Russian women have known the world over as some of the sexiest, most feminine and most amazing women. In this article, I will discuss this in great detail as well as tell you the pros and cons of dating them and even possibly marrying them.
While it’s difficult to say with complete certainty, I’m pretty sure that had I not been living in Brazil when I decided to start this blog, this may have been the inaugural post (or one of the first posts) instead of a post that teaches the Portuguese language.
It just has to be: Russian women (as well as Russian-speaking women from neighboring countries) have been such a big part of my life, and, to a large extent, are duly responsible for the intense chemistry that evolved into torrid relationships only to be balanced out by ferocious breakups as well as some of the downright harshest and vengeful rejections that I’ve experienced in my whole life.
Even after wondering half away around the world and having the time of my life in countries replete with truly amazing women such as Mexico, Colombia or Brazil, meeting a Russian woman always ensures an experience that’s devoid of any boredom and monotony (like that fateful night when I locked eyes with a tanned blue-eyed Russian girl in a hostel bar in Ipanema, Rio de Janeiro, but that story is for a future post). For women that hail from such a cold and brutal climate, they sure know how to spice up a man’s life.
Russian women are the world’s greatest chameleon
First of all, unless you’ve interacted with Russian women in Russia (or in neighboring Russian-speaking countries such as Belarus or Ukraine), your experience with Russian women is rather limited and might be even biased. That’s applicable if you’ve met Americanized Russian women in big cities like New York or Chicago. That’s also applicable if you’ve met a Russian girl in tourist destinations like Turkey or Thailand. (A rookie mistake is to think that Americanized Russian women are the same as Russian women who grew up in Russia. That’s completely false; the two have little in common.)
That’s because you must learn the very first rule about the amazing but complicated creature called a Russian woman: she’s the greatest chameleon in the world and has an uncanny ability to adapt and blend into pretty much any environment. The reason for her super adaptability is the unique—and unforgiving—environment in which she has grown up. This isn’t a strong influencing factor with other amazing women like Brazilians or Colombians, which is why they’re equally friendly and approachable both at home and abroad.
Since I hail from the mythical land behind The Iron Curtain, I get asked constantly about the women there. My response is usually tailored to the asker’s experience. If the guy isn’t well-traveled, I think harder, desperately trying to stitch my answer using words and images that the guy may already be familiar with. However, if the guy has already spent time in Brazil, formulating my answer becomes infinitely easier.
Russian women have an uncanny resemblance to Brazilian women, but not in the way you think. Brazilian women are larger than life. They’re extremely warm, approachable, friendly and sensual. They have an intoxicating swagger that no other woman in the world possesses or can even dream of successfully mimicking. They simply stand out. After spending lots of time in Brazil, I became skilled at recognizing a Brazilian woman anywhere in the world from a mile away.
Like Brazilian women, Russian women are also larger than life but differently. Russian women don’t have the intoxicating sensuality nor the exhilarating swagger of Brazilian women, but they make up for those shortcomings with sincerity, warmth, and intensity, all stitched together and interlaced with strong femininity—an invigorating combination that I haven’t found in other European women (Ukrainian women come close).
Diverse as the empire
There’s a stereotypical Russian woman that’s known the world over. She’s tall, slim, has blonde or light brown hair, blue eyes and perfectly toned legs that seem to go on forever. She possesses a certain swagger and sexiness. But that’s all it is—a stereotype. What surprises most people is that Russian women are extremely diverse, and that’s because Russia itself is one of the world’s last remaining empires that’s composed of many diverse races and ethnic groups.
Throughout my life, I’ve met all kinds of Russian women: tall and short; dark-haired and light-haired; blue-eyed and brown-eyed. While I’m personally not a huge fan of blonde women with blue eyes and much prefer darker women, I’ve been fortunate to meet women who were as close to my perfection as possible: they were olive-skinned, looked Latin or Southern European, but acted and carried themselves with the sexy and familiar Slavic swagger. The last time I met one was in Jurmala, Latvia, and at that moment I felt as though all my prayers were answered from above.
When it comes to sheer beauty, I honestly cannot say that Russian women are the most beautiful women in the world. Other nationalities are blessed with more per-capita beauties such as Lithuania and Argentina.
But, as usual, statistics don’t tell the whole story. A cute Russian girl holds her own compared to pretty much any other nationality. If you see a really cute Russian girl, you’d be hard-pressed to avoid moving into her direction and striking a conversation. And if she’s in the “super cute” or model territory, you’ll suddenly overcome with temporary amnesia and would have difficulty recalling all the previous women in your life.
Like a Brazilian woman, a Russian woman has a very distinctive body language, so much so that I could usually recognize a Russian woman outside Russia, even in countries where she strongly resembles the native population. After traveling and living in the Baltics (Estonia, Lithuania, and Latvia) for over a year, I’ve been able to determine whether a particular woman is Russian or Baltic with almost pin-point accuracy.
The overwhelming distinction is in her subtle body language and not merely in the physical appearance. I could be buying a cup of tea in a coffee shop and just feel that the woman behind the counter is Russian before she even utters a single a word. Call it a sixth sense or whatever, but it’s there.
Wise beyond her years
But discussing only beauty would make for a pretty shallow article. Not only is beauty skin deep, but it’s also very subjective; every nationality of women has its share of gorgeous women, always ensuring that a love-tourist will be delighted regardless if he’s in Riga, Latvia or Cali, Colombia—or anywhere in between. If someone loves Colombian women, that doesn’t make Lithuanian women any less attractive. If someone glorifies Spanish women, that doesn’t make Ukrainian women any less desirable.
Russian women, however, really begin to outshine their counterparts in other countries once you factor in their iron spirit and mentality. Not only are they tough, but they’re also very goal-oriented and ambitious, something that I felt was lacking at times in Latin America and Western Europe.
On my first week in Russia, I met a 23-year-old woman who already had her apartment (not in the center) and a decent car. She had a well-paying job as a marketing director for a large company. She planned to open her business and then get married and start a family in a couple of years.
In Serbia, I met a 24-year-old Russian girl who was busy building her translator services business. Although she was physically small, her dreams were big and ambitious. Here was this woman with her apartment, a car, and a rapidly growing business, and here was a guy—me—who possessed none of the above. Being older than her and still living a nomadic lifestyle that entails renting assets instead of owning them, I felt at times underprivileged to be in her company.
While talking to each of these women, I felt like I was talking to a person who was many years wiser than her biological age. Each possessed an unmatched combination of sophistication, classiness, and intelligence, something that was sorely absent from the women that I interacted with in the big American coastal cities like San Francisco or Los Angeles. And women like those weren’t some strange aberration, there were lots of women like that who’re busy trying to make something of themselves, and, in the process, assemble crucial real-world knowledge and experience.
All that can be summed up in one word: maturity. In general, Russian people grow up fast, exceptionally fast—way, way faster than their counterparts in the West. I’ve met guys in their early 20s who easily passed for guys in their early 30s. And I’m not just referring to their physical appearance; I’m referring to the way they acted and carried themselves.
As someone who’s grown up in New York and San Francisco where—especially in the latter—it was very common to meet a 37-year-old woman (or a girl) who’s still single and playing the field because she’s “afraid of commitment,” it was the most refreshing thing in the world to meet a mid-20s woman who had achieved so much already—and was able to do that in such an unforgiving and difficult environment where success isn’t simply given away and must be earned with blood and sweat.
Smiling and flirting can only last so long: at some point, there needs to be a more concrete conversation around the topics that have more weight, topics like current events, politics, history, literature, etc.—topics that let you discover the depth of a person’s knowledge, experience, beliefs, and convictions.
I’m an avid student of life and read books spanning many topics, and in one of the conversations with these women, I subtly hinted that I had just gotten a copy of White Guard, a classic about the 1917 Russian Revolution, that I’ve been meaning to read for a long time. To my surprise, both of these women had not only read them but also recommended a bunch of other books that I would find interesting and should read as well.
There’s something truly intoxicating about being able to take a gorgeous woman to dinner, have incredible sex later that night, and then discuss War and Peace or Crime and Punishment over breakfast the following morning. If you’re surrounded by women who leave you underwhelmed, I’m here to tell you that there are women who can stimulate and challenge you both sexually and mentally. That’s what I call genuine fulfillment.
Why Russian women have an edge
One of the most commonly used adjectives that Westerners use to describe Russian women are “cold” and “calculating.” There’s some truth to such harsh adjectives. A Russian woman, as opposed to, say, a Latin American, has a certain “edge.” She can be amazingly sexy and classy one moment, but can suddenly change and become scheming and conniving the next; she can be warm and soft one moment, but icy and hard the next.
That’s the “Russian edge.” It’s a trait that I’ve found predominantly in Russian women as opposed to Russian-speaking women in neighboring countries. It’s what defines a Russian woman. It’s a direct result of living in a dog-eat-dog society; it’s her insurance policy against being mindlessly complacent in an environment where complacency means you don’t eat.
While not all Russian women are “cold” and “calculating,” all Russian women have this edge in varying degrees. The bold and ambitious women have more of it. I’ve also met women who are shy and reserved, but when faced with a stressful situation, suddenly exhibited a certain level of determination and intensity. It’s as though they metamorphosed into someone extremely decisive, conquered the menacing obstacle and then reverted to their previously warm, loving and caring selves.
I found this quality very admirable and respect it. But that’s probably because I’m a realist than anything else. It took me many years of wondering the distant corners of the globe and soul-searching to finally realize that there’s no such thing as a perfect woman. Every quality that a woman possesses is a tradeoff for another quality that’s absent.
Femininity has its price, too. The more feminine the woman is, the less she’s ambitious and driven, and the more you have to babysit her. The more independent the woman is, the less you have to babysit her, but the flip side is that she’s fully capable of being without you (she’s independent, remember) instead of being fully loyal to you. I can keep going, but you get my point.
I certainly don’t mind when a woman is savvy and street-smart as opposed to a woman who is so indecisive and confused that she’s all but disconnected from reality and has no idea what to do with her life. I don’t want to have to do all the planning and strategizing—and babysitting and handholding.
Fortunately, the sheer essence of a Russian woman is that she’s always capable of thinking independently and acting in a supporting role to her man, a role that allows her man to sit on the throne and take the reins while planning the overall long-term strategy. To me, that’s the ideal scenario: a woman that’s gentle on the inside, but is covered with a tough exterior shell designed to withstand and overcome constant obstacles that are thrown her way.
These qualities put Russian women in a world of their own when compared to their counterparts in Western Europe and America, but one doesn’t need to go that far; even comparing them to women in neighboring countries—and former Soviet Union republics—such as Lithuania and Latvia, makes other women seem spoiled and confused, lacking genuine drive and determination.
Curious about the world beyond the wall
But even with all the aforementioned drive and ambition that emits powerful energy, it’s also not unusual to meet women who are eager to absorb energy and information with the same intensity. Russian women are some of the most curious women I’ve met in my travels. And if she’s curious, she’s curious about lots of things, things that are so banal that they don’t arouse any interest from women from other nationalities. For example, on more than one occasion I’ve met women possessing an abundance of curiosity about life in Europe and America.
They inquired about life in Europe as though the continent was on some distant and mysterious planet that was only accessible to royalty and aristocrats while being closed to normal people like herself. I’ve had multiple conversations with them about topics that I’ve never had with women from other nationalities and regions who have neither the interest nor the sheer curiosity about the world around them.
Of course, there are plenty of Russians who not only visit Europe but actually buy chunks of it, by purchasing huge mansions and villas, but I’m not discussing a woman’s (and her husband’s) financial ability; I’m merely pointing to the existence of women who are actually curious about the world around them, something that’s in our age of distraction is rapidly becoming a strange and unique novelty.
I suppose this curiosity a direct result of living in a culture that has been completely blocked from the rest of the world for a good part of the 20th century—and remains blocked to some extent even today.
Russian seduction is pure, very pure, pure like the finest spring water—perhaps the purest in the world. Pure means the genders are super traditional: super feminine women who are attracted to super masculine men. Another culture that comes to mind when thinking about pure mating rituals is Brazil, where women are amazingly sexy and approachable and men are confident and aggressive. A crude difference between two mating cultures is that Brazilians are friendlier and smile more than Russians.
Russian women love real men—masculine, powerful and ambitious men for two main reasons. First, a powerful and strong man is always preferable to someone ineffective and weak. Everyone biologically gravitates to powerful and strong men. Who wants to be with some weak loser with a pencil neck? When is weakness preferable to strength? A man should be strong, powerful and successful.
The second, and more important reason why Russian women prefer real men is that they simply wouldn’t survive by being with other, less assertive and weaker men. It comes down to a matter of survival—a matter of life and death. In Russia, the odds are stacked against a woman; it’s the man who’s graced with unobstructed green lights on the road to the top. An overwhelming majority of the country’s political and business elite are men. A powerful and successful man can build a real business that makes a lot of money and can use this wealth and power to provide his woman and their family with a much better quality of life.
This just doesn’t apply to Western countries with generous welfare systems or legal and social structures that result in enough opportunities for men as well as women. A woman who grows up, say in Norway, Denmark or even America, doesn’t need to be with a successful man; she might or might not be successful herself and in many cases even make more money than her boyfriend or husband.
How to meet Russian women online
While there are plenty of acceptable ways of meeting Russian women offline while they’re out and about in the cafes, restaurants, parks, clubs, etc., one of the best ways to meet Russian women is online.
The biggest perks of meeting Russian women online is that you can do so from the comfort of your living room in New York City, Miami or London while the woman is out in Moscow, St. Petersburg or Sochi.
Thus, even before you decide to go to Russia, you can already set up a whole army of women who are super interested in meeting you as soon as your plane touches Russia’s land.
Of course, there are apps like Tinder (and others) that you can use for online dating, but the problem with such apps is that you typically have a lot of gold diggers, flakes, and other low-quality women. Trust me, I have tried these apps and experienced nothing but pain and suffering.
Instead, I wholeheartedly recommend you use a site such as Russian Cupid to meet Russian women. I have used the site myself, and I can attest that the women you meet on there are of a much higher caliber than the women you find on those junk dating apps.
Meeting women on Russian Cupid is super easy. Just sign up, create an account, put amazing pictures and start contacting the girls you find attractive.
If your profile is on point with no creepy pictures, I’m pretty sure you will be receiving responses from plenty of women.
Taking what’s yours
In America, the bulk of the game consists of lots of meaningless conversations; in Brazil, it’s about playfulness backed by raw confidence; in Russia, it’s about coming in and taking what’s yours.
Russian women, like any other women, love to flirt and play games, but the flirting and banter never crosses the common sense boundary. Unlike an American or an Americanized woman, a Russian girl will never tease you like one of your male friends, nor would her responses be laden with a heavy sarcasm because she doesn’t know how to react when confronted with your bold advances.
A Russian woman would never accuse you of “following an N-day rule” when you call her to schedule a date. She would never pull out her blackberry and begin asking you interview questions on the first or second date. She’s blessed with lots and lots of emotional intelligence, and thus can usually tell what kind of man you are by observing how you act and behave, all without asking you direct and logical questions.
All of this translates into a much more direct and quicker game. I can meet a Russian girl and either build chemistry super quick or know right away that we’re just not meant to be. There’s rarely a situation where we fill up the time by talking about empty—and politically correct—topics like the weather or politics (if you find yourself having mindless conversation as a way to fill up awkward silences with a Russian woman, you can be pretty sure that she’s not going see you again).
There’s usually instant sexual magnetism simply because a man and a woman meet, something that’s very difficult to explain to guys who’ve lived all their lives in Western countries where politically correct communication is the norm not only in public but in private conversations as well. And I experience this polarity not only because I’m from the region and speak the language; foreigners always mention experiencing the same thing.
Russian women respect men who make it clear what they want. They love sincerity and commitment and loath aloofness and ambiguity. They hate dealing with someone who sends them mixed signals. In the West, you’re forced to hide your primal instincts and be indirect because showing interest first might make you appear desperate and needy; in Russia, not showing interest quickly enough makes you appear insecure and indecisive. If she detects that you’re playing games—and she knows perfectly well the difference between flirting games and games that showcase your ineptitude and insecurity—she’ll abruptly stop talking to you and move on to a more promising candidate. Life in Russia is too short for games.
Instead of playing endless games that don’t lead to anywhere, Russian women respond well to a strong man who shows initiative and control. They love when a man has the raw confidence and determination to get what he wants in life, and, ultimately through his efforts, conquers the woman herself. They love when a man instinctively leads.
In America, a man who’s confident, assertive and successful with women is called an “alpha” male. But because American culture is structured in such a way that the women do not genuinely need a confident and assertive man to succeed, and, instead, gravitate to men who are not just confident and assertive but also act confident and assertive, it’s relatively simple to mimic this type of man: just fake it till you make it.
That ain’t going to fly in Russia. For starters, a Russian alpha male is a real deal: it’s a man who built something by confronting and outmaneuvering—or stealing from—his competitors. He has several million or billion in the bank, and he probably didn’t earn that money via “legal means.” A Russian alpha male is a true leader of men. It’s not someone who you can become by mimicking. It’s not someone who you can learn to be; it’s someone who you either are or not.
Russian women have learned to be very adept in separating the wheat from the chaff; they know how to distinguish between the real men and the posers. Since finding a quality man is imperative to have a high(er) quality life, Russian women have evolved a high level of emotional intelligence to properly judge a man for his fittest. And they manage to do that without asking what you do or who you want to be in the next five years.
They have no choice; if they don’t possess the emotional intelligence to understand the kind of man they’re dealing with, they will get stuck with some loser and that will mean a disaster for their own and their children’s future. If that’s not evolution and survival of the fittest at work, then I don’t know what is. Charles Darwin would be very proud.
The pure mating culture dictates that the more vivacious, ambitious, aspiring, and hotter the woman, the more masculine and successful the man needs to be to seduce her—or even to have a shot at the title. I’ve rarely seen a very beautiful and vivacious woman with a guy who’s indecisive, wishy-washy, and has no clue how to make a buck.
No matter how you slice it, this is one of the cultures where there’s just no substitute for raw masculinity.
It’s not all peaches and cream in Rußland. Besides the things that were already mentioned such as the torrid hot and icy cold personality, coupled with an intensity that some guys might find overbearing and even threatening, there are several other factors worth discussing.
Russian women will always try to get their fair share in any human exchange, whether it’s business or personal, before rewarding others with their feminine charm. If what you’re after is sex with no strings attached, you’ll have a difficult time. In that case, you might as well stay in your safe and comfortable North American or European Union country where women have no problem with shallow relationships based on the exchange of fluids and not much else.
Russian women love attention and usually get no shortage of it from other horny men, so if you’re an insecure guy who easily gets jealous, you’ll have a difficult time, especially if the woman you are with is extremely beautiful.
Russian women also seem to age fairly quickly when compared to their Western and Latin American (which can partly explain their frenetic drive to get something done and raise a family very quickly). It’s common to meet a complete knockout when she’s 25, but then wonder what happened to her in just ten years.
This is simply not the case in many of the other countries I’ve lived, especially in Latin American countries such as Brazil or Colombia. When I was living there, I used to walk the streets and just couldn’t believe my eyes how sexy some of the older women were. Latin American women are like fine wine; they only seem to get better with age.
The antidote to Western culture
The best advice for guys who want to meet Russian women is exactly same for guys who want to meet Brazilian women; you must first live in Russia to understand the spirit of the land and its people. Watching cheesy PUA videos of guys approaching women on YouTube will do more harm than good; although it might perhaps help in Times Square, you’ll seem like a confused clown in the bars and clubs of Moscow.
Besides, living in Russia and interacting with Russian women is the greatest antidote to a Western man who’s confused about his role in the world as a result of being brought up in a culture that’s void of any meaning, cause or purpose.
The richness of Russian culture will fortify your psyche and inject into your life rich meaning and purpose. The more you spend time with Russian women, the less you’ll ever take seriously another 37-year-old American girl, who proclaims that she’s “too picky” or “still wants to play the field,” the same one who’s debating whether to freeze her ovaries so that she can have children when she’s 65, while she’s attending house parties wearing tube socks.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that there are no shortcuts. Succeeding with Russian women is a direct consequence of succeeding in Russia as a whole. It means digging deep and understanding the history, the culture and why are the things the way they are. It means being tough and reaching the absolute pinnacle of masculinity.
Above all, one thing is definitely guaranteed: you’ll interact with women who possess an unmatched combination of beauty, femininity, sexiness, sophistication, determination, and toughness—a lethal cocktail that I simply haven’t found anywhere else in the world, and, like a drug addict, always tend to reach for a new injection whenever sufficient time has passed between infusions.
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