends meet using other ways.

Exceptional beauty of women

An uber-feminine woman must not only be feminine and beautiful: she needs to be exceptionally beautiful. Regular beauty just doesn’t cut it. When you have a country with poor economic conditions resulting in a society with a huge income inequality, you have a competitive environment where there are lots of very beautiful women who’re battling for a small share of the country’s oligarchs at the top.

An uber-feminine woman must not only be beautiful, but she also needs to have a goddess stature and overflowing confidence: she needs to be uber-confident. Being tall and statuesque doesn’t hurt. Everything about her screams, “try to handle me if you can.”

Her overarching goal is to attract a capable (and rich) mate, so if she’s not beautiful or sexy or feminine, then she’ll have a hard time attracting her sugar daddy.

Strong gender roles

There can be no femininity and uber-femininity without the corresponding masculinity. Femininity is capital. It needs to be nurtured and appreciated. It would be downright pointless for a woman to act feminine if no one appreciates her femininity in the first place.

For instance, Scandinavia is a region where there’s a complete lack of defined gender roles. Women wear running shoes and strange dresses that resemble a beach blanket and guys are perfectly content with it. What would an uber-feminine woman do there? The answer: nothing. She would feel like a fish out of water.

Male/female deficit

Last but not least, an uber-feminine woman exists only where there’s a certain “male/female deficit.” What I mean by this is that the women need to be sexually hungrier than the men. For instance, Brazilian women are gorgeous who look like they’re about to rip off your clothes any minute, but Brazilian guys are super aggressive who rarely take a no for an answer. Thus, they are able to “meet the demand” of the women. There’s no “male/female deficit” in Brazil (and other Latin countries). There’s no need for uber-feminity if regular feminity is enough.

Eastern Europe is a region with a certain male/female deficit. In places like Ukraine and Russia, local guys aren’t as aggressive, yet the women are just as beautiful and sexy as Brazilians. Many Ukrainians and Russian women end up marrying foreigners. One reason for this is due to the poor economic conditions (see point 1); women from poorer countries want to marry a guy from a richer country and migrate to a place with more opportunities. But then again I’ve also heard on more than one occasion Ukrainian women complaining that “their men don’t appreciate them.” This doesn’t happen in Brazil, Colombia or Spain.

Sightings

In my experience, an overwhelming percentage of the world’s uber-feminine women have been sighted in Eastern Europe, specifically in Russia and Ukraine. Eastern Europe is a region that provides the perfect socio-economic fertile ground where uber-femininity not only exists but thrives.

To a lesser extent, Latin America countries, particularly Colombia—a land of super macho guys, great “natural resources” to market at home and abroad and gorgeous women—are also blessed with uber-feminine women. Who knows, maybe they also exist in oil-rich Nigeria.

Special handling

Since an uber-feminine isn’t your typical girl next door, she requires special handling. She requires you to be a real man and have a strong masculine frame. A man who’s tough, strong and capable. A man who makes decisions quickly. A man who has adrenaline gushing out of his veins. A man who’s ready to summon his troops and conquer the world. A man with a seemingly unlimited bank roll. But sometimes even all that might not be enough.

Everything is good in moderation and an uber-feminine woman is no exception. Because she’s so feminine, she knows how to use her feminine charm to use or con other men. She’s also more vain and conceited than other women, caring too much about her experience, her ego and her state instead of reflecting on the man’s needs.

We all value femininity, but, as you’ll eventually learn, it’s actually possible for a woman to be too feminine. So much so, that she’s almost like a separate entity, a walking sex symbol, a brand that’s ready to be prepackaged, publicized, monetized and sold, instead of someone with whom you can build a deep emotional connection. Is the uber-feminine woman for you? That depends.

44 comments

Truth Hurts September 10, 2015 - 9:04 am

Solid breakdown of an important concept, Mav. Which country besides Eastern Europe have feminine women?

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James Maverick September 11, 2015 - 9:37 am

I prefer Colombia and Brazil, but there are many others.

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Marcus Aurelius September 10, 2015 - 9:25 am

I don’t like Russian women; I find them too manipulative. Are other EE women better?

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James Maverick September 11, 2015 - 9:37 am

No, about the same pretty much…

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American Traveler September 10, 2015 - 9:45 am

I dated an uber-feminine woman once. She was very feminine, but also very caring.

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jseliger September 10, 2015 - 11:29 am

In many of the world’s rich countries, there are welfare programs that provide generous handouts to various groups like the unemployed, minorities, immigrants, women on fraternity leave

This is a typo, but it’s a pretty funny one.

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James Maverick September 10, 2015 - 3:30 pm

Freudian slip 🙂

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Dasm September 10, 2015 - 5:14 pm

it all makes sense, the only weapon to survive is pleasing a man with feminity

however i cinsider it as a bad sign if she never offers to share the bill

what share do you think a women should pay? 1/3, 1/4, 1/5th?

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James Maverick September 10, 2015 - 5:46 pm

The bill part. Forget it. Every single girl I went out in Eastern Europe never offers to pay the bill. That’s just the rules of the game. I don’t have any problem with that.

They usually start contributing later on (also in other ways 🙂

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Bon-Voyage September 13, 2015 - 2:52 pm

That are the society rules that are teached in East Europe. For us westerns it looks rude or we feel used if she not even makes an attempt for paying. 90% of the girls in Germany I went out offered me to pay her part (I always pay, and expect nothing in return(which means I don’t make a big thing about), sometimes if she is persistent, I tell her that I pay and the next round is on her.

If my budget is currently low, I just go to affordable places /activities.

My experience is, girls who persist to pay are harder to seduce. They want show that there are an “independent” woman who can’t get bought with money. They are more logical and have more male traits.

If I would have the choice between a woman who constantly persists to pay or never pays I would take the latter.

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James Maverick September 13, 2015 - 3:08 pm

“My experience is, girls who persist to pay are harder to seduce. They want show that there are an “independent” woman who can’t get bought with money. They are more logical and have more male traits.”

That’s what I also think. But what’s hard me to deal with is when a woman makes **absolutely** no effort to pay. It’s almost like I feel used. It’s nice when she makes a little bit of an effort. In Eastern Europe, women make zero effort to pay and don’t even say thanks. It’s pretty extreme. But that’s just the rules of the game, I guess.

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Bon-Voyage September 13, 2015 - 3:34 pm

Yes, I couldn’t live long with both types of girls. A gorgeous woman knows how to be independent and still be feminine inside and outside. Not possible? Who says, that women today have it easier than men 😉

Supramax September 10, 2015 - 10:15 pm

Probably only a guy who lived in FSU could write that post (that’s a compliment). I would add:

-It’s my impression that Guys in FSU are different from Latin men in that drinking and basically macho self abuse in it’s many forms is in first place and is more part of their culture than being a passionate pursuer and lover of women (probably because they have such an overabundance that there’s no need for it to be such a priority). That’s why many women you meet in Russia’s fathers have died, often times long ago. Macho Self abuse is also common in latin culture but it definitely takes a back seat to being a passionate pursuer and lover of women (as many as possible before & during marriage).

-The only girlfriend I’ve ever had who fits this post ……fits it to a ‘T’ and she was…..Russian, model beautiful, demanding, top of her class at Moscow State University, etc. and super young and in her true prime at the time (21). It was to an extreme though without any good natured-compromise – each unwillingness on my part to fulfill her expectations was me not knowing how to treat a woman. The higher living (i.e. Kind of fancy life, nice places, nice ‘Klothez’ hehe that’s how she pronounced clothes – she didn’t even like the wire hangers in my closet as they did not properly support her ‘Klothez’ heh – I still have the hangers she bought, , for her klothez) expectations were oppressive and difficult to deal with for a casual American guy (i.e. me). Was pretty young though so probably she’s more mature – a lot of it was immaturity but core culture there is instilled. Ya have to admire it = they know their job is to look great and sexy but the other side of the coin is the expectations on the uber feminine women…. whew..

Breaks my heart to see these naturally beautiful women being worked so hard at these Russian companies – it is a long/tough work environment without much vacation but, thankfully, a lot of public holidays. It’s not so much the working hard, but the massive traffic that makes them spend 2-4 hours driving or on the bus each day and then sitting in the office till 7pm so that their naturally beautiful bodies don’t get exercised enough and they age fast even if they have a decent diet.

I went out of my way during a ‘talk’ on money to way understate my income (I understated it by about 60%) to lower her expectations, and even asked her to pay back some money I had loaned her to buy some Klothez but heh, that backfired and she left.

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James Maverick September 11, 2015 - 8:32 am

“Breaks my heart to see these naturally beautiful women being worked so hard at these Russian companies – it is a long/tough work environment without much vacation but, thankfully, a lot of public holidays. It’s not so much the working hard, but the massive traffic that makes them spend 2-4 hours driving or on the bus each day and then sitting in the office till 7pm so that their naturally beautiful bodies don’t get exercised enough and they age fast even if they have a decent diet.”

I guess that’s why they’re emigrating from Russia in droves.

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JPRem September 11, 2015 - 8:22 am

My current gf is an ultra fem from Colombia. I am beginning to see they are NOT worth it. I consider myself to be a pretty manly man. But it’s hard to get total polarity with an ultra fem. They are so feminine that it is almost to the point that the roles reverse. The bar is set so high and keeps raising. Well, she is 26. In about 10 years that bar is going to fall like the twin towers. (Sorry for the reference but today IS 9/11). Ultra femininity is just simply a super hot female taking FULL advantage of her natural assets. Remember, women are a depreciating asset physically. They have to get while the getting is good and an ultra fem takes that to the max. Because if not, when the beauty fades she will be just another barrio girl.

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James Maverick September 11, 2015 - 8:28 am

“Ultra femininity is just simply a super hot female taking FULL advantage of her natural assets.”

That’s exactly what it is. Great comment, man.

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east euro guy September 12, 2015 - 7:57 am

You totally misunderstood these types of people you described here mav…

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James Maverick September 12, 2015 - 4:12 pm

Why?

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Qazwsxedc September 12, 2015 - 5:18 pm

To be honest, I’m finding it difficult to distinguish between what is being as described as a “ultra feminine” woman and just another high maintenance, ultra materialistic gold-digger.

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east euro guy September 12, 2015 - 5:55 pm

Well, something like that. It would take a longer text to explain the last 25 years in my country and the mentality that raised from that ‘culture’. We don’t like such women, well, most of us. ‘Uber feminine’ for us is either ‘uber brat’ or something just a bit above pro escort. Either way, no emotion.
No emotion= no femininity… Because no emotion = no masculinity either.

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James Maverick September 13, 2015 - 12:20 am

Yeah, I completely understand what you’re saying. These women are “special.” I’m not saying that they’ll be your best life companion or anything (I’m not endorsing them). I just wanted to make a distinction that they exist in some places more than in others.

BTW, what country are you referring to? To better understand the situation.

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east euro guy September 13, 2015 - 4:18 am

Serbia

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James Maverick September 13, 2015 - 4:37 am

Love that country! Lots of feminine women there.

James Maverick September 14, 2015 - 12:18 am

I see what you’re saying. It really depends how you look at it. Let’s say it like this: an uber-feminine woman CAN BE a potential golddigger. And most of them are probably are.

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GenericFemale January 23, 2017 - 10:52 pm

Sure I agree, this article is a regurgitated list of superficial marketing rubbish about what people are told to think of as feminine, coupled with some sweeping generalisations and stereotypes. Clearly written by someone who chas never actually encountered an uber-femme.

Come on men, you can do better.

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D September 12, 2015 - 11:48 pm

“women aren’t exceptionally feminine simply because they don’t need to be.” that sums it up. In big cities like NY the ratio of young, beautiful women to men is lower and also its the cultural norm to pedestal women so they dont have to do anything except be slightly good looking and they got worshipped. So they are entitled and bitchy. Thats flipped in places like Russia, around 0.92 men per female, and also men have more value where theres less economic resources and women are more reliant on them. Women have to work hard and chase high value men. All supply and demand.

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James Maverick September 13, 2015 - 12:24 am

“Thats flipped in places like Russia, around 0.92 men per female, and also men have more value where theres less economic resources and women are more reliant on them. Women have to work hard and chase high value men. All supply and demand.”

Very incisive observation, D. Thanks for your comment.

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Ann March 12, 2016 - 5:33 pm

I am an ultra-feminine woman. I believe that because ultra-feminine women are rare we are stereotyped because at its best the average man or woman finds it intriguing, at its worst intimidating. At any rate I think sometimes people project onto others characteristics that make them feel comfortable about their own insecurities. Like believing an ultra-feminine woman has to be stuck up when in reality you may be intimidated by her beauty and assume she would never be kind to you or that ultra-feminine women aren’t intelligent because you find yourself unable to think straight in the presence of a beautiful woman. I love everything about being a woman and I embrace it. I literally have no desire at all to walk in a mans shoes,I dress in clothing that a heterosexual male wouldn’t be caught dead in because I am a woman and I like to look like a woman. Neither do I expect a man to forfeit his masculinity, dress in women’s clothing, or take on feminine mannerisms, but I do believe that women and men should have respect for each other. The only people who worry about gold diggers are people that don’t have a generous spirit. If men are worried about women being gold diggers they need to bring something to the table other than bragging about how much money they have and their possessions. But if that is all men like that have to offer I understand. I prefer a man who is kind, fun loving, and has a generous spirit, just like me.

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James Maverick March 13, 2016 - 8:20 am

Great comment, Ann. Well said.

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Bon Voyage March 12, 2016 - 9:33 pm

Ann thanks for your comment. You showed me that there are finally woman in this world that I want to love passionately

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D March 13, 2016 - 10:56 am

Just get the hell out of western countries and you will find such women untarnished by social conditioning

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Ann March 13, 2016 - 1:31 pm

Thank you James Maverick and Bon Voyage.

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Bon Voyage March 16, 2016 - 2:24 am

Just curious. Where are you from, Ann.

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Ann March 21, 2016 - 11:21 am

I am an American woman. So see we aren’t all that bad.lol

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Bon Voyage March 22, 2016 - 8:33 am

Ive never been to the US and I can only tell that the girls from the US that I’ve met on vacation were all okay. But I hear and read a lot of complains from US guys. Most probably the US girls are doing the same. Which I can’t blame them for

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Ann March 22, 2016 - 7:32 pm

Yes, Bon Voyage it can be a little tricky here. It’s nice to meet a person who isn’t coming at you from an angle. But so many people think that they have to play the mind games called hard to get or out to get you because they think that makes them seem more appealing? I prefer that a person just be straight up with me and say hey, I think your cute can I take you out sometime and we could take it from there, but again some people behave so awkwardly it scares me off. They get your phone number and start stalking and harrassing with all the texts and calls. I love to go out and interact. I need something to look forward to other than talking and texting. Netflix and chill would just be too boring for me in the beginning. I really need to get to know a guy first outside of his house or my house. Lol I’m pretty opened minded to most dates as long as it doesn’t compromise my safety. And I don’t really care for the one liners or flattery. But I do love compliments. My American experience in a nutshell.Lol

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Noure - Dalya September 24, 2019 - 7:16 pm

Hi! My name is Noure – Dalya and I am also a very feminine woman and I agree with you entirely. Honestly,I think femininity is based on the way you are raised, and not really your country. Whenever I go to university I always get asked about the way I look, dress and act. like ” why do you wear heels?” or ” why don’t you cut you’re hair?” or even better ” why do you cross your legs when you sit down? “. Plus when ever someone asks me what I am studying they get surprised and think im lying when I say neuroscience or they expect me to act like a snobby brat.

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Rose November 23, 2016 - 12:20 pm

With the help of some keywords in the Google searching machine I was looking for some useful (scientific)articles related to my research topic. Unfortunately, I stumbled upon your blog and read it with disgust and some (vain)hope that you were kidding. For a person who travelled so much one would expect a way more open mind and not such uninformed generalized claims such as “Thus, it’s no surprise that there are no uber-feminine women in Denmark”. I recommend you to dig into some gender theory to broaden your horizon and save people from posts like these.

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feministandfree February 11, 2017 - 5:51 pm

Uber feminine sounds like a woman who is at the mercy of predatory men and have no choice but to either become a gold digger or risk being exploited by human trafficking mail order bride businesses. If that’s “femininity” I’ll take a pass and stay independent.

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James Maverick February 12, 2017 - 5:31 am

Interesting viewpoint.

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Ashley March 4, 2017 - 8:26 pm

I’m an uber-feminine American woman. I find it hard to date, because most men look at me as if I’m not even human. Where can I attract an uber-masculine man who would be courageous enough to actually speak to me?

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S December 27, 2017 - 9:01 pm

Remember..beauty fades, but dumb is forever.

A smart woman invests in her mind, as well as her looks.
A smart man is at first taken by looks, but actually falls in love with her mind. Intelligence and femininity are not mutually exclusive, but in some countries, it might be!

And real loves will last a lifetime…because one day, both of you will look like hell, so it won’t even matter.

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David December 18, 2018 - 8:07 pm

Having lived in Moscow for 2 years, I have personally experienced the ultra-feminine woman. That said, WHEN you get them in their life is important. A 21 year old Russian girl will manipulate the hell out of you to get what she wants, then discard you when she finds a better sponsor. Find a girl in her late 20s/early 30s , they realize their “shelf life” is limited and they are much more willing to find a man with sufficient means and settle down, get married, and have a couple of kids. If you’re a westerner and can get them out of Russia, you can have your choice of women in this age bracket. Just make sure you have a good pre-nuptial agreement. When they leave Russia and see you’re average, they’ll want to “trade up” for a more lavish lifestyle. Given how bad American women in their 30s look comparatively, they will have no problem attracting attention.

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Noure - Dalya September 24, 2019 - 7:21 pm

There are so many other feminine woman out there that would never do that to someone, if you have a girl like that you should not be with her. Plus a feminine woman is a kind and generous woman not manipulative

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