Filipino Women: The Ultimate Guide


As the popular saying goes, if you can’t get laid in Brazil, you should just pack your bag and go home. But in all honesty, Brazil isn’t the easiest country to get laid in: the Philippines takes that prize.

Over the years, I’ve had numerous friends visit the Philippines and proclaim that it’s the absolute easiest country in the world to get laid in. (Of course, they’re referring to the more developed second-world countries; many of them haven’t been to places like Africa so they can’t really compare those countries to the Philippines.)

The following is a guest article by my good friend Frank, an Australian guy whom I met in Bogota, Colombia. Frank has been a regular visitor to the Philippines for many years and wanted to share his experience.

Take it away, Frank.


Being from Australia, I’ve made over 15 trips over to the Philippines over the years and had heaps of fun every single time. Philippines is also one of my “pit stops” whenever I’m flying back home from Europe. Instead of returning straight to Australia, I usually hop over to the Philippines for about a week or two to enjoy the sun and the ladies. It never disappoints.

As James mentioned above, if you can’t get laid in the Philippines, then, sorry to say, but there’s probably something wrong with you. Not only are the women much easier than those in Latin America or Eastern Europe (Ukraine is tricky), but as a foreigner (especially if you’re a white guy), you’ll enjoy a certain rockstar status in the Philippines that you simply won’t experience anywhere else.

The women

I spent four years living in Bogota, Colombia, so I speak Spanish and understand Latin women. I would say that Filipino women are very similar to Latin women with a certain Asian twist; but, among all the other Asian women, they’re the closest to Latin women in both looks and mentality.

That means a couple of things. First, they’re very submissive and caring of a man that they’re with. Second, they can be very manipulative, so if you give them an inch, they will have no qualms about grabbing the entire mile. 

One of my friends back in London views Filipino women as a mixture of every single explorer and their crew who landed in the Philippines and banged the locals. First, it was the Spaniards. Then, it was the Americans. Thus, the majority of them have a Spanish last name such as Garcia, Santos, Reyes, etc.

Filipinos are both conservative and sexual. Unlike American and other Western women who love talking about sex, a Filipino woman needs to become comfortable with you before topics such as sex come up. It’s not something that you need to hint on as well; they know why you’re talking to them. 

Instead, you should approach the interaction in a conservative and pragmatic way. Be friendly and open, get to know them a bit first, set up the first date in a coffee shop or something like that.

The reality is that you don’t need to try very hard to get them to build an attraction to you. As a Westerner—and especially a white guy—you should have women have an attraction to you automatically. That’s unlike in places like the US or Australia where you have to become a dancing monkey for her to like you.

Filipinos can also be very jealous, much more jealous than Western or Latin women. When I was in a relationship, my girl would constantly go through my Facebook and Instagram and ask me questions about the people that I befriended or followed. She also didn’t take it kindly that I had a few hundred female friends on Facebook.

At that point, she wanted to know how long I’ve known them and whether we’ve been intimate or not. This is obviously something you will never hear from your American or even the more jealous Colombian girlfriend.

Meeting Filipino women during the day

In cities like New York or London, day game is normal. It’s fully acceptable to see a cute woman, creep up on her and start talking to her. But in the Philippines, this is not normal behavior. Women aren’t used to random guys running up and chatting them up. 

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t approach these women; you should still approach, but you must ready for lots of awkward silences and shock on their faces. Just keep going and go for the number, you can contact them later when they’re much more relaxed.

The advantages of day gaming are that you set yourself apart from the hordes of other love tourists who mainly rely on nightlife or online game to meet women.

Meeting Filipino women during the night

I’ll be honest with you. Meeting women at night is a mixed bag. It’s tough. The main problem is that the best venues are constantly changing and it takes a lot of energy to keep track which venues are cool and which aren’t.

The second main problem is the fact that you will run into lots of pros (professionals, hookers, prostitutes, etc) at night and it will be, at least initially, to tell the difference between who’s a pro and who’s not. (Of course, this skill will improve with time.)

The best way to enjoy nightlife is to make some local friends and have them suggest which places are the best for high-quality women. Also, making friends with local expats and love tourists would be ideal as well.

Meeting Filipino women online

Undoubtedly, one of the most popular ways to meet Filipino women is online. There’s a huge convenience factor of being able to browse profiles of eligible women right from your living room couch without needing to be in the country.

There are several ways of meeting women online. First, there’s the all-mighty Tinder that’s used by men and women around the world. The main problem with Tinder, however, is that you’ll typically find lower quality women and even some pros. In my experience, many of the women I tried to arrange a date there ended up flaking or changing the venue location at the last minute. Honestly, I’m too old for bullshit and games, so I dumped that stupid app for better ways.

A much better way to meet women would be to use a site like Filipino Cupid. The women are of higher quality and are more relationship minded than on some of the other sites, including Tinder. They are also a lot less flaky and are just generally to engage and meet.

To use Filipino Cupid, simply sign up here and begin meeting women. It’s that simple. I vouch for this site, and am absolutely certain you’ll meet quality women on there. When I initially signed up, I ended up going on 20 dates in just a week. That was an unforgettable experience!

Honestly, it’s like shooting fish in the barrel. All you have to do is show up (create a free profile) and begin messaging women. More than 90% of them will respond and engage with you. You can then follow up, grab their number and meet them for coffee.

More advice for meeting Filipino women

I want to take a moment and give you some more pointers when it comes to meeting Filipino women.

  • Don’t expect to turn a hoe into a housewife: This is true for women from all over the world and certainly applies here in the Philippines. If you’re meeting women in the bars and clubs, understand that many of them certainly wouldn’t be marriage material. Even if you’ve fallen in love with this woman, ask yourself how many other guys have also met her at the same bar or club?
  • Age difference matters: While Southeast Asian countries have a reputation where older men (50+, 60+) go in order to find a younger wife, the bigger the age difference, the greater the chance that your young wife or girlfriend would dump you for a younger man. In most of the world that difference is around 10 years; in the Philippines, I wouldn’t stretch it past 20 years of difference. Anything more and the risk of her leaving for a younger man increase. Many Filipino girls will date older men, but still have a younger lover on the side.
  • Make sure your woman really loves you: For serious relationships and even marriage, you must be absolutely sure that the women you’re with absolutely love you. You can’t simply fall head over heels for some girl you met in a bar because she smiles and whispers sweet things in your ear. You must be absolutely certain that she’s truly into you and it’s not just in your head. There are several ways to test. Ask your friends for an outsider’s opinion. Ask your girl to do something for you that requires her putting in some effort like looking some important up or getting to another part of town. (It must be something that benefits you only, not both of you.)
  • Go for a woman in your tax bracket: if you really want to make sure that a woman isn’t out to use you for your money, go for someone who makes a decent amount of money. She doesn’t need to make as much as you, the rich Westerner, but having a decent education and a decent job can definitely go a long way. 
  • Trust your gut: Ultimately, the best way to see if this girl is good for you in the long term is to trust your gut. Usually, if you feel that something doesn’t feel right, that maybe your girl has other interests and doing other things behind your back, then most likely you’re right, and those feelings deserve further investigations. Definitely don’t invest your time, money and resources into a woman who doesn’t deserve them. Use common sense.

Red flags

The usual red flags that you would encounter with women in other countries apply in the Philippines. But there’s one thing I really wanted to stress: gold diggers. 

Once you combine Asian and Latin cultures, the result is gold digging on another level. I’ve been in all kinds of situations with all kinds of different women trying very creatively to extract money from me.

Fortunately, avoiding gold diggers is fairly easy if you don’t get your feelings involved. Steer clear of women who ask for money. Period. Full stop. It doesn’t matter if her grandmother is dying back in some remote village. It doesn’t matter if she needs money for studies or anything else.

First of all, unless you really know the woman, you can’t really trust anything she says—especially if you know her for a few weeks or less. Second of all, the woman will lose all respect for you if you begin giving her your money. She will see you as a sugar daddy and sponsor instead of someone who she likes as a person. Be very wary of women who ask for money. Quality girls rarely do.

Closing thoughts

Hopefully, this article provided you with an overall picture of what Filipino women really like. In my opinion, there are some of the most loving, loyal and sexy women in Asia and can definitely make great girlfriends and wives (if that’s what you’re looking for). 

But like anywhere else, you have to be vigilant and use common sense. This is especially true in the Philippines because, as a Westerner, you will be automatically perceived to be a person of high value and will have many women (some not very desirable) after you.

Regardless of what happens, I’m fairly certain you’ll have an excellent time in the Philippines.


Andrew Koran May 9, 2019 - 4:40 pm

When you talk about the age difference, there is a big factor you left out, your physical health and fitness, it makes for a big difference. I have dealt with many women from Thailand and the Philippines and this is a decided factor. I see these older guys in both countries who are 300lbs+ dating not only younger women but women who are very petite. Women in Asia are not afraid of enjoying sex and many men that i have described above are just not in shape enough to provide that toe curling sex (if at all) these younger women desire (or deserve). Many of these guys are bringing in that Western concept that sex is not a requirement for a relationship.

CJ October 16, 2019 - 2:41 am

I agree with the above observation regarding age and health – it depends on your physical condition and of course, your libido. If you are a good looking, fit, 50-plus year old who works out in the gym four times a week and can still perform in bed so to speak, you will be hot property. Unlike the West where youthfulness is promoted and old age is scorned, Filipinos revere maturity. Culturally, older men and women are respected. The young on the other hand, are seen as immature and lacking in wisdom. As one young girl said to me; “I like “hot” older men who are smart”. In other words, older men who are healthy, in shape and have a degree of wisdom, It is so different to the West.

Talking about sex, Filipinos are very passionate and propagate like rabbits on heat. You will see children, babies and pregnant women everywhere – which kind of suggests that there is a lot of mating going on behind the scenes. Oh, but I hear you say that the high rate of child birth is due to Catholicism and hence, an aversion to using contraception. True. I cannot deny that lack of contraception is a factor. However, I never once met a women that did not adore children and every Filipino I met wanted to have a baby or babies – particularly white or mixed babies. In fact, one requested that I impregnate her so that she could have a white baby and when I put it to her that I might not return, she said it was alright because her family would help support the child – she was about 30 and still childless and she was also a professional. Of course, I never went down that road. Anyway, contraception aside, sex and propagation obviously go hand in hand. The Philippines is a traditionally a very sensual society, which is typical of other South East Asian cultures.

On the topic of culture, you might think that Filipino culture is related to mostly to Catholicism. Indeed, one stream of its culture is very Catholic and religious. However, Catholic culture runs parallel with a much older culture – one that is quite liberal. Think of two personalities: one outwardly pious and conservative and the other liberal and traditional. Indeed, the two cultures never seem to be good bed fellows (excuse the pun) and are always at odds with one another. The Catholic culture adopted by Filipinos is simply inconsistent with its older East-Asian values . Needless to say, the Philippines is the only East-Asian country that has adopted a Western European religion and it has never been a good fit. This might explain why a some Filipino’s go to church on a Sunday and commit adulkry on a Monday – to put it crudely. On the one hand, they can be very religious but on the other hand, they can be very loose or liberal.

Are Filipinos faithful to their partners? Some are and some are not. I would say it is about 50-50, like the West. However, I suspect that they are more loyal to their partners than Western couples. More specifically, my assumed 50% of unfaithful Filipinos will not necessarily leave their partners or family. Family is everything to the Filipino. For example, I dated a beautiful young Filipino girl who turned out to be married. My bad, She loved our secret rendezvous’ but had absolutely no intention of splitting up with her partner because, as she put it, “I want to keep my family together”. I met a taxi driver in Manila who told me (laughing) that married Filipino men often have a mistress and sometimes more than one. As I said above, Filipinos are very sensual and their attitude to having casual sex is quite different to what we are accustomed to in the West, particularly the Anglo-Western world and it’s undercurrent of protestant ethics.

My assumed 50% of Filipino who will not cheat are absolute gems – in my experiece. That is not to say those who do cheat are not gems too. As I said above, Filipino are very loyal to their families and even those Filipino who cheat on their partners are often very sweet and lovely. Infidelity aside (some simply can not help themselves) but they can still be quite loyal partners. However, if you are lucky enough to hitch up with a “faithful” Filipino, you have struck the jack pot. S/he will be so devoted to you, no matter what your health or economic status might end up being in the future. These Filipino, in my experience, are usually quite religious and hence, embrace those Catholic cultural values that I mention above.

Filipino women are NOT usually gold diggers. Period! Perhaps that label can be applied to Chinese women but not Filipino women. I dated quite a few while living in Cebu and not once was I hit up for money. In fact, most of them shared the cost of travel and entertainment. It really depends on whether they are working and/or educated (which is touched on above). While a lot of Filipino men and women want to escape their country, this is because the wages are low. Out of five Filipino women that I dated, only one wanted to leave the Philippines. Why? Because as they pointed out to me, they are very attached to their families. It is their families (extended families) where they derive their happiness from. Those who do go overseas usually go for work and of course, to send money back to their families.


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